AMAP en fêtes !
Description
AMAP en Fêtes c’est une multitude d’évènements locaux organisés par des groupes de citoyen·ne·s et des paysan·ne·s en AMAP partout en France ! Ces événements permettront à tou·te·s de découvrir ce qu’est une AMAP, et d’aborder de nombreux sujets en lien avec l’alimentation durable et l’agriculture paysanne.
Début de l'événement
18.09.2023
Fin de l'événement
18.10.2023
Adresse url
https://amap-en-fetes.org/
AMAP en fêtes : Conférence gesticulée "de la fourche à la fourchette... Non ! L'inverse !" - Mathieu Dalmais
Description
17H : Conférence gesticulée et débat sur la sécurité sociale de l’alimentation “De la fourche à la fourchette… Non! L’inverse!” De Mathieu Dalmais.
Animation et jeux à la ferme pour occuper les enfants!
Conférence suivie d'un bal folk !
Organisé par
- Association du Marché Bonne Mine
- Paysans de l’association
- Amap’apille D’or
- En partaneriat avec le Réseau AMAP AURA
Animation et jeux à la ferme pour occuper les enfants!
Conférence suivie d'un bal folk !
Organisé par
- Association du Marché Bonne Mine
- Paysans de l’association
- Amap’apille D’or
- En partaneriat avec le Réseau AMAP AURA
Début de l'événement
30.09.2023
Fin de l'événement
30.09.2023
Adresse
GAEC La chèvre de Milo
Code postal
6912017h
Ville
Sourcieux-les-Mines
A table !
Description
[EVENEMENT : LA TABLE DU 8ème FÊTE SES UN AN LE VENDREDI 17 NOVEMBRE !🥳]
Depuis un an, la Table du 8ème réunit des habitantes et des associations qui se mobilisent pour un accès digne à une alimentation de qualité sur leur territoire !
Le 17 novembre, on vous propose de nous rejoindre à la MESA - Maison Engagée et Solidaire de l'Alimentation pour parler d'alimentation, et goûter ensemble !
Au programme :
Nous pourrons déguster ensemble autour de différentes tables : 🎲des jeux pour enfants animés par SP actions / 📖 un échange sur le livre Quand bien manger devient un luxe avec son auteur Benjamin Sèze / 🔎 une table pour comprendre ce que sont les Tables du 8ème et la Sécurité Sociale de l'Alimentation / 🍎🥝 une table pour cuisiner !
Vous habitez dans le 8ème arrondissement de Lyon, et vous avez envie de vous mobiliser pour améliorer l'accès de toutes et tous à une alimentation de qualité ? Rejoignez-nous 🥳
Depuis un an, la Table du 8ème réunit des habitantes et des associations qui se mobilisent pour un accès digne à une alimentation de qualité sur leur territoire !
Le 17 novembre, on vous propose de nous rejoindre à la MESA - Maison Engagée et Solidaire de l'Alimentation pour parler d'alimentation, et goûter ensemble !
Au programme :
- 🍏🧇 De 16h30 à 17h30 - Goûter partagé : apportez ce que vous voulez !
Nous pourrons déguster ensemble autour de différentes tables : 🎲des jeux pour enfants animés par SP actions / 📖 un échange sur le livre Quand bien manger devient un luxe avec son auteur Benjamin Sèze / 🔎 une table pour comprendre ce que sont les Tables du 8ème et la Sécurité Sociale de l'Alimentation / 🍎🥝 une table pour cuisiner !
- De 17h30 à 18h30 : un BINGO de l'alimentation (sur inscription à l'entrée) avec des lots à gagner !
- Et ensuite, un temps d'échanges libres pour réagir !
Vous habitez dans le 8ème arrondissement de Lyon, et vous avez envie de vous mobiliser pour améliorer l'accès de toutes et tous à une alimentation de qualité ? Rejoignez-nous 🥳
Début de l'événement
17.11.2023 - 15:30
Fin de l'événement
17.11.2023 - 18:00
Adresse
83 avenue Paul Santy
Code postal
69008
Ville
Lyon
A Thought: Don’t Let Her Stop You From Getting Yours
Description
Why girls on dating websites don't know how to have a conversation
Why “we need to talk” should be happening in your relationship
Living With The One You Love
4 Ways To Be Really Rude While Instant Messaging
How Emo Updates Hurt Your Relationship
How Straightforwardness Got Him the Date
How to Keep Long-distance Relationships Alive
How to Find Love in 2025
Is Religion Important When Dating?
Keeping A Romantic Life As A Single Mom
7 Sure-Fire Ways To Get Over A Relationship
I haven’t been around/active in the whole “game blog community” much lately, but I did recently come across a blog I was not previously aware of – Danger and Play and a recent post of his, When Masturbation Leads to a Close
The summary of his post is that a girl was teasing him in the car, so he just whipped it out and finished himself off and then wound up getting the notch later that night. He describes this as an anchoring heuristic and states:
If we had just made out in her car, anything else sexual would have been anchored to the make out. Going from making out to sex is a big jump.
By masturbating in her car while playing with her tits, we had created a new anchor. We had gone farther than making out, thereby bringing us closer to boning.
My initial reaction is: this is actually a really good idea!
Now, a year ago, after coming back from London, I talked about verbal escalation and how I figured it would cut down on LMR drastically by essentially doing the same thing: creating that bridge between make-out and sex. And, honestly it probably has. I’ve only gotten LMR from 2 girls in the past year: Ghetto Club and Cute Wavy-Haired Girl, and I closed both of them the next time around anyway.
Thinking back on it: what would’ve happened differently if I’d just finished the night I got LMR from either of them? Probably nothing. I probably would’ve still boned both of them the next time around. I doubt either of them would’ve gotten weirded out, turned off, or found that odd. On the contrary, it possibly would’ve turned them on more… and I, most likely, would’ve still fucked both of them, as I did.
But, let’s think about the other LMR stories I’ve mentioned on this blog:
The Whole Situation with Crush – she LMR’d me twice and spent the night at my place both times. Neither time was I able to get much sleep, because I was horny and frustrated. What would’ve happened if I would’ve just whipped my dick out and finished myself off? She was topless – what if I even blew the load on her chest? Maybe nothing would’ve happened. Maybe I still wouldn’t have fucked her… but I least I would’ve slept better both of those nights.
And, what about the others – the friend, the hairy-vag, the second-guesser. Maybe I would’ve wound up fucking them, maybe I wouldn’t have.
But, I can’t see it hurting….. if anything it just goes to show that you don’t give a fuck and that you’re not going to let chick’s emotions and teasing stop you from getting your nut and allowing her to frustrate you.
You don’t have the power to frustrate me. I don’t need you.
How can that be a bad thing?
Another example and thought is that this can also be applied to relationship game. As an example, I had a post this past Summer that I never finished, which was tentatively titled, “The First Time She Says No.” It was going to be about how in any relationship – no matter how serious, or un-serious, at some point a chick you’re fucking will eventually hit you with the “no, not tonight” type of bullshit. It was also going to be about how exactly I handled that situation with Ghetto Club.
If I remember correctly, and admittedly last Summer was a long time ago, she “wasn’t feeling good” and may have been on her period. After months of fucking her whenever I wanted – including when she was on the rag, she was now saying “no” to me for the first time ever. Initially, it shocked me and hurt me and frustrated me, but I kept trying. ”No”. She “didn’t feel good.” She wouldn’t even give me head. She “didn’t feel like it” and her “stomach hurt.” So, rather than be frustrated and go to sleep horny and pissed off…. I did what I had to do – I titty-fucked her and came all over her breasts.
She never hit me with a “no, not tonight” ever again….
Why “we need to talk” should be happening in your relationship
Living With The One You Love
4 Ways To Be Really Rude While Instant Messaging
How Emo Updates Hurt Your Relationship
How Straightforwardness Got Him the Date
How to Keep Long-distance Relationships Alive
How to Find Love in 2025
Is Religion Important When Dating?
Keeping A Romantic Life As A Single Mom
7 Sure-Fire Ways To Get Over A Relationship
I haven’t been around/active in the whole “game blog community” much lately, but I did recently come across a blog I was not previously aware of – Danger and Play and a recent post of his, When Masturbation Leads to a Close
The summary of his post is that a girl was teasing him in the car, so he just whipped it out and finished himself off and then wound up getting the notch later that night. He describes this as an anchoring heuristic and states:
If we had just made out in her car, anything else sexual would have been anchored to the make out. Going from making out to sex is a big jump.
By masturbating in her car while playing with her tits, we had created a new anchor. We had gone farther than making out, thereby bringing us closer to boning.
My initial reaction is: this is actually a really good idea!
Now, a year ago, after coming back from London, I talked about verbal escalation and how I figured it would cut down on LMR drastically by essentially doing the same thing: creating that bridge between make-out and sex. And, honestly it probably has. I’ve only gotten LMR from 2 girls in the past year: Ghetto Club and Cute Wavy-Haired Girl, and I closed both of them the next time around anyway.
Thinking back on it: what would’ve happened differently if I’d just finished the night I got LMR from either of them? Probably nothing. I probably would’ve still boned both of them the next time around. I doubt either of them would’ve gotten weirded out, turned off, or found that odd. On the contrary, it possibly would’ve turned them on more… and I, most likely, would’ve still fucked both of them, as I did.
But, let’s think about the other LMR stories I’ve mentioned on this blog:
The Whole Situation with Crush – she LMR’d me twice and spent the night at my place both times. Neither time was I able to get much sleep, because I was horny and frustrated. What would’ve happened if I would’ve just whipped my dick out and finished myself off? She was topless – what if I even blew the load on her chest? Maybe nothing would’ve happened. Maybe I still wouldn’t have fucked her… but I least I would’ve slept better both of those nights.
And, what about the others – the friend, the hairy-vag, the second-guesser. Maybe I would’ve wound up fucking them, maybe I wouldn’t have.
But, I can’t see it hurting….. if anything it just goes to show that you don’t give a fuck and that you’re not going to let chick’s emotions and teasing stop you from getting your nut and allowing her to frustrate you.
You don’t have the power to frustrate me. I don’t need you.
How can that be a bad thing?
Another example and thought is that this can also be applied to relationship game. As an example, I had a post this past Summer that I never finished, which was tentatively titled, “The First Time She Says No.” It was going to be about how in any relationship – no matter how serious, or un-serious, at some point a chick you’re fucking will eventually hit you with the “no, not tonight” type of bullshit. It was also going to be about how exactly I handled that situation with Ghetto Club.
If I remember correctly, and admittedly last Summer was a long time ago, she “wasn’t feeling good” and may have been on her period. After months of fucking her whenever I wanted – including when she was on the rag, she was now saying “no” to me for the first time ever. Initially, it shocked me and hurt me and frustrated me, but I kept trying. ”No”. She “didn’t feel good.” She wouldn’t even give me head. She “didn’t feel like it” and her “stomach hurt.” So, rather than be frustrated and go to sleep horny and pissed off…. I did what I had to do – I titty-fucked her and came all over her breasts.
She never hit me with a “no, not tonight” ever again….
Début de l'événement
24.01.2023
Fin de l'événement
24.01.2023
ATTENTION - EVENEMENT ANNULE : Faim d'avenir ! Forum Territoire à VivreS
Description
Vous êtes engagé dans une initiative locale de solidarité alimentaire ?
Votre territoire porte un projet d'accès de tout.es à l'alimentation durable ?
Vous avez initié une expérimentation de démocratie alimentaire ?
Rejoignez-nous pour une journée d'interconnaissance, de partage d'expérience et de croisement de regard à partir des expérimentations portées à Lyon, Marseille, Montpellier et Toulouse dans le cadre du programme Territoires à VivreS.
Cette journée a pour but de partager le bilan de deux ans de coopérations multi-acteurs dans les 4 Territoires à VivreS et de les faire dialoguer avec les nombreuses initiatives citoyennes, associatives, territoriales, publiques... de démocratie alimentaire, qui se développent aujourd'hui sur le territoire national.
Inscription gratuite mais obligatoire / Programme sur le site !
Votre territoire porte un projet d'accès de tout.es à l'alimentation durable ?
Vous avez initié une expérimentation de démocratie alimentaire ?
Rejoignez-nous pour une journée d'interconnaissance, de partage d'expérience et de croisement de regard à partir des expérimentations portées à Lyon, Marseille, Montpellier et Toulouse dans le cadre du programme Territoires à VivreS.
Cette journée a pour but de partager le bilan de deux ans de coopérations multi-acteurs dans les 4 Territoires à VivreS et de les faire dialoguer avec les nombreuses initiatives citoyennes, associatives, territoriales, publiques... de démocratie alimentaire, qui se développent aujourd'hui sur le territoire national.
Inscription gratuite mais obligatoire / Programme sur le site !
Début de l'événement
23.03.2023
Fin de l'événement
23.03.2023
Adresse url
https://www.territoires-a-vivres.xyz/?Forum
Adresse
20 rue du Lac
Code postal
69003
Ville
Lyon
ATTENTION - REPORTE AU 12/10 ! Coordination n°3 de Territoires à VivreS Grand Lyon
Début de l'événement
21.09.2023
Fin de l'événement
21.09.2023
Attracting Women Naturally: Why Confidence and Humor Are Key
Description
3 Common Relationship Mistakes Women Make
Love Awkwardness and Regret: The Day I Walked Away
Friend Zoned and Heartbroken: Lessons from an Imaginary Romance
What Every Woman Should Know About a Man’s Code of Honor
How to Handle Breakups Without Questioning
Attracting Women with Confidence and Humor
Keep Your Woman Secure Without Fighting
Men Play Dating Games Too
Confused, we are.
In fact, the current state of R&B has gotten so bad that the less romance you put in your music, the more women seem to like it. Of course, by women, I mean women under the age of 21, but you get my drift.
So this got me to thinking, what the f*ck are people using nowadays to set the mood?? It seems to me like the only person making quality mood music nowadays is The-Dream and even he’s making the same song over and over. Usher went out and got old on us and made a “mature” album, which basically sounded like the Brian McKnight trying to make an album for the teen set – only the exact opposite.
Even “Trading Places” just seems…strange and not well thought out. Usher pretty much killed the mood for everything except responsibility and washing dishes.
And really, who wants to wash dishes?
Nobody, that’s who.
Now, back in the late 80s and early to mid 90s, you could run R&B albums while doing the booty-do as you attempted to get your best stanky leg going. Whoop-didy-do. Now, I’m not the kind of guy who listens to the slow jams while making the slow jam. I’d probably stop mid…well, let’s just say I’d be listening to the music a little too much. However, there’s a reason people used to make the Get Tha Drawz (actual) mixtapes with Prince’s “Adore” as the last song.
And you could always throw on some Babyface. Hell, Mr. Edmunds would make sure that he gave you some slow to mid-tempo jams for all tempos of fornicating.
You know what, you ALSO didn’t feel uber-gay buying a Babyface album. It was music with a purpose. You can’t tell me that you feel completely masculine while purchasing a Ne-Yo album.
Jodeci? Of course, they were the original R&B thugs, and later crackheads. Hell, I can’t even really think of any relevant R&B groups outside of Day 26 and with all of the b*tchassness that Que is displaying lately, I mean, as a grown man I just can’t buy that album in good conscience.
So back to the point – mood music, where does it come from nowadays? Me no know. I’m old school, I pull from the stacks of vinyl.
Love Awkwardness and Regret: The Day I Walked Away
Friend Zoned and Heartbroken: Lessons from an Imaginary Romance
What Every Woman Should Know About a Man’s Code of Honor
How to Handle Breakups Without Questioning
Attracting Women with Confidence and Humor
Keep Your Woman Secure Without Fighting
Men Play Dating Games Too
Confused, we are.
In fact, the current state of R&B has gotten so bad that the less romance you put in your music, the more women seem to like it. Of course, by women, I mean women under the age of 21, but you get my drift.
So this got me to thinking, what the f*ck are people using nowadays to set the mood?? It seems to me like the only person making quality mood music nowadays is The-Dream and even he’s making the same song over and over. Usher went out and got old on us and made a “mature” album, which basically sounded like the Brian McKnight trying to make an album for the teen set – only the exact opposite.
Even “Trading Places” just seems…strange and not well thought out. Usher pretty much killed the mood for everything except responsibility and washing dishes.
And really, who wants to wash dishes?
Nobody, that’s who.
Now, back in the late 80s and early to mid 90s, you could run R&B albums while doing the booty-do as you attempted to get your best stanky leg going. Whoop-didy-do. Now, I’m not the kind of guy who listens to the slow jams while making the slow jam. I’d probably stop mid…well, let’s just say I’d be listening to the music a little too much. However, there’s a reason people used to make the Get Tha Drawz (actual) mixtapes with Prince’s “Adore” as the last song.
And you could always throw on some Babyface. Hell, Mr. Edmunds would make sure that he gave you some slow to mid-tempo jams for all tempos of fornicating.
You know what, you ALSO didn’t feel uber-gay buying a Babyface album. It was music with a purpose. You can’t tell me that you feel completely masculine while purchasing a Ne-Yo album.
Jodeci? Of course, they were the original R&B thugs, and later crackheads. Hell, I can’t even really think of any relevant R&B groups outside of Day 26 and with all of the b*tchassness that Que is displaying lately, I mean, as a grown man I just can’t buy that album in good conscience.
So back to the point – mood music, where does it come from nowadays? Me no know. I’m old school, I pull from the stacks of vinyl.
Début de l'événement
22.10.2022
Fin de l'événement
22.10.2022
Bellebouffe Club, Saison 2 - Episode 2 : atelier cuisine aux saveurs de l'Europe
Description
Succombe à une explosion de saveurs européennes lors de notre brunch participatif, où des plats emblématiques sont revisités avec une touche locale et l'expertise culinaire d’habitant•es qui nous ont partagé leur recette.
Dès 9h45, viens partager une expérience culinaire unique avec des habitant•es passionné•es qui te guideront dans la préparation de leurs spécialités.
Inscription obligatoire 👇
Dès 9h45, viens partager une expérience culinaire unique avec des habitant•es passionné•es qui te guideront dans la préparation de leurs spécialités.
Inscription obligatoire 👇
Début de l'événement
01.06.2024 - 07:45
Fin de l'événement
01.06.2024 - 10:00
Adresse
12 rue Gabriel Péri
Code postal
69350
Ville
La Mulatière
Bellebouffe Club, Saison 2 - Episode 3 - PAC-Mania : naviguer dans le labyrinthe agricole européen
Description
Organisé par Bellebouffe !
" PLONGE AU CŒUR DES ENJEUX AGRICOLES EUROPÉENS LORS DE NOTRE TABLE RONDE CONSACRÉE À LA POLITIQUE AGRICOLE COMMUNE (PAC) EN VUE DES ÉLECTIONS EUROPÉENNES DU 9 JUIN PROCHAIN.
Mais qu'est-ce que la PAC, tu te demandes peut-être ? C'est tout simplement le cadre politique qui régit l'agriculture au sein de l'Union européenne, définissant les règles et les budgets alloués au secteur. Rejoins-nous pour comprendre comment la PAC façonne nos assiettes, nos campagnes et nos portefeuilles.
Cette discussion explorera les liens entre les politiques agricoles européennes et les compétences nationales et régionales. De la distribution des subventions aux pratiques alimentaires et aux modes de production, en passant par l'impact sur le revenu des agriculteurices, chaque aspect sera scruté à la loupe grâce à nos invité•es.
Ensemble, nous esquisserons les contours d'une PAC idéale, réfléchissant à la manière dont elle pourrait mieux servir les intérêts du vivant.
Nos invité•es:
🍎Lucile GIQUEL ingénieure agronome membre Les Greniers d'Abondance d’Abondance et Collectif Nourrir,
🍎Michel Guglielmi, professeur d’économie agricole et alimentaire à ISARA Lyon et spécialiste de la #PAC,
🍎Camille Cosson, paysanne maraîchère cofondatrice de la ferme coopérative Le Courtil de Quincieux
La buvette du Faitout sera ouverte si tu souhaites siroter une boisson pendant la soirée. Tu peux amener de quoi grignoter pour partager avec les autres personnes participantes 😋.
Inscription recommandée, places limitées 👇""
" PLONGE AU CŒUR DES ENJEUX AGRICOLES EUROPÉENS LORS DE NOTRE TABLE RONDE CONSACRÉE À LA POLITIQUE AGRICOLE COMMUNE (PAC) EN VUE DES ÉLECTIONS EUROPÉENNES DU 9 JUIN PROCHAIN.
Mais qu'est-ce que la PAC, tu te demandes peut-être ? C'est tout simplement le cadre politique qui régit l'agriculture au sein de l'Union européenne, définissant les règles et les budgets alloués au secteur. Rejoins-nous pour comprendre comment la PAC façonne nos assiettes, nos campagnes et nos portefeuilles.
Cette discussion explorera les liens entre les politiques agricoles européennes et les compétences nationales et régionales. De la distribution des subventions aux pratiques alimentaires et aux modes de production, en passant par l'impact sur le revenu des agriculteurices, chaque aspect sera scruté à la loupe grâce à nos invité•es.
Ensemble, nous esquisserons les contours d'une PAC idéale, réfléchissant à la manière dont elle pourrait mieux servir les intérêts du vivant.
Nos invité•es:
🍎Lucile GIQUEL ingénieure agronome membre Les Greniers d'Abondance d’Abondance et Collectif Nourrir,
🍎Michel Guglielmi, professeur d’économie agricole et alimentaire à ISARA Lyon et spécialiste de la #PAC,
🍎Camille Cosson, paysanne maraîchère cofondatrice de la ferme coopérative Le Courtil de Quincieux
La buvette du Faitout sera ouverte si tu souhaites siroter une boisson pendant la soirée. Tu peux amener de quoi grignoter pour partager avec les autres personnes participantes 😋.
Inscription recommandée, places limitées 👇""
Début de l'événement
05.06.2024 - 17:00
Fin de l'événement
05.06.2024 - 18:30
Adresse
12 rue Gabriel Péri
Code postal
69350
Ville
La Mulatière
Beyond the Profile: How to Recognize Manipulation in Online Dating Conversations
Description
5 Signs That You Just Might Have To Marry Her Ass
Things You Should Never Say To a Black Woman.
Male Solutions To Common Women Problems
Things I Just Don’t Get About Women
Valentine’s Day Date Options That Won’t Cost You A Fortune
Things That You Just Shouldn’t Do While Dating
Valentine’s Day Alternatives for Those Without Plans Or People To Plan Stuff With
Why Your “Number” Matters So Much Yo Us
They Are Cheating On You With A Friend Of Yours
Reply
305keisha brown July 18, 2011 at 1:00 pm
cheekie stole my idea..
i was gonna start dishing out vsb compliments…but…
meh. im lazy.
Reply
306Cheekie July 18, 2011 at 2:00 pm
LOL, I was finna do that too, but I already did it way back when. Double Jeopardy.
Reply
307Ivy St. July 18, 2011 at 8:26 am
Just so you know Sir Champ, those different oils and lotions are for different parts of the body. You don’t use the same lotion for your face that you use for the rest of your body. Some areas require more moisture like feet, elbows and knees.
I agree with the men shutting down after compliments. I sometimes compliment men that I don’t know or have had few interactions with just to see them fumble. lol! I complimented my bf good friend’s haircut just last week. He didn’t even know what to say afterwards. He started telling me useless info.
Reply
308Cheekie July 18, 2011 at 8:35 am
“He didn’t even know what to say afterwards. He started telling me useless info.”
OK, this cracked me up. I imagined a guy spouting off random Wikipedia knowledge about a honey badger.
Reply
309SmartFoxGirl July 18, 2011 at 11:33 am
I’ve tried to explain the lotion game to men and they just don’t get it. sigh It’s a science.
Reply
310Panama Jackson July 18, 2011 at 11:43 am
Things You Should Never Say To a Black Woman.
Male Solutions To Common Women Problems
Things I Just Don’t Get About Women
Valentine’s Day Date Options That Won’t Cost You A Fortune
Things That You Just Shouldn’t Do While Dating
Valentine’s Day Alternatives for Those Without Plans Or People To Plan Stuff With
Why Your “Number” Matters So Much Yo Us
They Are Cheating On You With A Friend Of Yours
Reply
305keisha brown July 18, 2011 at 1:00 pm
cheekie stole my idea..
i was gonna start dishing out vsb compliments…but…
meh. im lazy.
Reply
306Cheekie July 18, 2011 at 2:00 pm
LOL, I was finna do that too, but I already did it way back when. Double Jeopardy.
Reply
307Ivy St. July 18, 2011 at 8:26 am
Just so you know Sir Champ, those different oils and lotions are for different parts of the body. You don’t use the same lotion for your face that you use for the rest of your body. Some areas require more moisture like feet, elbows and knees.
I agree with the men shutting down after compliments. I sometimes compliment men that I don’t know or have had few interactions with just to see them fumble. lol! I complimented my bf good friend’s haircut just last week. He didn’t even know what to say afterwards. He started telling me useless info.
Reply
308Cheekie July 18, 2011 at 8:35 am
“He didn’t even know what to say afterwards. He started telling me useless info.”
OK, this cracked me up. I imagined a guy spouting off random Wikipedia knowledge about a honey badger.
Reply
309SmartFoxGirl July 18, 2011 at 11:33 am
I’ve tried to explain the lotion game to men and they just don’t get it. sigh It’s a science.
Reply
310Panama Jackson July 18, 2011 at 11:43 am
Début de l'événement
08.10.2022
Fin de l'événement
08.10.2022
Breaking Up Right: Essential Do's and Don'ts
Description
Why Sharing Passwords With Your Partner
How To Tell If A Man Is Interested In You
Do’s and Don’ts for a Successful Break-Up
The Dating With EXpectation Factor
Dating Real Test Is in the Wallet
How To Know That Your Relationship Is In Trouble
When Potential Becomes a Relationship Killer
The Unspoken Truths About Blame in Relationships
How Technology is Killing the Romance
Decades ago I had a professor who said that just because somebody else thought of it before you does not mean that it’s not original with you, because all intelligent people will have many of the same original thoughts during their lives. Twenty-five years ago Rich Doyle was raging that all the newbies in the MRM were writing and saying the same things that he and his contemporaries had written and said 20 years before that. I was reminded of this while reading material here, on AVfM, and especially while listening to Karen Straughan’s early videos, because I was having the same reaction: “Hey, that’s the same thing I said 20-some odd years ago!” And then I had to laugh. Sometimes we get lucky and are able to stand on the shoulders who came before us, but often, especially when dealing with unwanted truth, we have to figure these things out for ourselves. If Rich Doyle was saying such things in the late sixties, or George Gilder’s father was saying them in the forties, does that mean that before you can speak or write you have to go back and read all that was written and said before so that you don’t tread on ground made holy by the copywritten thoughts of those who have gone before? I reject that. Especially in a cultural war against something so crass as feminism. We need all the original thinkers we can get. Which is why I am so often impressed and delighted by your articles, Bill.
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The Trend July 29, 2014 at 09:55
OT- it is to laugh…
http://www.chicagonow.com/high-gloss-and-sauce/2014/07/stop-with-the-ugly-feminist-trope-feminist-are-hot-pics/#image/1
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Mickey T July 29, 2014 at 17:29
Sorry to but in with an off topic comment, but there has been some serious talk lately about Elizabeth Warren, US Senator (D-MA) and Feminist, running for President. Seems Hillary is starting to look like she’s carrying a bit much baggage.
We should keep an eye on this one.
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geographybeefinalisthimself July 30, 2014 at 15:43
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How To Tell If A Man Is Interested In You
Do’s and Don’ts for a Successful Break-Up
The Dating With EXpectation Factor
Dating Real Test Is in the Wallet
How To Know That Your Relationship Is In Trouble
When Potential Becomes a Relationship Killer
The Unspoken Truths About Blame in Relationships
How Technology is Killing the Romance
Decades ago I had a professor who said that just because somebody else thought of it before you does not mean that it’s not original with you, because all intelligent people will have many of the same original thoughts during their lives. Twenty-five years ago Rich Doyle was raging that all the newbies in the MRM were writing and saying the same things that he and his contemporaries had written and said 20 years before that. I was reminded of this while reading material here, on AVfM, and especially while listening to Karen Straughan’s early videos, because I was having the same reaction: “Hey, that’s the same thing I said 20-some odd years ago!” And then I had to laugh. Sometimes we get lucky and are able to stand on the shoulders who came before us, but often, especially when dealing with unwanted truth, we have to figure these things out for ourselves. If Rich Doyle was saying such things in the late sixties, or George Gilder’s father was saying them in the forties, does that mean that before you can speak or write you have to go back and read all that was written and said before so that you don’t tread on ground made holy by the copywritten thoughts of those who have gone before? I reject that. Especially in a cultural war against something so crass as feminism. We need all the original thinkers we can get. Which is why I am so often impressed and delighted by your articles, Bill.
Like or Dislike: Thumb up 13 Thumb down 0
The Trend July 29, 2014 at 09:55
OT- it is to laugh…
http://www.chicagonow.com/high-gloss-and-sauce/2014/07/stop-with-the-ugly-feminist-trope-feminist-are-hot-pics/#image/1
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Mickey T July 29, 2014 at 17:29
Sorry to but in with an off topic comment, but there has been some serious talk lately about Elizabeth Warren, US Senator (D-MA) and Feminist, running for President. Seems Hillary is starting to look like she’s carrying a bit much baggage.
We should keep an eye on this one.
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geographybeefinalisthimself July 30, 2014 at 15:43
OT
Début de l'événement
08.11.2023
Fin de l'événement
08.11.2023
Caisse de l'alimentation de Lyon 8e : appel à de nouveaux expérimentateurs !
Description
Après 6 mois d’expérimentation, la caisse de l’alimentation de Lyon 8e portée par Territoires à VivreS Grand Lyon est à la recherche de nouveaux foyers pour rejoindre l’aventure !
👉Vous connaissez des personnes habitant le 8e qui pourraient être intéressées pour rejoindre la caisse ?
🤝Vous ne pouvez ou ne voulez pas rejoindre l'expérimentation mais vous souhaitez la soutenir financièrement ?
La caisse de l'alimentation de Lyon 8 est une expérimentation d'un an portée par l'association Territoires à VivreS et CALIM 8, le comité des habitant·es, pour :
✊ aller vers un droit à l'alimentation pour toutes et tous
👩🌾soutenir les paysan·nes, celles et ceux qui nous nourrissent, tout en prenant soin de la planète et de la santé des personnes
🥕contribuer à construire un système alimentaire plus juste et plus durable
🤝recréer du lien et reprendre du pouvoir d'agir collectivement sur notre territoire
La caisse, c'est une initiative locale qui s'inspire d'un projet de société : celui de mettre en place une sécurité sociale de l'alimentation !
Plus concrètement, la caisse de l'alimentation de Lyon 8 c'est :
💰un budget collectif constitué par les cotisations des membres et des subventions publiques et privées (Métropole de Lyon, Fonds Mieux Manger Pour Tous, Ville de Lyon, Banque des Territoires, Fondation La Poule Rousse, Réseau Biocoop)
💭géré de manière démocratique par ses membres, notamment pour le choix des lieux conventionnés
🥕qui permet aux membres (actuellement plus de 100 foyers) de recevoir chaque mois des crédits à dépenser des lieux de distribution alimentaire, pour des produits répondant à des critères de qualité définis collectivement
Ensemble, faisons grandir le projet de sécurité sociale de l’alimentation !
- ☝️ Vous habitez le 8e arrondissement et souhaitez intégrer l’expérimentation ?
- C’est le moment ! Remplissez ce questionnaire avant le 14 mai 2025 et nous vous recontacterons.
- Nous acceptons les inscriptions dans la limite des places disponibles et d’après des critères de composition familiale, d’âge et de niveau de vie afin de rendre le panel d’expérimentateur·ices le plus représentatif possible de la population du 8e.
👉Vous connaissez des personnes habitant le 8e qui pourraient être intéressées pour rejoindre la caisse ?
- N’hésitez pas à partager l’info autour de vous ! Vous trouverez ici une affiche et là un flyer.
🤝Vous ne pouvez ou ne voulez pas rejoindre l'expérimentation mais vous souhaitez la soutenir financièrement ?
- Vous pouvez effectuer un don sur cette plateforme sécurisée.
La caisse de l'alimentation de Lyon 8 est une expérimentation d'un an portée par l'association Territoires à VivreS et CALIM 8, le comité des habitant·es, pour :
✊ aller vers un droit à l'alimentation pour toutes et tous
👩🌾soutenir les paysan·nes, celles et ceux qui nous nourrissent, tout en prenant soin de la planète et de la santé des personnes
🥕contribuer à construire un système alimentaire plus juste et plus durable
🤝recréer du lien et reprendre du pouvoir d'agir collectivement sur notre territoire
La caisse, c'est une initiative locale qui s'inspire d'un projet de société : celui de mettre en place une sécurité sociale de l'alimentation !
Plus concrètement, la caisse de l'alimentation de Lyon 8 c'est :
💰un budget collectif constitué par les cotisations des membres et des subventions publiques et privées (Métropole de Lyon, Fonds Mieux Manger Pour Tous, Ville de Lyon, Banque des Territoires, Fondation La Poule Rousse, Réseau Biocoop)
💭géré de manière démocratique par ses membres, notamment pour le choix des lieux conventionnés
🥕qui permet aux membres (actuellement plus de 100 foyers) de recevoir chaque mois des crédits à dépenser des lieux de distribution alimentaire, pour des produits répondant à des critères de qualité définis collectivement
Ensemble, faisons grandir le projet de sécurité sociale de l’alimentation !
Début de l'événement
30.04.2025
Fin de l'événement
15.05.2025
Code postal
69008
Ville
Lyon
Chipped Nail Polish is a Mood-Killer
Description
How Pocket-Dialing Can C*ckblock You
Attack of The Killer Ex
How To Deal With A Psycho Ex During The Holidays
Attention Mongers Crybabies and Dramaheads
25 Signals You're Not Ready For a Online Dating
5 Skills Every Man And Woman Should Master
Can Sex Be A Laughing Matter?
The Sh*t Women Say That Piss Off Men
Dating a Jersey Shore Fan
Dealing With Exes on Valentine’s Day
A Decent Girl For a Nice Guy
This may seem like a tedious topic to talk about, but ladies if you listen, this could quite possibly save your dating lives. If you have been reading this blog for a while, you know that I am quite a brutally honest and picky man. You may think I’m an asshole simply because I expect a lot from girls I meet on Dating Personals, but I am speaking for most men believe it or not, and at least I have the balls to say what is wrong instead of lying to you about it.
On a recent date from someone I met on an online personals site, I was instantly attracted to this stunning girl. She had a bubbly personality and she looked smoking hot. The date was so good that one thing led to another and then we had some yada yada yada action. Unfortunately, when she fell asleep on me, I pulled the sheets to see her toes were covered with chipped nail polish. I then bolted like Eddie Murphy in Boomerang.
It is quite unfortunate how so many women go around thinking their toes are invisible to men, but they’re not. Most men you will ever meet in your life either have a foot fetish or they are skeeved out by them. That’s why it is imperative to take care of your little “piggies.”
You may think it is shallow to want a woman with perfectly polished toe nails, but you would be surprised what your toes say about you. It really does show that you are not attentive to your looks. This also implies that you do not follow through keeping up maintenance and you don’t take pride in yourself. Now if you a little chip on your nails, we don’t care. However, if you are wearing a tiny patch of nail polish on your big toe for weeks, men will take this as a sign that you have poor hygiene and are too broke or lazy to get nail polish remover.
If you really want to know, I don’t really find nail polish to be a turn on. However, once it’s there it should be taken care of or removed ASAP.
Attack of The Killer Ex
How To Deal With A Psycho Ex During The Holidays
Attention Mongers Crybabies and Dramaheads
25 Signals You're Not Ready For a Online Dating
5 Skills Every Man And Woman Should Master
Can Sex Be A Laughing Matter?
The Sh*t Women Say That Piss Off Men
Dating a Jersey Shore Fan
Dealing With Exes on Valentine’s Day
A Decent Girl For a Nice Guy
This may seem like a tedious topic to talk about, but ladies if you listen, this could quite possibly save your dating lives. If you have been reading this blog for a while, you know that I am quite a brutally honest and picky man. You may think I’m an asshole simply because I expect a lot from girls I meet on Dating Personals, but I am speaking for most men believe it or not, and at least I have the balls to say what is wrong instead of lying to you about it.
On a recent date from someone I met on an online personals site, I was instantly attracted to this stunning girl. She had a bubbly personality and she looked smoking hot. The date was so good that one thing led to another and then we had some yada yada yada action. Unfortunately, when she fell asleep on me, I pulled the sheets to see her toes were covered with chipped nail polish. I then bolted like Eddie Murphy in Boomerang.
It is quite unfortunate how so many women go around thinking their toes are invisible to men, but they’re not. Most men you will ever meet in your life either have a foot fetish or they are skeeved out by them. That’s why it is imperative to take care of your little “piggies.”
You may think it is shallow to want a woman with perfectly polished toe nails, but you would be surprised what your toes say about you. It really does show that you are not attentive to your looks. This also implies that you do not follow through keeping up maintenance and you don’t take pride in yourself. Now if you a little chip on your nails, we don’t care. However, if you are wearing a tiny patch of nail polish on your big toe for weeks, men will take this as a sign that you have poor hygiene and are too broke or lazy to get nail polish remover.
If you really want to know, I don’t really find nail polish to be a turn on. However, once it’s there it should be taken care of or removed ASAP.
Début de l'événement
13.12.2022
Fin de l'événement
13.12.2022
Coordination TàV
Description
Les acteurs membres de Territoires à VivreS Grand Lyon se réunissent pour échanger ou décider sur les orientations stratégiques du projet.
Début de l'événement
28.05.2024 - 07:00
Fin de l'événement
28.05.2024 - 10:30
Adresse
5 rue Hector Berlioz
Code postal
69100
Ville
Villeurbanne
Coordination Territoires à VivreS Grand Lyon
Début de l'événement
05.03.2024 - 08:00
Fin de l'événement
04.03.2024 - 11:30
Adresse
Le Faitout
Ville
La Mulatière
Date amazing
Description
An Ode to Emily
More Than Meets The Eyes
Should I Tell Her How I Feel?
The Play Date
Dogs, Cats, and the Art of Dating: Lessons from the Cab Ride
The Colorado Connection That Could Never Be
When Love Feels Like a DIY Project: The Fixer-Upper Dilemma
Why Men Marry Some Women and Not Others
Should You Settle?
Is There Hope For The Gender Gap?
Cheating is a Cop Out
The Dance of Second Chances
When I was younger, I was overwhelmed by the feeling of attraction to a girl. I’d get shy, I’d fear rejection, and ultimately, would suffer in silence without ever making an effort to approach her. The thought of trying and failing was too much for me to bare; how could I possibly recover from something like that? The result was that I never approached girls. Ever. Not the best way to meet people.
The dates and girlfriends I had, then, were effectively girls who chose me. I somehow was made aware that they liked me and that alone led me to like them. After all, the fear of rejection was gone as I knew any move I made would be welcomed. Liking someone who already likes you is much easier but ultimately it means you’re being passive. You’re waiting for someone to come along and like you rather than going for what you want. You’re settling and that’s no way to date, let alone to live.
At some point, I decided to go for the girls that I wanted. Not in the supermarket or anything, just when I was talking with a girl and wanted to date her, I’d make a move. Sometimes the girl was receptive, other times she wasn’t. Sometimes I made a complete fool of myself in the process. And the girls who liked me didn’t automatically get dates with me, I’d evaluate them to see if I really thought they were a good fit. Saying no to that first girl was an incredibly empowering experience, it meant that I wasn’t simply settling for someone who wanted me…I was actively choosing who I decided to be involved with.
Now when people ask me what type of girl I look for, I can answer in one word: amazing. I want to be amazed by my girlfriend. I want to believe that she is the most special, incredible person I’ve met thusfar. Moreso, I want her to know that I chose her not just because I was tired of being single and wanted someone there, but because I value her as a person and for what she brings in my life.
I can say with absolute certainty that I found my last two girlfriends to be amazing. I was amazed at the things they’d been through and survived, amazed at how carefree and independent they were, and amazed at how they could make me feel. I spoke about each of them with pride to my friends, trying to hold in the ridiculous gushing. They probably all thought I was whipped, and maybe I was a little bit, but I was also in awe of the person I was with.
That’s what I want now. I don’t see any point in dating someone just to date or just for sex until someone else comes along. I want to believe that the girl I’m with is amazing. And I won’t settle for less.
More Than Meets The Eyes
Should I Tell Her How I Feel?
The Play Date
Dogs, Cats, and the Art of Dating: Lessons from the Cab Ride
The Colorado Connection That Could Never Be
When Love Feels Like a DIY Project: The Fixer-Upper Dilemma
Why Men Marry Some Women and Not Others
Should You Settle?
Is There Hope For The Gender Gap?
Cheating is a Cop Out
The Dance of Second Chances
When I was younger, I was overwhelmed by the feeling of attraction to a girl. I’d get shy, I’d fear rejection, and ultimately, would suffer in silence without ever making an effort to approach her. The thought of trying and failing was too much for me to bare; how could I possibly recover from something like that? The result was that I never approached girls. Ever. Not the best way to meet people.
The dates and girlfriends I had, then, were effectively girls who chose me. I somehow was made aware that they liked me and that alone led me to like them. After all, the fear of rejection was gone as I knew any move I made would be welcomed. Liking someone who already likes you is much easier but ultimately it means you’re being passive. You’re waiting for someone to come along and like you rather than going for what you want. You’re settling and that’s no way to date, let alone to live.
At some point, I decided to go for the girls that I wanted. Not in the supermarket or anything, just when I was talking with a girl and wanted to date her, I’d make a move. Sometimes the girl was receptive, other times she wasn’t. Sometimes I made a complete fool of myself in the process. And the girls who liked me didn’t automatically get dates with me, I’d evaluate them to see if I really thought they were a good fit. Saying no to that first girl was an incredibly empowering experience, it meant that I wasn’t simply settling for someone who wanted me…I was actively choosing who I decided to be involved with.
Now when people ask me what type of girl I look for, I can answer in one word: amazing. I want to be amazed by my girlfriend. I want to believe that she is the most special, incredible person I’ve met thusfar. Moreso, I want her to know that I chose her not just because I was tired of being single and wanted someone there, but because I value her as a person and for what she brings in my life.
I can say with absolute certainty that I found my last two girlfriends to be amazing. I was amazed at the things they’d been through and survived, amazed at how carefree and independent they were, and amazed at how they could make me feel. I spoke about each of them with pride to my friends, trying to hold in the ridiculous gushing. They probably all thought I was whipped, and maybe I was a little bit, but I was also in awe of the person I was with.
That’s what I want now. I don’t see any point in dating someone just to date or just for sex until someone else comes along. I want to believe that the girl I’m with is amazing. And I won’t settle for less.
Début de l'événement
01.01.2019
Fin de l'événement
28.12.2021
Dating: It Ain’t Easy
Description
Integrity and Character: Does your date think you have it?
Cheap Date Ideas
He’s WAY more into me than I am into him…
When Do You Change Your Relationship Status?
Have We Lost Our Storytelling Tradition?
Your Attitude Is Keeping You Single
Does Economic Downturn Signal Marriage Downturn?
Online Dating: Eharmony Style
Stop Trying To Change Me!
How To Know When Someone Is “Rebounding”
Looking for a True Partner
Why Didn’t He Call?
Friends Are Awesome!
You know, in the past few months, I’ve had a baffling number of conversations with guys and girls about how this whole dating thing is supposed to work. I know 3 people who are writing books comprised of dating stories from the trenches. And I’ve heard a few of the good ones. They are hilarious! And sad. All at the same time. I have many of my own that I’ve given to my industrious friends to use in their books. I’m keeping the best ones for my own book…I’m sure you understand.
It seems that we have departed from the simple days our parents grew up in where you fell in love with the girl next door and married her straight out of school. Or you married the guy you first slurped a milkshake with at the local hamburger joint. Where definitions, boundaries and rules were very clear and you crossed them at your own peril. Perhaps you heard different stories from your parents, but it seems that most of my friends share a similar inherited collective memory of the “good old days.”
Today…we single folk don’t seem to rest very easily in the system we have created for ourselves. Nothing is as it seems. There are no hard and fast rules. And definitions change from person to person, situation to situation.
But…there are a few things that seem to stay consistent in my own personal book of life lessons.
1. Respecting each person (including yourself) for who and where they are in that very moment is crucial to understanding the truth of what you share.
2. Games are a waste of time because what you do to “catch” someone is what you have to do to “keep” someone.
3. Judgement is best left in the hands of God.
4. Snuggling in Texas is a hot and sweaty business.
Cheap Date Ideas
He’s WAY more into me than I am into him…
When Do You Change Your Relationship Status?
Have We Lost Our Storytelling Tradition?
Your Attitude Is Keeping You Single
Does Economic Downturn Signal Marriage Downturn?
Online Dating: Eharmony Style
Stop Trying To Change Me!
How To Know When Someone Is “Rebounding”
Looking for a True Partner
Why Didn’t He Call?
Friends Are Awesome!
You know, in the past few months, I’ve had a baffling number of conversations with guys and girls about how this whole dating thing is supposed to work. I know 3 people who are writing books comprised of dating stories from the trenches. And I’ve heard a few of the good ones. They are hilarious! And sad. All at the same time. I have many of my own that I’ve given to my industrious friends to use in their books. I’m keeping the best ones for my own book…I’m sure you understand.
It seems that we have departed from the simple days our parents grew up in where you fell in love with the girl next door and married her straight out of school. Or you married the guy you first slurped a milkshake with at the local hamburger joint. Where definitions, boundaries and rules were very clear and you crossed them at your own peril. Perhaps you heard different stories from your parents, but it seems that most of my friends share a similar inherited collective memory of the “good old days.”
Today…we single folk don’t seem to rest very easily in the system we have created for ourselves. Nothing is as it seems. There are no hard and fast rules. And definitions change from person to person, situation to situation.
But…there are a few things that seem to stay consistent in my own personal book of life lessons.
1. Respecting each person (including yourself) for who and where they are in that very moment is crucial to understanding the truth of what you share.
2. Games are a waste of time because what you do to “catch” someone is what you have to do to “keep” someone.
3. Judgement is best left in the hands of God.
4. Snuggling in Texas is a hot and sweaty business.
Début de l'événement
23.04.2023
Fin de l'événement
23.04.2023
Decoding Mixed Signals: What Is This Relationship?
Description
The Road Map to Love
Patriarchy Stole My Power and Now I'm Gonna Take it Back!
Digging Up Negative Dating Patterns
The Mama's Boy Myth
The Majority of "Dating Crimes" Are In Our Heads
The Dating Chase
The Physics of Relationships
Dating While "Fat"
Men Are Hardwired to Cheat And Other Silly Stories
The Conservative Backlash Towards Attempts to Liberate Relationships
Seeking to Change Your Partner
Sluts Studs And Straightjaket Sexuality
Most people are transphobic, especially towards trans women, so it’s pretty safe to assume that when someone talks about being attracted to ‘women’ it doesn’t necessarily include trans women.
Except, saurus, that your post is couched heavily in “your” language rather than “I” language, and this
Finally, “bisexual” suggests you probably aren’t into any trans or genderqueer people who don’t identify as “man” or “woman”, because that falls outside the two-gender binary that your chosen terminology is based on.
pretty clearly implicates people who ID as bisexual in general and the word itself, rather than just your personal interpretation of the word as it applies, or not, to yourself. (If you understand that not all people who ID as bi are attracted to only cis men and women, then you have no good reason to apply that interpretation of the word to other people ID’ing as bi.)
Plus, as I pointed out upthread, this is not a post on what being bisexual means. It’s a post on avoiding specific biphobic behaviors and attitudes. So throwing out a very old biphobic trope, in language that slips into generalizations and uses ‘you’ more than ‘I’, without even engaging the OP actual topic first, comes across pretty easily as a slap at people who ID as bi, regardless of your intent.
It’s great that you ID however you feel comfortable, but your original comment goes further than that, and the last thing bi people need is to be shamed – even implicitly – for how they ID on a thread about avoiding biphobia. There are certainly ways of approaching the question of attraction and gender that don’t rehash an already very old argument.
We’ve been through the debates about the limits of existing language to describe the diversity of our community along with gender and sexual flexibility since the 80s. (Feminism has been through a similar wringer.) If you’re going to argue about the meaning of the word, you need to engage in the prior writing and work on these questions.
I assume the same as I do for bisexual people; that unless they say otherwise, they are almost definitely into cisgender people and are maybe into transgender people.
Patriarchy Stole My Power and Now I'm Gonna Take it Back!
Digging Up Negative Dating Patterns
The Mama's Boy Myth
The Majority of "Dating Crimes" Are In Our Heads
The Dating Chase
The Physics of Relationships
Dating While "Fat"
Men Are Hardwired to Cheat And Other Silly Stories
The Conservative Backlash Towards Attempts to Liberate Relationships
Seeking to Change Your Partner
Sluts Studs And Straightjaket Sexuality
Most people are transphobic, especially towards trans women, so it’s pretty safe to assume that when someone talks about being attracted to ‘women’ it doesn’t necessarily include trans women.
Except, saurus, that your post is couched heavily in “your” language rather than “I” language, and this
Finally, “bisexual” suggests you probably aren’t into any trans or genderqueer people who don’t identify as “man” or “woman”, because that falls outside the two-gender binary that your chosen terminology is based on.
pretty clearly implicates people who ID as bisexual in general and the word itself, rather than just your personal interpretation of the word as it applies, or not, to yourself. (If you understand that not all people who ID as bi are attracted to only cis men and women, then you have no good reason to apply that interpretation of the word to other people ID’ing as bi.)
Plus, as I pointed out upthread, this is not a post on what being bisexual means. It’s a post on avoiding specific biphobic behaviors and attitudes. So throwing out a very old biphobic trope, in language that slips into generalizations and uses ‘you’ more than ‘I’, without even engaging the OP actual topic first, comes across pretty easily as a slap at people who ID as bi, regardless of your intent.
It’s great that you ID however you feel comfortable, but your original comment goes further than that, and the last thing bi people need is to be shamed – even implicitly – for how they ID on a thread about avoiding biphobia. There are certainly ways of approaching the question of attraction and gender that don’t rehash an already very old argument.
We’ve been through the debates about the limits of existing language to describe the diversity of our community along with gender and sexual flexibility since the 80s. (Feminism has been through a similar wringer.) If you’re going to argue about the meaning of the word, you need to engage in the prior writing and work on these questions.
I assume the same as I do for bisexual people; that unless they say otherwise, they are almost definitely into cisgender people and are maybe into transgender people.
Début de l'événement
25.12.2022
Fin de l'événement
25.12.2022
Do Men and Women Want the Same Thing in Relationships
Description
We’re All Slutty For The Right Guy
Dear Men: This Is Why Loyalty Is So Important To Women
How Do You Avoid Dating a Liberal/Conservative?
Are You Looking For Fast Love Too?
Should You Fake an Active Lifestyle for Love?
When a Relationship Feels Like a Secret Mission
Pushing Through It
Embracing The Unexpected Path Of Singlehood
Why Is It So Hard to Believe Someone Might Stay?
Am I Crazy Or Is He A Hot Mess?
Love in the Dumps isn’t about change – for that you can consult self-help books, Dr. Phil, therapists, or mind altering drugs. Instead, we embrace flaws and laugh at the absurdities of our inescapable condition. Because as long as we have our bourbon, couches, and half our clothes, it’s really all okay. Enjoy responsibly.
Love is a Fallujan roadside bomb waiting to blow my face off.”
Sex:
You had sexual fantasies about your music teacher in 3rd grade. When it comes to masturbation you deem yourself “better than that”, and avoid it at all costs. This is the source of much inner tension.
Love:
You’ve tasted love, but only about 13% of it. This is better than others in the lower ranks, but that’s not saying much.
Happiness:
You are happiest when with your mother or any pets named after baked goods (Muffin, Cupcake, etc.)
Signature Qualities:
Loud arguments in public then storming off in the opposite direction; email snooping; Internet dating while in a relationship
Famous Royal Flushers:
Ulysses, Steve Martin, Zha Zha Gabor, Kareem Abdul Jabaar
Dear Men: This Is Why Loyalty Is So Important To Women
How Do You Avoid Dating a Liberal/Conservative?
Are You Looking For Fast Love Too?
Should You Fake an Active Lifestyle for Love?
When a Relationship Feels Like a Secret Mission
Pushing Through It
Embracing The Unexpected Path Of Singlehood
Why Is It So Hard to Believe Someone Might Stay?
Am I Crazy Or Is He A Hot Mess?
Love in the Dumps isn’t about change – for that you can consult self-help books, Dr. Phil, therapists, or mind altering drugs. Instead, we embrace flaws and laugh at the absurdities of our inescapable condition. Because as long as we have our bourbon, couches, and half our clothes, it’s really all okay. Enjoy responsibly.
Love is a Fallujan roadside bomb waiting to blow my face off.”
Sex:
You had sexual fantasies about your music teacher in 3rd grade. When it comes to masturbation you deem yourself “better than that”, and avoid it at all costs. This is the source of much inner tension.
Love:
You’ve tasted love, but only about 13% of it. This is better than others in the lower ranks, but that’s not saying much.
Happiness:
You are happiest when with your mother or any pets named after baked goods (Muffin, Cupcake, etc.)
Signature Qualities:
Loud arguments in public then storming off in the opposite direction; email snooping; Internet dating while in a relationship
Famous Royal Flushers:
Ulysses, Steve Martin, Zha Zha Gabor, Kareem Abdul Jabaar
Début de l'événement
11.03.2022
Fin de l'événement
11.03.2022
Exposition "Jeux de pistes alimentaires aux Brosses"
Description
That Awkward Moment When The Relationship Ends
Pissing On Trees and Staking Claims At The Club
Men Have Dating Difficulties Too
The May/December Romance
The Female Marriage Proposal
How to Go on Vacation With Your Boyfriend Family
The Power of Positive P*ssy Reinforcement
A Breakdown of A Belle In Brooklyn’s “Man Manual”
EXPOSITION du 28 mai au 11 juin - « Jeux de pistes alimentaires aux Brosses »
Présentation le 28 mai lors de l’Assemblée Générale de la Maison Sociale Cyprian les Brosses à 20h
Textes :
Albane Berneuil-Fouiller - Béatrice Maurines
Illustrations :
Lucas Sanhueza
Organisation :
Albane Berneuil-Fouiller - Béatrice Maurines - Raphaël Laroche
Photos, poème et slam :
Les participant.es aux jeux de pistes alimentaires, Catherine Godineau, Imane Mattar et Yasmine Chenait
Pissing On Trees and Staking Claims At The Club
Men Have Dating Difficulties Too
The May/December Romance
The Female Marriage Proposal
How to Go on Vacation With Your Boyfriend Family
The Power of Positive P*ssy Reinforcement
A Breakdown of A Belle In Brooklyn’s “Man Manual”
EXPOSITION du 28 mai au 11 juin - « Jeux de pistes alimentaires aux Brosses »
Présentation le 28 mai lors de l’Assemblée Générale de la Maison Sociale Cyprian les Brosses à 20h
Textes :
Albane Berneuil-Fouiller - Béatrice Maurines
Illustrations :
Lucas Sanhueza
Organisation :
Albane Berneuil-Fouiller - Béatrice Maurines - Raphaël Laroche
Photos, poème et slam :
Les participant.es aux jeux de pistes alimentaires, Catherine Godineau, Imane Mattar et Yasmine Chenait
Début de l'événement
28.05.2024 - 18:00
Fin de l'événement
28.05.2024
Fichier : ExpositionJeuxDePistesAlimentairesAuxBro_fichier_réalisation-expo-nsad.pdf
Télécharger
Adresse
4 rue Jules Guesde
Code postal
69100
Ville
Villeurbanne
Exposition sur la caisse de l'alimentation de Lyon 8e
Description
Venez découvrir le projet de caisse de l'alimentation de Lyon 8e, à travers une exposition retraçant le chemin parcouru par Calim8, le comité des membres de la caisse, et expliquant le fonctionnement de l'expérimentation.
Evénement dans le cadre du MIAM Festival, le festival de l'alimentation organisé par la Métropole de Lyon.
Lieu : Mairie du 8e.
Horaires :
- Lundi, mercredi et vendredi : de 8h45 à 17h
- Mardi : de 10h à 17h
- Jeudi : de 12h15 à 19h45
- Samedi matin de 8h45 à 12h
Vernissage le jeudi 17 octobre de 18h à 19h30.
Evénement dans le cadre du MIAM Festival, le festival de l'alimentation organisé par la Métropole de Lyon.
Lieu : Mairie du 8e.
Horaires :
- Lundi, mercredi et vendredi : de 8h45 à 17h
- Mardi : de 10h à 17h
- Jeudi : de 12h15 à 19h45
- Samedi matin de 8h45 à 12h
Vernissage le jeudi 17 octobre de 18h à 19h30.
Début de l'événement
14.10.2024
Fin de l'événement
27.10.2024
Adresse
12 avenue Jean Mermoz
Code postal
69008
Ville
Lyon
Faim d'Avenir !
Description
Journée nationale de Territoires à VivreS :
- Pièce de théâtre "Les maux de la faim" d'ATD Quart Monde.
- Table ronde : "Qu'est-ce qu'un Territoires à VivreS ?"
- "Territoires à VivreS, le film" - projection/débat
- Pièce de théâtre "Les maux de la faim" d'ATD Quart Monde.
- Table ronde : "Qu'est-ce qu'un Territoires à VivreS ?"
- "Territoires à VivreS, le film" - projection/débat
Début de l'événement
01.06.2022 - 14:00
Fin de l'événement
01.06.2022 - 19:30
Code postal
93500
Ville
Pantin
Faim d'avenir ! Forum citoyen pour un droit à l'alimentation
Description
Vous êtes engagé dans une initiative locale de solidarité alimentaire ?
Votre territoire porte un projet d'accès de tout.es à l'alimentation durable ?
Vous avez initié une expérimentation de démocratie alimentaire ?
Cette journée a pour but de partager le bilan de deux ans de coopérations multi-acteurs dans les 4 Territoires à VivreS et de les faire dialoguer avec les nombreuses initiatives (citoyennes, associatives, territoriales, publiques...) de démocratie alimentaire, qui se développent aujourd'hui sur le territoire national.
-- Programme et inscriptions à venir --
Votre territoire porte un projet d'accès de tout.es à l'alimentation durable ?
Vous avez initié une expérimentation de démocratie alimentaire ?
Cette journée a pour but de partager le bilan de deux ans de coopérations multi-acteurs dans les 4 Territoires à VivreS et de les faire dialoguer avec les nombreuses initiatives (citoyennes, associatives, territoriales, publiques...) de démocratie alimentaire, qui se développent aujourd'hui sur le territoire national.
-- Programme et inscriptions à venir --
Début de l'événement
07.03.2023
Fin de l'événement
07.03.2023
Adresse url
https://www.territoires-a-vivres.xyz/?Forum
Adresse
Cité Internationale de la Gastronomie
Code postal
69002
Ville
LYON
Filière accessible - L'accessibilité en question
Description
Comment évaluer les niveaux de précarité des publics de chaque structure ? A quel taux les produits doivent-ils être subventionnés pour devenir "accessible" ? Comment assurer un suivi ?
Participants : VRAC, GESRA, Escales Solidaires, ARDAB, ISARA, PATLY
Participants : VRAC, GESRA, Escales Solidaires, ARDAB, ISARA, PATLY
Début de l'événement
07.06.2022 - 09:30
Fin de l'événement
07.06.2022 - 12:00
Code postal
69000
Ville
Lyon
Filière accessible - Produits locaux, rémunérateurs et de qualité, c'est à dire ?
Description
De quels types de produits voulons-nous nous approvisionner ensemble ? Comment consolider un cadre de travail commun déterminant ce que les structures entendent par un produit "local", "de qualité" et "rémunérateur pour le producteur".
Participants : VRAC, GESRA, Escales Solidaires, ARDAB, ISARA, PATLY
Participants : VRAC, GESRA, Escales Solidaires, ARDAB, ISARA, PATLY
Début de l'événement
06.05.2022 - 09:30
Fin de l'événement
06.05.2022 - 12:00
Adresse
23 Rue Jean Baldassini,
Code postal
69007
Ville
Lyon
Forum Territoire à VivreS - "Faim d'avenir"
Description
Dating Double Standards…And How They All Even Out
No Baby No! 7 Ways to Stall A Breakup
How To Break Up With Someone With Style And Grace
Five Things Guys Can Be Pretty Gay About
Four Reasons Why “Funny” Girls Finish Last
The Smart Guide To 21st Century Chivalry
What Friendship Means To Me
Girl! Forget a Sponsor. Date A Handyman!
Things I Learned While in NYC Dating Live Event
No Baby No! 7 Ways to Stall A Breakup
How To Break Up With Someone With Style And Grace
Five Things Guys Can Be Pretty Gay About
Four Reasons Why “Funny” Girls Finish Last
The Smart Guide To 21st Century Chivalry
What Friendship Means To Me
Girl! Forget a Sponsor. Date A Handyman!
Things I Learned While in NYC Dating Live Event
Début de l'événement
20.06.2023 - 07:30
Fin de l'événement
20.06.2023 - 15:00
Adresse url
https://www.territoires-a-vivres.xyz/?Forum
Adresse
2, place Pierre Viala
Code postal
34000
Ville
Montpellier
Framasoft
Site web
https://framasoft.org/fr/
Type de ressource
- Partenaire ressource
Description
Framasoft, c’est une association d’éducation populaire, un groupe d’ami·es convaincu·es qu’un monde numérique émancipateur est possible, persuadé·es qu’il adviendra grâce à des actions concrètes sur le terrain et en ligne avec vous et pour vous !
From Match to Message: How Feminism Shapes Online Dating Culture
Description
Five Subtle Signs That He Ain't Bad
Do You Expect Your Partner To Cheat?
10 Reasons Why You Will Not Get A Call Back
Why I Never Will Date A White Woman
Tiger Woods Elin Nordegren And Golfgate
The Five Worst Times To Approach A Black Woman
Why Won’T You Let Me Be Great?
What men usually hear when women are talking to us
Bedroom Tactics Gone Bad: 5 Things You Really Should Ask About.
Hello…well I’ve been with this girl..she just got out of a Marriage I march..we met in July..we caught eyes and became friends…good friends.I sleep over and we do things as couples but we are not together…we tell each other that we love one another and we care for each other…she even took me to her parents house..and they all love me..I asked her be my girl?and she said not yet..she still trying to heal..which I understand and that’s why I’m still here for her..her ex did her really did her bad…and sometimes I think she treats me like I’m the bad guy here.I’ve been by her side since July..now its close to Xmas…should I stay and hope she’s done healing and can finally be with me,or should I leave…I don’t want too because I love her so much..But is it worth the wait???
MidoriLei Says:
December 5th, 2011 at 7:36 am
jr. s,
The right girl is worth the wait. It’s up to you to decide if she is the right girl. I might ask her “I’ll wait for you… but give me hope that my waiting won’t be in vain.” And then I would see her reaction. If she gives you any encouragement, then you have hope. If not, I would move on.
Also, since you only gave yourself 4 months between your divorce and your new pursuit, have you looked into what went wrong in your past relationship? What you need to change? How you contributed to it’s downfall? Are you over your past hurts? You don’t want to be moving into a new relationship so quickly if you haven’t dealt with what happened in your past. You don’t want to repeat the same mistakes on a new woman.
Good luck.
billy Says:
December 6th, 2011 at 7:26 pm
well my girlfriend and me have been dating for a little over two months and shes older than me. im only 16 and shes 18 and getting ready to graduate this year. i know its only one year she has to wait for me, but shes worried about the strength of our relationship when were away from eachoth
for me, im terrified to lose her. sometimes, when we hang out at school, i feel somewhat like a child to her. and i really want to be the man she deserves.
i have a job and i can take her out on dates on weekends and me and her family get along great. but we have a very little to talk about. i love listening to her when she does have something to talk about, but im not very good on elaborating on her topics.
we’ve been very good friends for two years and we both knew we liked eachother, but one day she came over to my house to watch a movie and we decided to take things to the next level and have been together ever since.
Do You Expect Your Partner To Cheat?
10 Reasons Why You Will Not Get A Call Back
Why I Never Will Date A White Woman
Tiger Woods Elin Nordegren And Golfgate
The Five Worst Times To Approach A Black Woman
Why Won’T You Let Me Be Great?
What men usually hear when women are talking to us
Bedroom Tactics Gone Bad: 5 Things You Really Should Ask About.
Hello…well I’ve been with this girl..she just got out of a Marriage I march..we met in July..we caught eyes and became friends…good friends.I sleep over and we do things as couples but we are not together…we tell each other that we love one another and we care for each other…she even took me to her parents house..and they all love me..I asked her be my girl?and she said not yet..she still trying to heal..which I understand and that’s why I’m still here for her..her ex did her really did her bad…and sometimes I think she treats me like I’m the bad guy here.I’ve been by her side since July..now its close to Xmas…should I stay and hope she’s done healing and can finally be with me,or should I leave…I don’t want too because I love her so much..But is it worth the wait???
MidoriLei Says:
December 5th, 2011 at 7:36 am
jr. s,
The right girl is worth the wait. It’s up to you to decide if she is the right girl. I might ask her “I’ll wait for you… but give me hope that my waiting won’t be in vain.” And then I would see her reaction. If she gives you any encouragement, then you have hope. If not, I would move on.
Also, since you only gave yourself 4 months between your divorce and your new pursuit, have you looked into what went wrong in your past relationship? What you need to change? How you contributed to it’s downfall? Are you over your past hurts? You don’t want to be moving into a new relationship so quickly if you haven’t dealt with what happened in your past. You don’t want to repeat the same mistakes on a new woman.
Good luck.
billy Says:
December 6th, 2011 at 7:26 pm
well my girlfriend and me have been dating for a little over two months and shes older than me. im only 16 and shes 18 and getting ready to graduate this year. i know its only one year she has to wait for me, but shes worried about the strength of our relationship when were away from eachoth
for me, im terrified to lose her. sometimes, when we hang out at school, i feel somewhat like a child to her. and i really want to be the man she deserves.
i have a job and i can take her out on dates on weekends and me and her family get along great. but we have a very little to talk about. i love listening to her when she does have something to talk about, but im not very good on elaborating on her topics.
we’ve been very good friends for two years and we both knew we liked eachother, but one day she came over to my house to watch a movie and we decided to take things to the next level and have been together ever since.
Début de l'événement
15.10.2022
Fin de l'événement
15.10.2022
FWB: A Shortcut to Heartbreak
Description
Ladies We Need Answers
The Difference Between Girls and Women
On Dating: Experienced or Just Plain Damaged?
A Chosen Season: On Being Single in My Late 20s
The Painful Friends With Benefits Cycle
10 Reasons Why You Might Still Be Single
The Things Women Say That Piss Off Men
Challenges Of A Male Relationship Blogger
Why Relationships Commitment Scares Me
The Dumbest Arguments Couples Have
Don’t Tell Me Where To Be Romantic!
Tickle Me Cheater
Ferdinand, as far as I’m aware, does not. If you’re wondering, I don’t see him as a guru of teh fairer sex either. I read his blog primarily to be directed to other blogs.
Epoxy is a “higher-status man” than most men. “The Rules”, for the most part, will not work on him. That said, I don’t think anyone here was advocating “The Rules” as a bible for female behavior. In fact, I think people have specifically argued against that. That said, things are relative. While it’s true that if, in the first week you make it so that your schedule is so busy that you can’t see the guy, the guy will probably think you’re not interested and move on, it’s also true that if you hang around him like an obsessive puppy, he’ll find that unattractive. Whether you are attractive or not. Period. I don’t see how this is debatable.
As I said before.
Things Epoxy says. ARE NOT. Things that apply to all men. They are not even things that apply to most men. Or 20% of men. Or 1% of men. Epoxy is different in many ways, and it is not just his super-alphadom that makes these rules unlikely to apply to him. It’s a mix of other things, including his intelligence and his ADD and his past experience and all that good stuff. He can say these things because, in his mind, they are true. THEY ARE NOT TRUE FOR THE REST OF THE WORLD. That’s what I say to this.
And guess what? Epoxy knows this, but he doesn’t really care. I tell him this, and he doesn’t disagree — he just laughs. He’s got better things to do than sit around arguing on the internet, though, which is perhaps why you don’t see this side of him. But SRSLY.
The Fifth Horseman PERMALINK
October 21, 2009 4:01 pm
LILgrl,
I have given away too much about my personal identity in this ‘sphere’ including my blog address (which people who know me know is my blog). I am a somewhat well-known person, which has downsides too.
So you will have to understand why I can’t discuss too many specific women here, and you will have to rely on my deep writings about Game mechanics.
The Difference Between Girls and Women
On Dating: Experienced or Just Plain Damaged?
A Chosen Season: On Being Single in My Late 20s
The Painful Friends With Benefits Cycle
10 Reasons Why You Might Still Be Single
The Things Women Say That Piss Off Men
Challenges Of A Male Relationship Blogger
Why Relationships Commitment Scares Me
The Dumbest Arguments Couples Have
Don’t Tell Me Where To Be Romantic!
Tickle Me Cheater
Ferdinand, as far as I’m aware, does not. If you’re wondering, I don’t see him as a guru of teh fairer sex either. I read his blog primarily to be directed to other blogs.
Epoxy is a “higher-status man” than most men. “The Rules”, for the most part, will not work on him. That said, I don’t think anyone here was advocating “The Rules” as a bible for female behavior. In fact, I think people have specifically argued against that. That said, things are relative. While it’s true that if, in the first week you make it so that your schedule is so busy that you can’t see the guy, the guy will probably think you’re not interested and move on, it’s also true that if you hang around him like an obsessive puppy, he’ll find that unattractive. Whether you are attractive or not. Period. I don’t see how this is debatable.
As I said before.
Things Epoxy says. ARE NOT. Things that apply to all men. They are not even things that apply to most men. Or 20% of men. Or 1% of men. Epoxy is different in many ways, and it is not just his super-alphadom that makes these rules unlikely to apply to him. It’s a mix of other things, including his intelligence and his ADD and his past experience and all that good stuff. He can say these things because, in his mind, they are true. THEY ARE NOT TRUE FOR THE REST OF THE WORLD. That’s what I say to this.
And guess what? Epoxy knows this, but he doesn’t really care. I tell him this, and he doesn’t disagree — he just laughs. He’s got better things to do than sit around arguing on the internet, though, which is perhaps why you don’t see this side of him. But SRSLY.
The Fifth Horseman PERMALINK
October 21, 2009 4:01 pm
LILgrl,
I have given away too much about my personal identity in this ‘sphere’ including my blog address (which people who know me know is my blog). I am a somewhat well-known person, which has downsides too.
So you will have to understand why I can’t discuss too many specific women here, and you will have to rely on my deep writings about Game mechanics.
Début de l'événement
12.12.2021
Fin de l'événement
12.12.2021
Guys, you’re plenty romantic, we ladies need to lighten up
Description
Why Is Self-Esteem Important For Dating?
Top Free and Paid Online Dating Websites
Seizing New Dating Opportunities
The Perfect Movie Date at Home
Single Men Don’t Have Body Image Issues
What Makes a Good Man or a Good Woman?
Equating ‘Sexuality’ with Male Sexuality
Why in the World Would I Ever Get Married?
How Jealousy Can Work For Us
The Catalano Generation is Revolutionizing Dating
Mexico City's Short-Term Marriage Proposal
Even in Relationship You’re All Alone
I Lack the Commitment Gene
Stop Crying and Be a Man
Men, Marrie at Dirty in Public thinks you’re doing fine in the romance department and we ladies just need to dial down our criticism and flights of romantic fancy. She’s tired of the drone of magazines and books with “titles like: “How men screw up romance”, “How to make your guy more romantic”, “Men Suck at Romance.” As if men are unfeeling, unexpressive shells….”
She’s over the flowers and the taskmaster requests for gifts and advocates that ladies stop comparing their romances and start learning to enjoy the subtle and quiet ways a man builds intimacy.
Maybe if women expanded their current concepts of romance to include more authentic deeds [then] more women would appreciate the men in their lives for the romantics the really are. In truth a man giving his undivided attention, sharing his thoughts, feelings and experiences, doing the unexpected are all attempts to be romantic. [Although] these may not be recognized by women as romantic overtures, does not mean that they aren’t.
Ladies, do you battle with your men over made-for-TV romance? Men, do you wish you received more credit for the little things?
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What Would Happen If We Didn’t “Date”? (3)
Are Women Better Lovers Than Men? (2)
Top Free and Paid Online Dating Websites
Seizing New Dating Opportunities
The Perfect Movie Date at Home
Single Men Don’t Have Body Image Issues
What Makes a Good Man or a Good Woman?
Equating ‘Sexuality’ with Male Sexuality
Why in the World Would I Ever Get Married?
How Jealousy Can Work For Us
The Catalano Generation is Revolutionizing Dating
Mexico City's Short-Term Marriage Proposal
Even in Relationship You’re All Alone
I Lack the Commitment Gene
Stop Crying and Be a Man
Men, Marrie at Dirty in Public thinks you’re doing fine in the romance department and we ladies just need to dial down our criticism and flights of romantic fancy. She’s tired of the drone of magazines and books with “titles like: “How men screw up romance”, “How to make your guy more romantic”, “Men Suck at Romance.” As if men are unfeeling, unexpressive shells….”
She’s over the flowers and the taskmaster requests for gifts and advocates that ladies stop comparing their romances and start learning to enjoy the subtle and quiet ways a man builds intimacy.
Maybe if women expanded their current concepts of romance to include more authentic deeds [then] more women would appreciate the men in their lives for the romantics the really are. In truth a man giving his undivided attention, sharing his thoughts, feelings and experiences, doing the unexpected are all attempts to be romantic. [Although] these may not be recognized by women as romantic overtures, does not mean that they aren’t.
Ladies, do you battle with your men over made-for-TV romance? Men, do you wish you received more credit for the little things?
Related Posts
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What Would Happen If We Didn’t “Date”? (3)
Are Women Better Lovers Than Men? (2)
Début de l'événement
10.01.2023
Fin de l'événement
10.01.2023
How to Dodge the Most Common Dating Mistakes
Description
Why I Keep Falling for Nurses and Teachers
Holiday Gifts to Avoid While Dating
Avoiding Dating Pitfalls with These 8 Mental Trick
A Look at Hollywood’s Relationship with Black Pain
Wild Cherry Flags
The Perils of Past Relationships
Jealousy: Wasted Energy or Relationship Fuel?
Master the Science of Getting Dumped with Style!
This is interesting advice.. while these questions are very good and useful, i would add that the timing of the questions is important also.. You don’t wanna scare the other party away..
Laura Says:
February 20th, 2011 at 5:12 pm
To someone who said that most of those question could’nt be answered I can say that maybe that was the wrong person you asked all that then :) everyone who has some common sence and thinks a little bit could answer that. And if he/she cant do that, then well…. in that case I think I would have my answer if that person is worth my attention :)
MidoriLei Says:
February 22nd, 2011 at 6:47 pm
Laura, so true. The kind of person who is willing to invest some thought and provide you with answers shows that he is more serious and thinking more long term than the person who can’t answer them or doesn’t want to. It’s not that they can’t be answered. It’s that some people aren’t willing to answer them. It also shows that the person actually cares about relationships and how to make them work.
Rahul Says:
March 8th, 2011 at 7:59 pm
So J prom is coming up and I really want to ask this girl. Shes been a friend for the last 4 years, but shes been going out with one of my friends for the last 1-1.5ish, its just that they have broken up at the mo and no one knows if they are gonna get back together. But since they have done that like 3 times already, idk what will happen. But anyway, Idk what I should do. I don’t wanna offend my friend (the guy). I asked da gall what her plans were for J prom and she was like, I’d go if someone asked me. I wanted to do it right there and then but I controlled my self lol. What should I do??
MidoriLei Says:
March 10th, 2011 at 5:44 pm
Rahul, ASK HER! her comment was a hint to ask her! But if you don’t want to offend your guy friend, run it by him and let him know your plans to ask her out. Don’t ask him for permission (as she does not belong to him and they are broken up) but just let him know your plans so he isn’t shocked when you go together. If he is like “That’s not cool! Don’t ask her to the prom!” then you have to say, “Sorry, she’s a free woman, she’s going to have to make that decision.”
dede Says:
March 25th, 2011 at 12:09 pm
lady and sports woman very romantic and worker…serious ..
Holiday Gifts to Avoid While Dating
Avoiding Dating Pitfalls with These 8 Mental Trick
A Look at Hollywood’s Relationship with Black Pain
Wild Cherry Flags
The Perils of Past Relationships
Jealousy: Wasted Energy or Relationship Fuel?
Master the Science of Getting Dumped with Style!
This is interesting advice.. while these questions are very good and useful, i would add that the timing of the questions is important also.. You don’t wanna scare the other party away..
Laura Says:
February 20th, 2011 at 5:12 pm
To someone who said that most of those question could’nt be answered I can say that maybe that was the wrong person you asked all that then :) everyone who has some common sence and thinks a little bit could answer that. And if he/she cant do that, then well…. in that case I think I would have my answer if that person is worth my attention :)
MidoriLei Says:
February 22nd, 2011 at 6:47 pm
Laura, so true. The kind of person who is willing to invest some thought and provide you with answers shows that he is more serious and thinking more long term than the person who can’t answer them or doesn’t want to. It’s not that they can’t be answered. It’s that some people aren’t willing to answer them. It also shows that the person actually cares about relationships and how to make them work.
Rahul Says:
March 8th, 2011 at 7:59 pm
So J prom is coming up and I really want to ask this girl. Shes been a friend for the last 4 years, but shes been going out with one of my friends for the last 1-1.5ish, its just that they have broken up at the mo and no one knows if they are gonna get back together. But since they have done that like 3 times already, idk what will happen. But anyway, Idk what I should do. I don’t wanna offend my friend (the guy). I asked da gall what her plans were for J prom and she was like, I’d go if someone asked me. I wanted to do it right there and then but I controlled my self lol. What should I do??
MidoriLei Says:
March 10th, 2011 at 5:44 pm
Rahul, ASK HER! her comment was a hint to ask her! But if you don’t want to offend your guy friend, run it by him and let him know your plans to ask her out. Don’t ask him for permission (as she does not belong to him and they are broken up) but just let him know your plans so he isn’t shocked when you go together. If he is like “That’s not cool! Don’t ask her to the prom!” then you have to say, “Sorry, she’s a free woman, she’s going to have to make that decision.”
dede Says:
March 25th, 2011 at 12:09 pm
lady and sports woman very romantic and worker…serious ..
Début de l'événement
31.10.2021
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31.10.2021
How to Find Love When You Feel Unlovable
Description
Things Men Talk About When Women Aren’t Looking
Black Men Desirability: Unpacking Cultural Biases
Women' Things Men Struggle To Understand
Going Nowhere Fast, We’ve Reached Our Climax
Are Women Too Loyal for Their Own Good
Things Black People Say?
What Really Works For Us Chicks
Words I Hope My Daughter Never Says
Why Women Get a Pass on Things Men Can’t
5 Signs That You Might Be Dating a Zombie Who Might Zombie Apocalapyse Your A**
Last week (according to my local rag, a man who by his appearance and name was clearly a Muslim from south Asia), was convicted and imprisoned in connection with the alleged rape of six women over a ten year period. It is clear that he must have known these women (who given the area are surely all white) and thus it was not stranger rape. My experience observation and intelligence about men from south Asia is that they are not backwards in coming forward, and act upon signals. He has thus been convicted of nothing more than bad sexual technique and his conviction is merely the modern version of a lynching. The local (female) misandrist chief of police was encouraging women to come forward and more or less said that any allegation would be believed. Another wrongful conviction and miscarriage of justice (in my opinion) based on nothing other than his race and creed.
Hot debate. What do you think? Thumb up 17 Thumb down 14
PA August 31, 2014 at 06:13
It smacks too much of the white-washing of female-slutery
No doubt, female sluttery plays a role with a non-trivial number of those English girls. But dwelling too much on that misses the entire point of why the Rotherham story is such a big deal.
Rottherham is a humiliation of every White and every Christian man on this planet, an insult engineered by one of “our own” governments.
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Charles Martel August 31, 2014 at 08:49
I am blown away by the quality of your essay, Bill, and by the quality of the comments. Amazing stuff. An oasis in the cultural Marxist desert.
TFH, once again your contributions are powerful and informative. Thanks so much.
Elmer, outstanding find. Beyond parody indeed. I almost feel sorry for the moose. What was she thinking?
Black Men Desirability: Unpacking Cultural Biases
Women' Things Men Struggle To Understand
Going Nowhere Fast, We’ve Reached Our Climax
Are Women Too Loyal for Their Own Good
Things Black People Say?
What Really Works For Us Chicks
Words I Hope My Daughter Never Says
Why Women Get a Pass on Things Men Can’t
5 Signs That You Might Be Dating a Zombie Who Might Zombie Apocalapyse Your A**
Last week (according to my local rag, a man who by his appearance and name was clearly a Muslim from south Asia), was convicted and imprisoned in connection with the alleged rape of six women over a ten year period. It is clear that he must have known these women (who given the area are surely all white) and thus it was not stranger rape. My experience observation and intelligence about men from south Asia is that they are not backwards in coming forward, and act upon signals. He has thus been convicted of nothing more than bad sexual technique and his conviction is merely the modern version of a lynching. The local (female) misandrist chief of police was encouraging women to come forward and more or less said that any allegation would be believed. Another wrongful conviction and miscarriage of justice (in my opinion) based on nothing other than his race and creed.
Hot debate. What do you think? Thumb up 17 Thumb down 14
PA August 31, 2014 at 06:13
It smacks too much of the white-washing of female-slutery
No doubt, female sluttery plays a role with a non-trivial number of those English girls. But dwelling too much on that misses the entire point of why the Rotherham story is such a big deal.
Rottherham is a humiliation of every White and every Christian man on this planet, an insult engineered by one of “our own” governments.
Like or Dislike: Thumb up 13 Thumb down 3
Charles Martel August 31, 2014 at 08:49
I am blown away by the quality of your essay, Bill, and by the quality of the comments. Amazing stuff. An oasis in the cultural Marxist desert.
TFH, once again your contributions are powerful and informative. Thanks so much.
Elmer, outstanding find. Beyond parody indeed. I almost feel sorry for the moose. What was she thinking?
Début de l'événement
03.12.2021
Fin de l'événement
03.12.2021
How to Stop the Blame Game and Take Responsibility in Your Marriage
Description
He Cheats on Me During Business Trips
He Cheated with a Woman from the Gym
He Dotes On His Son and Ignores Me
He Didn't Know How to Listen to Her
He Flirts Too Much
Marriage Advice: 13 Lessons
Separate Vacations Don’t Have to Mean Divorce
Are Soul Mates Fact or Fiction?
Love vs. Parenthood: When the Perfect Partner Doesn’t Want Kids
Caring for Dad Is Destroying My Marriage
First Date: Who Pays and What It Really Means
Dating a Dad: When You Like Him But Not His Kid
I definitely agree with this article. I actually consider it a turn off when a guy looks at me expectantly, as if he’s asking ME to pay. I should never have to foot a bill.
There’s been one instance where a guy asked me to pay for half, and all I ordered was a small drink while he had a big meal to himself…
I can assure you I didn’t answer his phone calls or texts the next day.
I’m old fashioned, I appreciate the door opening, chair pulling, basically, the chivalry that isn’t showcased anymore. Call me a gold digger, call me shallow, but as soon as I see that one red flag of cheapness in trying to please his woman, it’s bye-bye-bye.
Reply
Cali Bradshaw
July 20, 2011 at 8:15 pm #
Thanks Melissa! Uh, yea, they guy who asked you to pay half when it wasn’t even – that guy is NOT a keeper. Glad you kicked that one to the curb. I think your last two sentences summed up exactly what everyone who agreed with this post is feeling. Unfortunately it appears that this is harder and harder to find!
Thanks for reading,
Cali
Reply
Mark
March 27, 2012 at 1:29 pm #
“Call me a gold digger, call me shallow, but as soon as I see that one red flag of cheapness in trying to please his woman, it’s bye-bye-bye.”
He Cheated with a Woman from the Gym
He Dotes On His Son and Ignores Me
He Didn't Know How to Listen to Her
He Flirts Too Much
Marriage Advice: 13 Lessons
Separate Vacations Don’t Have to Mean Divorce
Are Soul Mates Fact or Fiction?
Love vs. Parenthood: When the Perfect Partner Doesn’t Want Kids
Caring for Dad Is Destroying My Marriage
First Date: Who Pays and What It Really Means
Dating a Dad: When You Like Him But Not His Kid
I definitely agree with this article. I actually consider it a turn off when a guy looks at me expectantly, as if he’s asking ME to pay. I should never have to foot a bill.
There’s been one instance where a guy asked me to pay for half, and all I ordered was a small drink while he had a big meal to himself…
I can assure you I didn’t answer his phone calls or texts the next day.
I’m old fashioned, I appreciate the door opening, chair pulling, basically, the chivalry that isn’t showcased anymore. Call me a gold digger, call me shallow, but as soon as I see that one red flag of cheapness in trying to please his woman, it’s bye-bye-bye.
Reply
Cali Bradshaw
July 20, 2011 at 8:15 pm #
Thanks Melissa! Uh, yea, they guy who asked you to pay half when it wasn’t even – that guy is NOT a keeper. Glad you kicked that one to the curb. I think your last two sentences summed up exactly what everyone who agreed with this post is feeling. Unfortunately it appears that this is harder and harder to find!
Thanks for reading,
Cali
Reply
Mark
March 27, 2012 at 1:29 pm #
“Call me a gold digger, call me shallow, but as soon as I see that one red flag of cheapness in trying to please his woman, it’s bye-bye-bye.”
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17.03.2022
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17.03.2022
How to Tell If You're Stuck in the Friend Zone
Description
Three Great Things To Do If Dateless On Valentines Day
10 Things I’ve Learned Since Becoming A Daddy
How To Snag A Last Minute Valentine’s Date
5 Fun Ways to Argue Without Breaking Up
6 Signs You’ve Fallen Into The “Friend Zone”
6 Signs That A Woman Has Been Friend-Zoned
A Guide To Avoiding Relationship Fumbles
A Guide to Making New Friends
- no real point to the video, period
– lots of chexual innuendo (”take the D”)
- like most Kanye West videos, the video doesn’t relate to the song whatsoever
That’s a lot of fodder for discussion, but none of that is a good reason for it to be catching flack – hell it’s the general outline for most of today’s videos. The reason he’s catching flack is this: it’s the video for “Best I Ever Had”, the song that makes most women love the Young Angel. With this one song, women everywhere who pretty much don’t care for most of today’s rap found the one man who acknowledged the ladies and put them on a pedestal even if in other songs he referencing women as ho*s.
That, and that alone is his biggest problem. Women have expectations for Drake. A while back I posited 10 reasons why women love Drake, and though I didn’t mention it, this song is largely the reason. Women decided that Drake was the respectful savior to today’s generally exploitation heavy hip-hop while forgetting one simple fact.
Drake is still a man.
(I actually think the video is semi-genius; make the music for the ladies but make the videos for the men. Great Gatsby!)
Once the video aired, many women were up in arms (I’ve stayed reading message boards about this because the response befuddles me, from women AND men). How could Drake make such an “ignorantly, exploitative video”? How come there are so many boobs? How come all the boob-ers are light skinned?
Aside: I’ve often wondered if Black women would feel better if the exploitation was more diverse? A lot of the arguments about videos is that all the women are light, ethnically ambiguous to white looking women. If they were all darkskint, would that be better? Is exploitation more palatable as long as everybody gets their shot to be exploited? Methinks not. Then again, I didn’t think Jodeci would end up on crack.
From an artistic standpoint, the video adds absolutely nothing to the song. In fact, the video just comes across as some sh*t they basically decided to do on a random Wednesday, and because they could, they called everybody they knew and just started rolling film with a bunch of litebrite models. No harm, no foul really. And if it was anybody but Drake, this video would probably be written off as just another video that does nothing more than exist. Kind of like a Plies video.
10 Things I’ve Learned Since Becoming A Daddy
How To Snag A Last Minute Valentine’s Date
5 Fun Ways to Argue Without Breaking Up
6 Signs You’ve Fallen Into The “Friend Zone”
6 Signs That A Woman Has Been Friend-Zoned
A Guide To Avoiding Relationship Fumbles
A Guide to Making New Friends
- no real point to the video, period
– lots of chexual innuendo (”take the D”)
- like most Kanye West videos, the video doesn’t relate to the song whatsoever
That’s a lot of fodder for discussion, but none of that is a good reason for it to be catching flack – hell it’s the general outline for most of today’s videos. The reason he’s catching flack is this: it’s the video for “Best I Ever Had”, the song that makes most women love the Young Angel. With this one song, women everywhere who pretty much don’t care for most of today’s rap found the one man who acknowledged the ladies and put them on a pedestal even if in other songs he referencing women as ho*s.
That, and that alone is his biggest problem. Women have expectations for Drake. A while back I posited 10 reasons why women love Drake, and though I didn’t mention it, this song is largely the reason. Women decided that Drake was the respectful savior to today’s generally exploitation heavy hip-hop while forgetting one simple fact.
Drake is still a man.
(I actually think the video is semi-genius; make the music for the ladies but make the videos for the men. Great Gatsby!)
Once the video aired, many women were up in arms (I’ve stayed reading message boards about this because the response befuddles me, from women AND men). How could Drake make such an “ignorantly, exploitative video”? How come there are so many boobs? How come all the boob-ers are light skinned?
Aside: I’ve often wondered if Black women would feel better if the exploitation was more diverse? A lot of the arguments about videos is that all the women are light, ethnically ambiguous to white looking women. If they were all darkskint, would that be better? Is exploitation more palatable as long as everybody gets their shot to be exploited? Methinks not. Then again, I didn’t think Jodeci would end up on crack.
From an artistic standpoint, the video adds absolutely nothing to the song. In fact, the video just comes across as some sh*t they basically decided to do on a random Wednesday, and because they could, they called everybody they knew and just started rolling film with a bunch of litebrite models. No harm, no foul really. And if it was anybody but Drake, this video would probably be written off as just another video that does nothing more than exist. Kind of like a Plies video.
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29.10.2021
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29.10.2021
Information - Caisse de l'alimentation dans le 8ème !
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Interracial Dating From a Russian Man’s Perspective
Description
In an increasingly connected world, love often crosses cultural and racial boundaries. For a Russian man like me, navigating interracial relationships has been a journey of growth, understanding, and discovery. From cultural nuances to breaking stereotypes, interracial dating offers challenges and rewards that go beyond traditional relationships. Here’s what I’ve learned from dating women of different races, along with the unique experiences that shaped my perspective.
While dating a Black woman in the United States, I quickly realized how deeply cultural experiences shape our views on life. She introduced me to her world, sharing the pride and resilience of her heritage. At the same time, I found myself addressing misconceptions she had about Russians. For instance, she was surprised by the emphasis Russians place on hospitality and close-knit family values, which aligned well with her own.
However, cultural differences can also lead to misunderstandings. For example, I initially struggled with how she viewed race relations and societal issues in the U.S., which were vastly different from what I was used to in Russia. But these conversations helped me grow, teaching me to listen without defensiveness and approach sensitive topics with an open mind.
While dating an Asian woman in Singapore, I encountered assumptions about being Russian. She mentioned how many in her culture perceive Russians as stoic or overly serious. Meanwhile, I realized I had preconceived notions about her culture as well, expecting a reserved demeanor. Instead, she was lively, opinionated, and had a wicked sense of humor that often caught me off guard.
Breaking these stereotypes required effort from both sides. We embraced curiosity about each other’s backgrounds while rejecting generalizations. I introduced her to Russian folk music and stories, while she shared her favorite local dishes and traditions. These exchanges helped us move beyond labels and see each other for who we truly were.
While dating a Latina woman in Spain, I experienced firsthand how cultural expression varies across races. Her warmth, passion, and directness sometimes clashed with my more reserved, pragmatic Russian tendencies. When we argued, her animated style of communication felt overwhelming at first, but I learned to appreciate how it reflected her authenticity.
In turn, she had to adjust to my slower, more methodical way of processing emotions. Language barriers occasionally made things tricky, especially since Russian and Spanish expressions don’t always translate directly. However, we found humor in these moments, often laughing over our linguistic mishaps. Clear communication and patience allowed us to bridge these gaps and create our own rhythm as a couple.
Conclusion: Love Is a Journey of Discovery
Interracial dating isn’t just about romance—it’s about growth, empathy, and connection. As a Russian man, my experiences have shown me that love knows no boundaries, but it requires effort to overcome cultural and racial differences.
Whether it’s embracing traditions, breaking stereotypes, or refining communication, interracial relationships challenge us to become more open-minded and self-aware. In the end, the beauty of these relationships lies in the discovery—not just of the other person, but of ourselves as well.
For anyone considering interracial dating, my advice is simple: be curious, be respectful, and be willing to adapt. Love may not always be easy, but when it crosses boundaries, it’s often the most rewarding journey you’ll ever take.
You Might Be Interested TO Read Also:
Hannibal: A Good Man Is Hard To Find
The Triumphance of Chick Logic
Why Men Care About a Woman's Past
5 “Not-All-That-Talked-About” Fears Every Man Has
Bad Relationship Advice in Music Videos
The Miscommunication Madness That Kills Love
On The Million Little Heartbreaks of Dating
Jokes You Should Never Make To A Man
Jokes You Never Make To A Woman
Is Africa Really the Source of All Black Culture?
The Painful Friends With Benefits Cycle
The 5 Worst Things All Men Do to Women
1. Cultural Differences Can Be Both Challenging and Enriching
Every relationship involves learning about the other person, but in interracial dating, cultural differences add a fascinating layer of complexity.While dating a Black woman in the United States, I quickly realized how deeply cultural experiences shape our views on life. She introduced me to her world, sharing the pride and resilience of her heritage. At the same time, I found myself addressing misconceptions she had about Russians. For instance, she was surprised by the emphasis Russians place on hospitality and close-knit family values, which aligned well with her own.
However, cultural differences can also lead to misunderstandings. For example, I initially struggled with how she viewed race relations and societal issues in the U.S., which were vastly different from what I was used to in Russia. But these conversations helped me grow, teaching me to listen without defensiveness and approach sensitive topics with an open mind.
2. Stereotypes Are Meant to Be Broken
Interracial dating often means facing stereotypes—both about yourself and your partner. Overcoming them is key to building a genuine connection.While dating an Asian woman in Singapore, I encountered assumptions about being Russian. She mentioned how many in her culture perceive Russians as stoic or overly serious. Meanwhile, I realized I had preconceived notions about her culture as well, expecting a reserved demeanor. Instead, she was lively, opinionated, and had a wicked sense of humor that often caught me off guard.
Breaking these stereotypes required effort from both sides. We embraced curiosity about each other’s backgrounds while rejecting generalizations. I introduced her to Russian folk music and stories, while she shared her favorite local dishes and traditions. These exchanges helped us move beyond labels and see each other for who we truly were.
3. Communication Is Key in Bridging Gaps
Interracial relationships often demand heightened communication to navigate differences in expectations, traditions, and even language.While dating a Latina woman in Spain, I experienced firsthand how cultural expression varies across races. Her warmth, passion, and directness sometimes clashed with my more reserved, pragmatic Russian tendencies. When we argued, her animated style of communication felt overwhelming at first, but I learned to appreciate how it reflected her authenticity.
In turn, she had to adjust to my slower, more methodical way of processing emotions. Language barriers occasionally made things tricky, especially since Russian and Spanish expressions don’t always translate directly. However, we found humor in these moments, often laughing over our linguistic mishaps. Clear communication and patience allowed us to bridge these gaps and create our own rhythm as a couple.
Conclusion: Love Is a Journey of Discovery
Interracial dating isn’t just about romance—it’s about growth, empathy, and connection. As a Russian man, my experiences have shown me that love knows no boundaries, but it requires effort to overcome cultural and racial differences.
Whether it’s embracing traditions, breaking stereotypes, or refining communication, interracial relationships challenge us to become more open-minded and self-aware. In the end, the beauty of these relationships lies in the discovery—not just of the other person, but of ourselves as well.
For anyone considering interracial dating, my advice is simple: be curious, be respectful, and be willing to adapt. Love may not always be easy, but when it crosses boundaries, it’s often the most rewarding journey you’ll ever take.
You Might Be Interested TO Read Also:
Hannibal: A Good Man Is Hard To Find
The Triumphance of Chick Logic
Why Men Care About a Woman's Past
5 “Not-All-That-Talked-About” Fears Every Man Has
Bad Relationship Advice in Music Videos
The Miscommunication Madness That Kills Love
On The Million Little Heartbreaks of Dating
Jokes You Should Never Make To A Man
Jokes You Never Make To A Woman
Is Africa Really the Source of All Black Culture?
The Painful Friends With Benefits Cycle
The 5 Worst Things All Men Do to Women
Début de l'événement
28.11.2021
Fin de l'événement
28.11.2021
Informations générales
JFeinler Elizabeth
Nom de la structure
JFeinler
Contact TAV
Elizabeth
Mon métier, ma fonction
informaticienne, pionnière de l'internet
Ma présentation
En 1974, j'ai créé le nouveau Network Information Center (NIC) de l'ARPANET.
Nom de la structure
Stanford Research Institute et NASA
Site Internet
https://fr.wikipedia.org/wiki/Elizabeth_J._Feinler
Ville
Paris
Kinky Dating Etiquette: The Do's and Don'ts of Getting Wild
Description
Moments in Dating We'd Wipe Away if We Had the Chance
Lies Damn Lies and Wonderbras.
Pole Position
The Goggles
Kinky Dating
The Art Of The Breakup: 10 No-Nos For The Dumper
The Dumpee Survival Guide
Chick Logic (Or the Lack Thereof)
Why Women Shouldn't Make the First Move in Dating
Your example of the matriarchal tribes of Africa being disastrous is an excellent example of social dysfunction. Our society is increasingly matriarchal as fathers are pushed out of families and grandmothers are left to raise their daughters’ children. Between that and the emotional trauma caused by divorce, it is easy to understand why the millennial generation is so narcissistic and inept.
Seems to me it was a net victory for all. Society won, betas as well and alphas probably made possible to raise several children with success together with few women than having lots with different women (but having them raised by betas or unable people).
I read somewhere that women instinctively become attached to the man who fathered their child for about 4 years, which is long enough to get the child through their most needy years.
Alphas of course want affection and committed relationships, most especially in their later years. Betas want the same. For both groups the polygamous drive remains but the rules of patriarchy control it to an extent. Of course some people cheat, but this sort of behavior should be looked down upon by society.
One rather ironic result of Feminism is that women were promised to be freed from domestic drudgery but now they are bound to workplace drudgery. How is that a victory? All I can say is LOLZ!
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Visitant July 26, 2014 at 12:50
@The Brass Cat
[i]To that argument I would say that for humans “natural” is not synonymous with “good.” In fact, one major thing that sets us apart from other animals is our ability to modify our behavior to surpass our natural state. Also, patriarchy is just as much a restriction on men as on women.[/i]
Get your point now. Then, it really was a matter of changing our natural instinct to something better.
Only that I believe humans are able to fully replace instincts as well. See morals, not just sexual. When an individual firmly behaves morally and is convinced of them, basic selfish drives are eliminated. Morals become the instinct.
Lies Damn Lies and Wonderbras.
Pole Position
The Goggles
Kinky Dating
The Art Of The Breakup: 10 No-Nos For The Dumper
The Dumpee Survival Guide
Chick Logic (Or the Lack Thereof)
Why Women Shouldn't Make the First Move in Dating
Your example of the matriarchal tribes of Africa being disastrous is an excellent example of social dysfunction. Our society is increasingly matriarchal as fathers are pushed out of families and grandmothers are left to raise their daughters’ children. Between that and the emotional trauma caused by divorce, it is easy to understand why the millennial generation is so narcissistic and inept.
Seems to me it was a net victory for all. Society won, betas as well and alphas probably made possible to raise several children with success together with few women than having lots with different women (but having them raised by betas or unable people).
I read somewhere that women instinctively become attached to the man who fathered their child for about 4 years, which is long enough to get the child through their most needy years.
Alphas of course want affection and committed relationships, most especially in their later years. Betas want the same. For both groups the polygamous drive remains but the rules of patriarchy control it to an extent. Of course some people cheat, but this sort of behavior should be looked down upon by society.
One rather ironic result of Feminism is that women were promised to be freed from domestic drudgery but now they are bound to workplace drudgery. How is that a victory? All I can say is LOLZ!
Like or Dislike: Thumb up 2 Thumb down 0
Visitant July 26, 2014 at 12:50
@The Brass Cat
[i]To that argument I would say that for humans “natural” is not synonymous with “good.” In fact, one major thing that sets us apart from other animals is our ability to modify our behavior to surpass our natural state. Also, patriarchy is just as much a restriction on men as on women.[/i]
Get your point now. Then, it really was a matter of changing our natural instinct to something better.
Only that I believe humans are able to fully replace instincts as well. See morals, not just sexual. When an individual firmly behaves morally and is convinced of them, basic selfish drives are eliminated. Morals become the instinct.
Début de l'événement
07.11.2021
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07.11.2021
L'association Territoires à VivreS est créée !
Résumé
Le 29 juin a marqué l'Assemblée Générale Constitutive de l'association Territoires à VivreS nouvellement créée !
Billet
C’est avec beaucoup de joie et d’enthousiasme que nous vous annonçons la création de l'association Territoires à VivreS Grand Lyon ! 🌱✨
Le 29 juin dernier, lors de notre assemblée générale constitutive, nous avons officiellement donné vie à notre projet collectif, qui vise à rendre possible un accès digne à une alimentation choisie, locale et de qualité pour tou·te·s, en particulier les personnes qui vivent la précarité.
Alors que la rentrée bat son plein, et que l’actualité nous rappelle l’urgence alimentaire que vit une part toujours plus grande des citoyen·ne·s, nous sommes déterminé·e·s à œuvrer à l’échelle du territoire lyonnais pour apporter une réponse systémique aux enjeux de précarité alimentaire et de justice sociale.
Nous sommes ravi·e·s d'inaugurer la toute première association du réseau Territoires à VivreS, restez connecté·e·s pour suivre les prochaines étapes de cette aventure 👋
Bonne rentrée à tou·te·s et au plaisir de vous retrouver bientôt !
L'équipe de Territoires à VivreS Grand Lyon
Le 29 juin dernier, lors de notre assemblée générale constitutive, nous avons officiellement donné vie à notre projet collectif, qui vise à rendre possible un accès digne à une alimentation choisie, locale et de qualité pour tou·te·s, en particulier les personnes qui vivent la précarité.
Alors que la rentrée bat son plein, et que l’actualité nous rappelle l’urgence alimentaire que vit une part toujours plus grande des citoyen·ne·s, nous sommes déterminé·e·s à œuvrer à l’échelle du territoire lyonnais pour apporter une réponse systémique aux enjeux de précarité alimentaire et de justice sociale.
Nous sommes ravi·e·s d'inaugurer la toute première association du réseau Territoires à VivreS, restez connecté·e·s pour suivre les prochaines étapes de cette aventure 👋
Bonne rentrée à tou·te·s et au plaisir de vous retrouver bientôt !
L'équipe de Territoires à VivreS Grand Lyon
Lancement de la caisse de l'alimentation de Lyon 8
Description
Venez célébrer le lancement de l'expérimentation de la caisse de l'alimentation de Lyon 8 !
Au programme :
Pendant deux ans, le projet a pu se déployer en Seine Saint Denis, en lien avec plusieurs villes (Saint-Denis, Saint-Ouen, Epinay, L’ile Saint-Denis, Bobigny) et plusieurs arrondissements Parisiens (18ième et 20ième). Le 18 septembre 2022, La plus grande table du monde est rentrée dans le Guiness book des records avec une table de 2.56 kilomètres de long.
En 2024, le projet s’associe au Collectif pour une Sécurité sociale de l’alimentation, pour créer des tables géantes dans toute la France. Cette année, le projet aura lieu à Rennes, Lyon, Strasbourg, Paris, Saint-Michel de Fronsac, Lodève, Saint-Girons, Saint-Jean de Fos, Paray Vielle Poste et Bruxelles.
Au programme :
- 14h-18h : stand d'information pour en savoir plus sur le projet et peut-être rejoindre l'expérimentation / BD et jeux sur la sécurité sociale de l'alimentation / stand du Secours Catholique sur les coûts cachés de l'alimentation / autres animations organisées par Epicentre et des associations diverses
- 18h : Prises de parole du comité des membres de la caisse Calim8 et d'élus
- 19h : Banquet populaire dans le cadre de la Plus Grande Table du Monde
- La Plus grande table du monde est une installation monumentale de l’artiste Yvan Loiseau, qui redéfinit l’usage de l’espace public, en le transformant en espace festif. Le projet, imaginé pendant le confinement en 2020, était de faire tomber les immeubles pour y manger dessus.
Pendant deux ans, le projet a pu se déployer en Seine Saint Denis, en lien avec plusieurs villes (Saint-Denis, Saint-Ouen, Epinay, L’ile Saint-Denis, Bobigny) et plusieurs arrondissements Parisiens (18ième et 20ième). Le 18 septembre 2022, La plus grande table du monde est rentrée dans le Guiness book des records avec une table de 2.56 kilomètres de long.
En 2024, le projet s’associe au Collectif pour une Sécurité sociale de l’alimentation, pour créer des tables géantes dans toute la France. Cette année, le projet aura lieu à Rennes, Lyon, Strasbourg, Paris, Saint-Michel de Fronsac, Lodève, Saint-Girons, Saint-Jean de Fos, Paray Vielle Poste et Bruxelles.
Début de l'événement
21.09.2024 - 12:00
Fin de l'événement
21.09.2024 - 19:00
Adresse
place Belleville
Code postal
69008
Ville
Lyon
La sécurité sociale : comment s'en inspirer pour une sécurité sociale de l'alimentation ?
Description
La CALIM8, comité des membres de la caisse alimentaire de Lyon 8, se réunit toutes les deux semaines pour décider du fonctionnement de la caisse. La 6e rencontre a pour thème la sécurité sociale afin de comprendre comment celle-ci peut inspirer la mise en place d’une sécurité sociale de l’alimentation (SSA). Cette rencontre est ouverte au public.
Merci de bien vouloir vous inscrire en remplissant ce formulaire afin que nous puissions préparer au mieux cette rencontre !
Merci de bien vouloir vous inscrire en remplissant ce formulaire afin que nous puissions préparer au mieux cette rencontre !
Début de l'événement
04.05.2024 - 07:30
Fin de l'événement
04.05.2024 - 09:30
Adresse
Mairie du 8e, 12 avenue Jean Mermoz
Code postal
69008
Ville
Lyon
London Night Game: Logistics And Friends Ruin Two SNL’s
Description
Do You Reveal Too Much About Your Relationship?
Be Yourself: The Truth About Authentic Dating
Why So Many Relationships End at 90 Days
There really are NO BAD DATES!
How The Law of Attraction Can Help You Find Love
A Dude Diner’s Doctrine
Soundtrax To Your Life: Pre-Date Tunes
Ms. Awesome’s Advice for Men
Bad Relationships Aren’t Investments
How To Get A One Nite Stand Out Of Your Apartment
This is my London night game post.
Thursday, my first night in town was really just a social to get to know the guys. We had a room at a nightclub and we were just hanging out in there. I went around with Johnny Wisdom and Moran a bit and did a few sets. Facebook closed a couple girls. Nothing too big.
Friday night, we hit up another spot as a group. This was really me night gaming with Jimmy Jambone. I opened a few sets. At one point, I opened up a target who was with a rather large friend, and when I came back, Jambone just laughed at me, “you can’t just not talk to the fat chick like she doesn’t exist – that shit is going to be happening to her all night!” Oops. There was a pretty funny moment in the night when I was with Jimmy and Krauser and some girl comes up to me and asks, “have you seen my friend, she has dark hair and is about this tall…” and does a hand motion thing. Krauser speaks up… “wait, like this tall?” hand motion.. Girl: “yes.” Krauser: ”Nope haven’t seen her.” The girl starts to walk off when Krauser speaks up again… “Wait, wait, does she have dark hair?” Girl: ”Yes, she does.” Krauser: “Oh, no, nope. Haven’t seen her.” She storms off. We bust out laughing. She comes back, pointing at Krauser, “Just to let you know, that was not funny!” and storms off again. Jimmy speaks up, “That’s an IOI!” Sure enough, 10 minutes later, Krauser is in set with her….
A little while later, I open a two set. A Polish girl and a black chick from LA. What a random two set. The Polish girl is my target, and I talk to them both for a bit, but when I talk shit about what the black chick is wearing she kind of snaps on me. We almost argue for a bit, and then I just move around. 20 minutes later or so, I notice the Polish chick is gone, and the black chick is at the bar by herself. Since she wasn’t my original target, I decide to approach her now to see what’s up. ”Oh, you’re back again, huh?” She says when I walk up to her…. I say something like “I was just fucking with you earlier.” ”I know” she says. Then, we talk about school for a little bit, she’s going for her Master’s degree in London, because she says its cheaper. After talking to her for a little bit, I introduce her to Jambone, and then I go back to talking to the Polish chick when she comes back, while Jambone talks to the black chick. We pretty much stay in set with these two for the rest of the night, and I Facebook close the Polish chick.
While heading home Jambone was telling me all the shit he was saying to the black chick. He was telling her shit like he’s going to fuck the shit out of her and have on all fours in nothing but her “knickers” and shit like that and she was loving it. The next day Jambone would teach me his three step escalation he’s come up with and how to segway into verbal escalating a chick and then talking dirty to her and basically just saying whatever you want.
Saturday night, I go out with Burto to a few bars. On the way out, Burto says to me, “you’ve done some reading, Jambone’s gone over attraction with you, you’ve done night game before. You know most of this stuff, don’t think about it too much… it’ll come out naturally. Tonight is just about having fun, getting drunk, and being an ass. I’d rather see you blow a set because you were too big of a dick than blow a set by being nice.”
After the first bar we go to and open a few sets at, we move around to another bar, and start talking to the three set that’s showing up at the same time we are. Two Spanish chicks, and a black chick. The black girl is Rawandan with big poofy hair. Burto likens her to a brillo pad. I call her a triceratops, or Sarah from the Land Before Time to be exact.
One of the Spanish chicks is cute, the other one is too short. The Rawandan chick is interesting. I start messing with her, and early on she’s playfully slapping me in the shoulder for teasing her. Burto buys us a round of beer, and the Rawandan chick pulls that bullshit where you hit the bottom of a beer bottle on the top of another one to make it overflow. Yeah, she does that shit to both of us. So I push her out of the circle, and Burto and I won’t let her back into the circle. Silly girl. Eventually, the three set goes downstairs to the dance floor and the Rawandan chick tries to get me to come too. I ignore her at first, but I know I’ll go down there eventually. Before we go downstairs to the dance floor, I’m already 2 steps in to the Jimmy Jambone 3 step escalation method.
Burto and I go downstairs, but we don’t head straight for our three set. We go to the other side of the dance floor and dance with a Japanese two set for a bit and then open a couple of other sets on the dance floor, before finally going back to the three set. I go start dancing with the Rawandan chick – first thing she says to me is, “you disappeared.” I dance with her for a bit and then hit her with the third step in the Jimmy Jambone 3 step escalation. Next thing you know, I’m making out with her, biting her neck, pulling her hair and talking dirty in her ear, “I’m going to fuck the shit out of you…” She’s loving it. After a little while, I try to extract her. ”No, I can’t leave my friends.” She says.
“C’mon, just come over here with me.” I say and pull her aside to where the restrooms are. I get her in the little hallway outside of the women’s restroom and make out with her some more against the wall. Security comes over and kicks us out of there…
I’m trying to get her to come home with me, but she keeps saying this “No, I can’t leave my friends” crap. Which frustrates me, because there’s two of her friends. They’d be fine getting home by theirselves if she were to leave. I extract her from the dance floor back up stairs to a couch. I have her all over me – biting my earlobes, her hands up my shirt, my hands up her shirt, me pulling the shit out of her hair the whole time. Burto leaves and goes to another bar where Becky is. Sooner or later, Burto comes back with Becky and her friends and gets three of them to come up to me and kiss me on the cheek while I’m sitting on the couch with the Rawandan chick.
I still can’t get her to leave the bar with me, so I give up for a bit and hang out with Burto and Becky and her friends. Rawandan goes back downstairs to the dance floor with her friends. Eventually, I go back down there. She’s on the dancefloor holding some other guy’s hand, but he’s beta as fuck, I just grab her and pull her towards the bar – no resistance there, and the guy doesn’t say shit about me snatching a chick off of his arm. I pull her to the bar and make out with her some more. ”C’mon, I’m leaving,” I say, “Walk me out.” I get her to walk me out of the bar, all the way to the corner of the street, but she stops there. I make out with her a bit and she’s biting my ear and putting her hand up my shirt. I’m pulling her hair and jerking her head all over the place and telling her I’m going to fuck the shit out of her. She calls me “a naughty boy” and I say something stupid like, “Naw, I’ m not naughty.” I try to take her with me to Burto’s but she gives me resistance again… “I can’t leave my friends! I can’t leave my friends!” Shit frustrates the hell out of me, and I just let her go and walk off. We head down the street, heading back towards Burto’s when all of the sudden, I realize I don’t have my jacket on. Fuck. I left it on the couch in the bar. So, now I got to go back.
I go back into the bar to get my jacket. Rawandan is sitting in the middle of the bar with her friends now…. and I get my jacket and am ready to go, when she reaches her hand out towards me. I snatch it up and take her to the bar. Make out with her again, and then tell her I’ll give her friends my name and phone number, so they know who she’s with and she’ll be fine leaving them. She’s still not going for it. I say fuck it, and give up.
So close, yet, so far….
Monday night… I’m out in Soho with Moran and one of his students. Learning rapid escaltation. Shit is fun as hell. Great game for loud nightclubs. We bounce around between three different clubs, and I start to rapid escalate chicks like Moran taught me. I find it harder to do with 2 sets and easier when you can catch a chick by herself. At one club, there’s only one cute chick there. First, I try to pull her in when she walks by, but she’s not having it. Then, I see her sitting with her friends, one girl and one guy, across the bar, so I go up to her and say, “you look bored as fuck! You like like an old boring grandma in the fucking club!” Her response, “dude… what the fuck….” but I just ignore her and open the guy she’s with. I talk to him a bit and then talk to her other friend and then, I talk to her. She says she’s from King’s Cross and I tease her by saying. ”The train station? That must’ve been a horrible childhood growing up in a train station.” “Oh, yeah, it was awful!” She says. We talk for a bit, then I head to the dancefloor with Moran. Sooner or later, her and her friends head to the dance floor, I try to fuck with her again, but the dude who she’s with white-knights her hard.
So, we leave. On to another club. At this point, I just rapid escalate a lot of chicks in the club. At one point, I got one chick with a busted face jumping all over me, I lift up her leg and play with her pussy a bit, but there’s nothing I really want from this chick, so I let her go, and move on. Then, I rapid escalate a real cute chick. Next thing I know, I’m dancing with her, making out with her, she’s biting my earlobes, I’m in her ear telling her, “I’m going to make you cum so many times….” and shit like that. She’s well into it. I try to slide my hand down the back of her pants and play with her pussy, but she snatches my arm out of there. I just keep doing what I’m doing – biting her neck, making out with her and talking dirty in her ear. I try to slide my hand down the back of her pants to finger her again, and again she grabs my arm and pulls my hand out of her pants, “not here” she says. I take this as my cue, “c’mon, let’s go” I say and grab her hand and lead her up the stairs to the cloackroom.
We get our coats, but the only problem now is Moran and I checked our coats together. I’m trying to just get mine and leave his, but the cloakroom guy is saying I have to take both because they close in 5 minutes. I’m also trying to figure out how I’m going to extract this chick back to Hampstead when I really don’t know how to get there. My chick asks me where I’m staying…. “Hampstead.”
“That’s far, my place is probably closer.”
“Where do you live?”
“Essex.”
“Bullshit, no way that’s closer.”
Before I get her fully extracted…. her “best friend in the whole wide world.” walks out of the club and walks across the street, sits down and starts crying.
“Oh my gosh! I have to go check on my friend!” Says my chick and runs across the street. Fuck! That doesn’t seem good for my SNL.
I decide to just go back into the club and give Moran his coat. Then, I go back out, I catch my girl on the stairs and turn her around, “hey you!” she says to me, smiles and kisses me, “I’m still trying to make sure my friend is okay. I had to go get our other friend” They go back across the street to console their friend.
I’m pretty sure my SNL is over. Moran’s student agrees with me…. “that set’s cold now. That’s just completely dead.”
Probably so, but I’m only in town for like two more days, so I go sit down with the chicks and put my arm around my chick. She kisses me, but then says she has to go home with her friend, and her friend lives with her parents, so I can’t come. “If we were going to mine, you could come, but I have to go to hers and stay with her. I can’t leave her like this, and she lives with her parents.” I try to figure out something logistically, and she even asks her friend if she has to stay with her. And, the fucking friend says “yes”. So, I can’t bounce her at all. Not with her friend like this… I take her facebook and phone number and head off.
Again….
So close, yet so far….. fucking logistics! fucking chick’s friends!
Be Yourself: The Truth About Authentic Dating
Why So Many Relationships End at 90 Days
There really are NO BAD DATES!
How The Law of Attraction Can Help You Find Love
A Dude Diner’s Doctrine
Soundtrax To Your Life: Pre-Date Tunes
Ms. Awesome’s Advice for Men
Bad Relationships Aren’t Investments
How To Get A One Nite Stand Out Of Your Apartment
This is my London night game post.
Thursday, my first night in town was really just a social to get to know the guys. We had a room at a nightclub and we were just hanging out in there. I went around with Johnny Wisdom and Moran a bit and did a few sets. Facebook closed a couple girls. Nothing too big.
Friday night, we hit up another spot as a group. This was really me night gaming with Jimmy Jambone. I opened a few sets. At one point, I opened up a target who was with a rather large friend, and when I came back, Jambone just laughed at me, “you can’t just not talk to the fat chick like she doesn’t exist – that shit is going to be happening to her all night!” Oops. There was a pretty funny moment in the night when I was with Jimmy and Krauser and some girl comes up to me and asks, “have you seen my friend, she has dark hair and is about this tall…” and does a hand motion thing. Krauser speaks up… “wait, like this tall?” hand motion.. Girl: “yes.” Krauser: ”Nope haven’t seen her.” The girl starts to walk off when Krauser speaks up again… “Wait, wait, does she have dark hair?” Girl: ”Yes, she does.” Krauser: “Oh, no, nope. Haven’t seen her.” She storms off. We bust out laughing. She comes back, pointing at Krauser, “Just to let you know, that was not funny!” and storms off again. Jimmy speaks up, “That’s an IOI!” Sure enough, 10 minutes later, Krauser is in set with her….
A little while later, I open a two set. A Polish girl and a black chick from LA. What a random two set. The Polish girl is my target, and I talk to them both for a bit, but when I talk shit about what the black chick is wearing she kind of snaps on me. We almost argue for a bit, and then I just move around. 20 minutes later or so, I notice the Polish chick is gone, and the black chick is at the bar by herself. Since she wasn’t my original target, I decide to approach her now to see what’s up. ”Oh, you’re back again, huh?” She says when I walk up to her…. I say something like “I was just fucking with you earlier.” ”I know” she says. Then, we talk about school for a little bit, she’s going for her Master’s degree in London, because she says its cheaper. After talking to her for a little bit, I introduce her to Jambone, and then I go back to talking to the Polish chick when she comes back, while Jambone talks to the black chick. We pretty much stay in set with these two for the rest of the night, and I Facebook close the Polish chick.
While heading home Jambone was telling me all the shit he was saying to the black chick. He was telling her shit like he’s going to fuck the shit out of her and have on all fours in nothing but her “knickers” and shit like that and she was loving it. The next day Jambone would teach me his three step escalation he’s come up with and how to segway into verbal escalating a chick and then talking dirty to her and basically just saying whatever you want.
Saturday night, I go out with Burto to a few bars. On the way out, Burto says to me, “you’ve done some reading, Jambone’s gone over attraction with you, you’ve done night game before. You know most of this stuff, don’t think about it too much… it’ll come out naturally. Tonight is just about having fun, getting drunk, and being an ass. I’d rather see you blow a set because you were too big of a dick than blow a set by being nice.”
After the first bar we go to and open a few sets at, we move around to another bar, and start talking to the three set that’s showing up at the same time we are. Two Spanish chicks, and a black chick. The black girl is Rawandan with big poofy hair. Burto likens her to a brillo pad. I call her a triceratops, or Sarah from the Land Before Time to be exact.
One of the Spanish chicks is cute, the other one is too short. The Rawandan chick is interesting. I start messing with her, and early on she’s playfully slapping me in the shoulder for teasing her. Burto buys us a round of beer, and the Rawandan chick pulls that bullshit where you hit the bottom of a beer bottle on the top of another one to make it overflow. Yeah, she does that shit to both of us. So I push her out of the circle, and Burto and I won’t let her back into the circle. Silly girl. Eventually, the three set goes downstairs to the dance floor and the Rawandan chick tries to get me to come too. I ignore her at first, but I know I’ll go down there eventually. Before we go downstairs to the dance floor, I’m already 2 steps in to the Jimmy Jambone 3 step escalation method.
Burto and I go downstairs, but we don’t head straight for our three set. We go to the other side of the dance floor and dance with a Japanese two set for a bit and then open a couple of other sets on the dance floor, before finally going back to the three set. I go start dancing with the Rawandan chick – first thing she says to me is, “you disappeared.” I dance with her for a bit and then hit her with the third step in the Jimmy Jambone 3 step escalation. Next thing you know, I’m making out with her, biting her neck, pulling her hair and talking dirty in her ear, “I’m going to fuck the shit out of you…” She’s loving it. After a little while, I try to extract her. ”No, I can’t leave my friends.” She says.
“C’mon, just come over here with me.” I say and pull her aside to where the restrooms are. I get her in the little hallway outside of the women’s restroom and make out with her some more against the wall. Security comes over and kicks us out of there…
I’m trying to get her to come home with me, but she keeps saying this “No, I can’t leave my friends” crap. Which frustrates me, because there’s two of her friends. They’d be fine getting home by theirselves if she were to leave. I extract her from the dance floor back up stairs to a couch. I have her all over me – biting my earlobes, her hands up my shirt, my hands up her shirt, me pulling the shit out of her hair the whole time. Burto leaves and goes to another bar where Becky is. Sooner or later, Burto comes back with Becky and her friends and gets three of them to come up to me and kiss me on the cheek while I’m sitting on the couch with the Rawandan chick.
I still can’t get her to leave the bar with me, so I give up for a bit and hang out with Burto and Becky and her friends. Rawandan goes back downstairs to the dance floor with her friends. Eventually, I go back down there. She’s on the dancefloor holding some other guy’s hand, but he’s beta as fuck, I just grab her and pull her towards the bar – no resistance there, and the guy doesn’t say shit about me snatching a chick off of his arm. I pull her to the bar and make out with her some more. ”C’mon, I’m leaving,” I say, “Walk me out.” I get her to walk me out of the bar, all the way to the corner of the street, but she stops there. I make out with her a bit and she’s biting my ear and putting her hand up my shirt. I’m pulling her hair and jerking her head all over the place and telling her I’m going to fuck the shit out of her. She calls me “a naughty boy” and I say something stupid like, “Naw, I’ m not naughty.” I try to take her with me to Burto’s but she gives me resistance again… “I can’t leave my friends! I can’t leave my friends!” Shit frustrates the hell out of me, and I just let her go and walk off. We head down the street, heading back towards Burto’s when all of the sudden, I realize I don’t have my jacket on. Fuck. I left it on the couch in the bar. So, now I got to go back.
I go back into the bar to get my jacket. Rawandan is sitting in the middle of the bar with her friends now…. and I get my jacket and am ready to go, when she reaches her hand out towards me. I snatch it up and take her to the bar. Make out with her again, and then tell her I’ll give her friends my name and phone number, so they know who she’s with and she’ll be fine leaving them. She’s still not going for it. I say fuck it, and give up.
So close, yet, so far….
Monday night… I’m out in Soho with Moran and one of his students. Learning rapid escaltation. Shit is fun as hell. Great game for loud nightclubs. We bounce around between three different clubs, and I start to rapid escalate chicks like Moran taught me. I find it harder to do with 2 sets and easier when you can catch a chick by herself. At one club, there’s only one cute chick there. First, I try to pull her in when she walks by, but she’s not having it. Then, I see her sitting with her friends, one girl and one guy, across the bar, so I go up to her and say, “you look bored as fuck! You like like an old boring grandma in the fucking club!” Her response, “dude… what the fuck….” but I just ignore her and open the guy she’s with. I talk to him a bit and then talk to her other friend and then, I talk to her. She says she’s from King’s Cross and I tease her by saying. ”The train station? That must’ve been a horrible childhood growing up in a train station.” “Oh, yeah, it was awful!” She says. We talk for a bit, then I head to the dancefloor with Moran. Sooner or later, her and her friends head to the dance floor, I try to fuck with her again, but the dude who she’s with white-knights her hard.
So, we leave. On to another club. At this point, I just rapid escalate a lot of chicks in the club. At one point, I got one chick with a busted face jumping all over me, I lift up her leg and play with her pussy a bit, but there’s nothing I really want from this chick, so I let her go, and move on. Then, I rapid escalate a real cute chick. Next thing I know, I’m dancing with her, making out with her, she’s biting my earlobes, I’m in her ear telling her, “I’m going to make you cum so many times….” and shit like that. She’s well into it. I try to slide my hand down the back of her pants and play with her pussy, but she snatches my arm out of there. I just keep doing what I’m doing – biting her neck, making out with her and talking dirty in her ear. I try to slide my hand down the back of her pants to finger her again, and again she grabs my arm and pulls my hand out of her pants, “not here” she says. I take this as my cue, “c’mon, let’s go” I say and grab her hand and lead her up the stairs to the cloackroom.
We get our coats, but the only problem now is Moran and I checked our coats together. I’m trying to just get mine and leave his, but the cloakroom guy is saying I have to take both because they close in 5 minutes. I’m also trying to figure out how I’m going to extract this chick back to Hampstead when I really don’t know how to get there. My chick asks me where I’m staying…. “Hampstead.”
“That’s far, my place is probably closer.”
“Where do you live?”
“Essex.”
“Bullshit, no way that’s closer.”
Before I get her fully extracted…. her “best friend in the whole wide world.” walks out of the club and walks across the street, sits down and starts crying.
“Oh my gosh! I have to go check on my friend!” Says my chick and runs across the street. Fuck! That doesn’t seem good for my SNL.
I decide to just go back into the club and give Moran his coat. Then, I go back out, I catch my girl on the stairs and turn her around, “hey you!” she says to me, smiles and kisses me, “I’m still trying to make sure my friend is okay. I had to go get our other friend” They go back across the street to console their friend.
I’m pretty sure my SNL is over. Moran’s student agrees with me…. “that set’s cold now. That’s just completely dead.”
Probably so, but I’m only in town for like two more days, so I go sit down with the chicks and put my arm around my chick. She kisses me, but then says she has to go home with her friend, and her friend lives with her parents, so I can’t come. “If we were going to mine, you could come, but I have to go to hers and stay with her. I can’t leave her like this, and she lives with her parents.” I try to figure out something logistically, and she even asks her friend if she has to stay with her. And, the fucking friend says “yes”. So, I can’t bounce her at all. Not with her friend like this… I take her facebook and phone number and head off.
Again….
So close, yet so far….. fucking logistics! fucking chick’s friends!
Début de l'événement
31.01.2021
Fin de l'événement
31.01.2021
Long-Distance Relationships: Challenges and Realities
Description
Things You Should Never Tell Your Dating Partner
Why Romantic Comedies Might Ruin Your Love Life
The Pitfalls of Long-Distance Dating
A Humorous Take on Culture, Fun, and Dating Standards
Whats In A Name?
The Loveawake Guide to One-Night Stand Etiquette
Advice to My Younger Self
3 Signs That You Might Be A Bitter Man
Let’s Be Friends.
Roses
Men Temptation and Commitment
Night Out Etiquette: Nightlife Etiquette Loveawake Style
Monogamy for Dummies
Oh No (S)He Didn’t!
The Dangers of Rating Your Girlfriend
if true, if most black women do carry shaq sized boulders on their shoulders, are there legitmate reasons for this? when considering the many uphill battles they face, do black women have to stay, to quote one of my cousins “aggresively guarded to stay sane”?
also, since men are typically attracted to “soft”, pleasant, compassionate, and affectionate women, how much does the angry black chick dynamic impact the dating scene?
for those with angry black chick discussion fatigue…sorry. (God-willing) in a couple months, one of the inhibitants of the white house will be a (then) 45 year old black woman who has already had the entire perfunctory “how to label a black woman” kit thrown at her by many detractors, with “unpatroitic” and “elitist” added for good measure…so those tired of this discussion better find they asses a second wind.
Now, with the millennials, we are seeing a generation of largely impoverished young men. Millennial girls are looking at what life is like for most of their peers and thinking “if you feminists don’t want a man, that’s fine, but I do, so I’m no feminist.” But what use could a man possibly be if he has no money to speak of? Only someone who has never lived with a woman could find that one hard to answer. A healthy young man with no money can drive, carry things, fix things, protect his mate, solve problems, save money, do chores — the list goes on. And when he gets a job, he will pay his way and do all these things, even if he makes less than his girlfriend. It’s a much, much better deal for a woman than a female roommate. Add to this the fact that most pink-collar jobs are low-wage service jobs, and having a man around who contributes anything at all is mighty helpful for the typical young woman.
What created this “independent woman” myth was the great prosperity of the baby boomer era, which lasted from roughly the mid 60s to the mid 2000s. Men abounded, and they were flush with cash. Businesses could afford to hire superfluous cute girls and give them nice salaries. Family courts could rob men blind and they’d still have enough left over for a reasonable lifestyle and a chance to start over. Men were harvesting the fat of the land, and there was more than enough to go around. My blue-collar father bought a house on Capitol Hill in Seattle when he was in his mid 20s. Today, that same house would sell for about a million dollars — even a well-compensated professional would have a hard time affording it.
Why Romantic Comedies Might Ruin Your Love Life
The Pitfalls of Long-Distance Dating
A Humorous Take on Culture, Fun, and Dating Standards
Whats In A Name?
The Loveawake Guide to One-Night Stand Etiquette
Advice to My Younger Self
3 Signs That You Might Be A Bitter Man
Let’s Be Friends.
Roses
Men Temptation and Commitment
Night Out Etiquette: Nightlife Etiquette Loveawake Style
Monogamy for Dummies
Oh No (S)He Didn’t!
The Dangers of Rating Your Girlfriend
if true, if most black women do carry shaq sized boulders on their shoulders, are there legitmate reasons for this? when considering the many uphill battles they face, do black women have to stay, to quote one of my cousins “aggresively guarded to stay sane”?
also, since men are typically attracted to “soft”, pleasant, compassionate, and affectionate women, how much does the angry black chick dynamic impact the dating scene?
for those with angry black chick discussion fatigue…sorry. (God-willing) in a couple months, one of the inhibitants of the white house will be a (then) 45 year old black woman who has already had the entire perfunctory “how to label a black woman” kit thrown at her by many detractors, with “unpatroitic” and “elitist” added for good measure…so those tired of this discussion better find they asses a second wind.
Now, with the millennials, we are seeing a generation of largely impoverished young men. Millennial girls are looking at what life is like for most of their peers and thinking “if you feminists don’t want a man, that’s fine, but I do, so I’m no feminist.” But what use could a man possibly be if he has no money to speak of? Only someone who has never lived with a woman could find that one hard to answer. A healthy young man with no money can drive, carry things, fix things, protect his mate, solve problems, save money, do chores — the list goes on. And when he gets a job, he will pay his way and do all these things, even if he makes less than his girlfriend. It’s a much, much better deal for a woman than a female roommate. Add to this the fact that most pink-collar jobs are low-wage service jobs, and having a man around who contributes anything at all is mighty helpful for the typical young woman.
What created this “independent woman” myth was the great prosperity of the baby boomer era, which lasted from roughly the mid 60s to the mid 2000s. Men abounded, and they were flush with cash. Businesses could afford to hire superfluous cute girls and give them nice salaries. Family courts could rob men blind and they’d still have enough left over for a reasonable lifestyle and a chance to start over. Men were harvesting the fat of the land, and there was more than enough to go around. My blue-collar father bought a house on Capitol Hill in Seattle when he was in his mid 20s. Today, that same house would sell for about a million dollars — even a well-compensated professional would have a hard time affording it.
Début de l'événement
25.11.2021
Fin de l'événement
31.12.2021
Informations générales
Lovelace Ada
Nom de la structure
Lovelace
Contact TAV
Ada
Mon métier, ma fonction
Pionnière de la science informatique
Ma présentation
J'ai réalisé le premier véritable programme informatique, lors de mon travail sur un ancêtre de l'ordinateur : la machine analytique de Charles Babbage.
Nom de la structure
Université de Cambridge
Site Internet
https://fr.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ada_Lovelace
Ville
Londres
MESA - Atelier alimentation santé n°4 : Le sucre
Description
Dans le cadre de la programmation alimentation santé de la MESA, cet atelier sera dédié au sucre : entre plaisir et dépendance, mieux comprendre son impact sur le corps la santé... En présence de professionnel.les de la santé pour mieux nous éclairer !
Début de l'événement
27.09.2023 - 14:00
Fin de l'événement
01.09.2023 - 16:00
Adresse
83 avenue Paul Santy
Code postal
69008
Ville
Lyon
MESA - Atelier alimentation santé n°5 : alimentation et santé mentale
Description
Autour d'un atelier cuisine, venez discuter des liens entre l'alimentation et la santé mentale avec l'équipe de la MESA et des professionnel.les de la santé
Début de l'événement
18.10.2023 - 14:00
Fin de l'événement
18.10.2023 - 16:00
Adresse
83 avenue Paul Santy
Code postal
69008
Ville
Lyon
MESA - Atelier glanage + cuisine partie 1
Description
En partenariat avec la Mission Entrée Est, la MESA proposera à ses adhérent.es une sortie à la journée aux Jardins de Lucie (Commmunay, 69) afin de découvrir le jardin, de jardiner et de ramasser des légumes de saison (dans l'idée d'un futur atelier cuisine à la MESA...)! Le repas sera proposé par l'équipe des Jardins de Lucie.
Plus d'information auprès de l'équipe de la MESA sur mesa-lyon@vrac-asso.org ou sur les réseaux :)
Plus d'information auprès de l'équipe de la MESA sur mesa-lyon@vrac-asso.org ou sur les réseaux :)
Début de l'événement
26.09.2023
Fin de l'événement
26.09.2023
Adresse
Les Jardins de Lucie, chemin du tram
Ville
Communay
MESA - Atelier glanage + cuisine partie 2
Description
Rendez-vous à la MESA pour un atelier de cuisine convivial autour des les légumes ramassés aux Jardins de Lucie lors de la 1ère partie de l'atelier (sortie glanage du 27 septembre) !
Comme pour les mardis anti gaspi, l'idée sera de se retrouver autour des produits de l'épicerie et cette fois-ci des légumes ramassés aux Jardins de Lucie, pour élaborer collectivement le repas du jour que nous dégusterons ensuite... En plus, nous élaborerons une recette à mettre en bocaux pour que chacun.e puisse ramener chez soi à la fin de l'atelier.
L'atelier se déroulera de 10h à 13h30 : un temps de cuisine de 10h à 12h suivi d'un repas partagé et d'un temps de rangement.
Comme pour les mardis anti gaspi, l'idée sera de se retrouver autour des produits de l'épicerie et cette fois-ci des légumes ramassés aux Jardins de Lucie, pour élaborer collectivement le repas du jour que nous dégusterons ensuite... En plus, nous élaborerons une recette à mettre en bocaux pour que chacun.e puisse ramener chez soi à la fin de l'atelier.
L'atelier se déroulera de 10h à 13h30 : un temps de cuisine de 10h à 12h suivi d'un repas partagé et d'un temps de rangement.
Début de l'événement
03.10.2023 - 08:00
Fin de l'événement
03.10.2023 - 11:30
Adresse
83 avenue Paul Santy
Code postal
69008
Ville
Lyon
MESA - Sortie aux Jardins de Lucie
Description
Les Jardins de Lucie ouvrent leurs portes aux adhérent.es de la MESA et habitant.es du 8ème arrondissement pour faire découvrir le lieu de production des bons légumes livrés chaque semaine à la MESA !
Plus d'informations et inscriptions: mesa-lyon@vrac-asso.org
Plus d'informations et inscriptions: mesa-lyon@vrac-asso.org
Début de l'événement
25.10.2023
Fin de l'événement
04.09.2023
Adresse
83 avenue Paul Santy
Code postal
69008
Ville
Lyon
Myths and Realities of Infidelity
Description
A Few Thoughts on Conflict in Dating
Why Trying to "Be More Feminine or Masculine" is a Trap
"Not Good Enough"
Chasing After Instant Chemistry is Foolish
Does Longevity in the Past = Mature Dater Today?
Are You Really Prepared for a Relationship?
Guys Don’t Want to Date “One of The Guys”
Things I Have Learned About Dating
Fear in Dating and Relationships
Does the Person You're Dating Make You Smile
Marrige and Happiness
Is Your Resolution to Find Love in the New Year?
Disappearing Dates
I reject the ones I receive when they’re inadequate. I don’t take the Continental philosophical tradition seriously (nor, on the whole, the Analytic one, for that matter); ergo, I will not be accepting your invitation to read Foucault. Moreover, it is not remotely clear how Foucault’s view, as you articulate it, answers the question of why there should exist a day dedicated to celebrating or taking pride in one’s sexual orientation.
@SophiaBlue
And people told you why this was stupid (to reiterate, because bisexual people have been told that their bisexuality is something to be ashamed of, so celebrating bisexual pride is a way to overcome that). You responded by pretending that no one addressed your points, so perhaps you can understand why people aren’t taking you seriously.
There is no pretence, I assure you. As far as the answer you give here is concerned, there seem to be much better ways of overcoming the shame some feel at being bisexual than dedicating a day in the aforementioned manner.
@Donna L
Is there any group identity that you feel does merit pride or any kind of commemoration by means of a parade or other public celebration?
Yes.
@tigtog
Do you feel the same way about Pride parades/celebrations generally? Because if you do, then I’m going to write you off as a contrarian without a worthwhile argument. If you don’t, then I’m going to write you off as a hypocrite without a worthwhile argument.
With respect to sexual orientation, yes, I regard all pride parades/celebrations as irrational. I responded to this topic in particular since it has some personal associations for me, as explained above.
Why Trying to "Be More Feminine or Masculine" is a Trap
"Not Good Enough"
Chasing After Instant Chemistry is Foolish
Does Longevity in the Past = Mature Dater Today?
Are You Really Prepared for a Relationship?
Guys Don’t Want to Date “One of The Guys”
Things I Have Learned About Dating
Fear in Dating and Relationships
Does the Person You're Dating Make You Smile
Marrige and Happiness
Is Your Resolution to Find Love in the New Year?
Disappearing Dates
I reject the ones I receive when they’re inadequate. I don’t take the Continental philosophical tradition seriously (nor, on the whole, the Analytic one, for that matter); ergo, I will not be accepting your invitation to read Foucault. Moreover, it is not remotely clear how Foucault’s view, as you articulate it, answers the question of why there should exist a day dedicated to celebrating or taking pride in one’s sexual orientation.
@SophiaBlue
And people told you why this was stupid (to reiterate, because bisexual people have been told that their bisexuality is something to be ashamed of, so celebrating bisexual pride is a way to overcome that). You responded by pretending that no one addressed your points, so perhaps you can understand why people aren’t taking you seriously.
There is no pretence, I assure you. As far as the answer you give here is concerned, there seem to be much better ways of overcoming the shame some feel at being bisexual than dedicating a day in the aforementioned manner.
@Donna L
Is there any group identity that you feel does merit pride or any kind of commemoration by means of a parade or other public celebration?
Yes.
@tigtog
Do you feel the same way about Pride parades/celebrations generally? Because if you do, then I’m going to write you off as a contrarian without a worthwhile argument. If you don’t, then I’m going to write you off as a hypocrite without a worthwhile argument.
With respect to sexual orientation, yes, I regard all pride parades/celebrations as irrational. I responded to this topic in particular since it has some personal associations for me, as explained above.
Début de l'événement
26.12.2022
Fin de l'événement
26.12.2022
Noah's Fricking Ark
Description
How a Meddling Mother Nearly Ruined My Marriage
How We Rebuilt Our Marriage Through Therapy
Saving a Marriage After an Affair
Can Marriage Survive Infidelity?
Is Your Marriage a Partnership or a Prison?
Keep Him From Walking Out That Door
Managing Expectations in Dating
Why I Believe In Marriage
Dating Advice From Happily Married Couples
The Man or the Money
Walk Away From Parental Control in Relationships
When You’re Stuck in the “Casual Dating” Zone
A Necessary Courtesy or Just Overkill in Online Dating?
Do you ever get that feeling that EVERYONE you know is coupling up? And it's so damned depressing because you wonder, what the hell is wrong with ME, that I can't meet someone?
OK, pity party is over.
I really don't have much to complain about right now -- I just spent a week in the sunny Caribbean, scuba diving with family. And next week I'm off to visit friends in Europe. I know it sounds like a charmed life, but trust me, this is all happening on the uber-cheap. (and yes, I do work -- I have vacation time this month)
True, all this so-called jet-setting isn't exactly conducive to forming a stable relationship. It'll be good for me to get away from NY for a little while and put the dating game on hold. It can become obsessive.
In the meantime -- I keep thinking about some past exes, and their new loves:
Kosher Guy -- I saw someone who looked just like him on a beach last week. He's married now. And while I'm VERY happy not to have married him (we came close)... I've been thinking about him lately. Or maybe I'm just missing that closeness? "Leo" -- we dated for two years, a million years ago (with subsequent flings for ages afterwards) -- and he's one of my best friends today. I love him for being a good friend, and nothing more (I think)... so why did I feel a twinge of angst when I got an Evite from his newish girlfriend for his birthday party? (I'm going to be out of town, thank God!)
* BikeRacingGuy -- dated for a few months last summer, have stayed friendly ever since. He's been happily dating someone else for a few months now. Not so much of a twinge there.
Squeezing in a few more dates before I head out of town again:
1. tomorrow afternoon: coffee with Neighbor Guy -- a first date. I got a really good vibe from his profile and on the phone. He lives only a few blocks away, but is about to move to another borough.
2. tomorrow night: second date with Foodie Guy. It's been a LONG time since I've been on a second date with someone, so I'm looking forward to it. We exchanged a few e-mails while I was away, which was nice. I have a bit of a tan, so I'm looking forward to wearing a cute little dress -- maybe even sandals, weather permitting. (ok, that's being overly optimistic...)
So -- other singletons out there -- do you ever feel like I do, that everyone is in great relationships and having hot sex, but you? Oh man... do I miss sex...! I do have a friend I can call for "benefits"... but I'd rather wait until my next serious relationship. [She says NOW... wait til she's feeling horny, after one too many mojitos!]
Speaking of mojitos, heading out to a friend's birthday party in the east village. 'Night!
How a Meddling Mother Nearly Ruined My Marriage
How We Rebuilt Our Marriage Through Therapy
Saving a Marriage After an Affair
Can Marriage Survive Infidelity?
Is Your Marriage a Partnership or a Prison?
Keep Him From Walking Out That Door
Managing Expectations in Dating
Why I Believe In Marriage
Dating Advice From Happily Married Couples
The Man or the Money
Walk Away From Parental Control in Relationships
When You’re Stuck in the “Casual Dating” Zone
A Necessary Courtesy or Just Overkill in Online Dating?
Do you ever get that feeling that EVERYONE you know is coupling up? And it's so damned depressing because you wonder, what the hell is wrong with ME, that I can't meet someone?
OK, pity party is over.
I really don't have much to complain about right now -- I just spent a week in the sunny Caribbean, scuba diving with family. And next week I'm off to visit friends in Europe. I know it sounds like a charmed life, but trust me, this is all happening on the uber-cheap. (and yes, I do work -- I have vacation time this month)
True, all this so-called jet-setting isn't exactly conducive to forming a stable relationship. It'll be good for me to get away from NY for a little while and put the dating game on hold. It can become obsessive.
In the meantime -- I keep thinking about some past exes, and their new loves:
Kosher Guy -- I saw someone who looked just like him on a beach last week. He's married now. And while I'm VERY happy not to have married him (we came close)... I've been thinking about him lately. Or maybe I'm just missing that closeness? "Leo" -- we dated for two years, a million years ago (with subsequent flings for ages afterwards) -- and he's one of my best friends today. I love him for being a good friend, and nothing more (I think)... so why did I feel a twinge of angst when I got an Evite from his newish girlfriend for his birthday party? (I'm going to be out of town, thank God!)
* BikeRacingGuy -- dated for a few months last summer, have stayed friendly ever since. He's been happily dating someone else for a few months now. Not so much of a twinge there.
Squeezing in a few more dates before I head out of town again:
1. tomorrow afternoon: coffee with Neighbor Guy -- a first date. I got a really good vibe from his profile and on the phone. He lives only a few blocks away, but is about to move to another borough.
2. tomorrow night: second date with Foodie Guy. It's been a LONG time since I've been on a second date with someone, so I'm looking forward to it. We exchanged a few e-mails while I was away, which was nice. I have a bit of a tan, so I'm looking forward to wearing a cute little dress -- maybe even sandals, weather permitting. (ok, that's being overly optimistic...)
So -- other singletons out there -- do you ever feel like I do, that everyone is in great relationships and having hot sex, but you? Oh man... do I miss sex...! I do have a friend I can call for "benefits"... but I'd rather wait until my next serious relationship. [She says NOW... wait til she's feeling horny, after one too many mojitos!]
Speaking of mojitos, heading out to a friend's birthday party in the east village. 'Night!
Début de l'événement
26.03.2021
Fin de l'événement
26.03.2021
No Cash, Just Love: How to Date Online Without Breaking the Bank
Description
Signs Men Look For Before Approaching
It’s Okay Not To Fight For Your Girl
I Have No White Friends
When Romance Gets Real
How Fashion Trends Test Masculinity and Memory
Getting Ready for ‘I Do’
Why Is It Hard For Men To Write About Sex?
Why Love Means Tolerating Each Other's Quirks
When Love Escapes Us.
But (piggybacking off #activistpickuplines), if you happen to be out today, and you see someone you’re interested in, and you suspect this someone is a Bougie Black Person, here are a few things you can say that’ll help your luck.
1. “Let me stamp that passport.”
2. “Did you get those jeans from Target? Cause there’s a bullseye on dat ass.”
3. “Do you like Thai food?”
“Yes. Why?”
“Cause I’m gonna Thai dat ass up.”
4. “Damn, girl. I’d like to Jack your Jill.”
5. “The only Foreign Exchange we’ll need is my ass on your face.”
6. “The gallery crawl in my pants is free all night long.”
7. “You know what NSBE stands for, right?”
“What?”
“N*ggas Sexin Bitches’ Ears.”
8. “I bet you love leaving big tips, don’t you?”
9. “Eight inches is the only number I’m trying to keep down.”
10. “It’s a Different World from where I come from. And in my bedroom.”
11. “I know you’re natural, girl, but come here and lemme relax you.”
12. “I’m gonna displace those panties. Call me the gentrifier.”
13.”The only gladiator I know is being glad I ate her.”
14. “Why don’t you and your friend come over, and we can have an all-night Groupon.”
15. “Is that a gluten-free lettuce wrap in your pocket, or are you just happy to see me?”
16. “You remind me of my Naked Juice. Cause I want to substitute you for a meal.”
Did I forget any?
It’s Okay Not To Fight For Your Girl
I Have No White Friends
When Romance Gets Real
How Fashion Trends Test Masculinity and Memory
Getting Ready for ‘I Do’
Why Is It Hard For Men To Write About Sex?
Why Love Means Tolerating Each Other's Quirks
When Love Escapes Us.
But (piggybacking off #activistpickuplines), if you happen to be out today, and you see someone you’re interested in, and you suspect this someone is a Bougie Black Person, here are a few things you can say that’ll help your luck.
1. “Let me stamp that passport.”
2. “Did you get those jeans from Target? Cause there’s a bullseye on dat ass.”
3. “Do you like Thai food?”
“Yes. Why?”
“Cause I’m gonna Thai dat ass up.”
4. “Damn, girl. I’d like to Jack your Jill.”
5. “The only Foreign Exchange we’ll need is my ass on your face.”
6. “The gallery crawl in my pants is free all night long.”
7. “You know what NSBE stands for, right?”
“What?”
“N*ggas Sexin Bitches’ Ears.”
8. “I bet you love leaving big tips, don’t you?”
9. “Eight inches is the only number I’m trying to keep down.”
10. “It’s a Different World from where I come from. And in my bedroom.”
11. “I know you’re natural, girl, but come here and lemme relax you.”
12. “I’m gonna displace those panties. Call me the gentrifier.”
13.”The only gladiator I know is being glad I ate her.”
14. “Why don’t you and your friend come over, and we can have an all-night Groupon.”
15. “Is that a gluten-free lettuce wrap in your pocket, or are you just happy to see me?”
16. “You remind me of my Naked Juice. Cause I want to substitute you for a meal.”
Did I forget any?
Début de l'événement
12.11.2021
Fin de l'événement
12.11.2021
OkCupid Success Stories: Matches Made in App Heaven
Description
Rediscovering Love on My Own Terms
Single Men Who Want More Women
Open Letter To Men Who Want More
For Men Who Love Poly Dating
Progressive Love Applauds Too $hort
Is Love the Most Feared Emotion?
Love Kills Self Love & Self Esteem
Are Nagging & Cheating Equally Damaging?
Why Do We Fall In Love? Is It Healthy?
Why Master Monogamy
OK, I know it seems like I’ve been O/D ing on the Graham Greene, Orwell and Le Carre. It’s just like that here, ‘always’ has been, they weren’t really putting much effort into making things up for Literature. You’ll get used to it.
And apologies in advance for the long-ass post.
It’s likely tl;dr but ought to be in the mix as a caveat
[wrt "wtf is going on here, why the sudden surprise?"]
It would behoove us to examine very carefully the source of these claims (which is what they are, in the absence of mass arrests or confessions).
Here’s the actual report commissioned a year back.
http://www.rotherham.gov.uk/downloads/file/1407/independent_inquiry_cse_in_rotherham
Enjoy.
pp. 29, 30 repay a quick read.
“4.3 The Inquiry was given a list of 988 children known to children’s social care, or the Police. 51 were current cases and 937 historic. We read 66 case files in total.
4.4 We took a randomised sample of 19 current and 19 historic cases. In 95% of the files sampled, there was clear evidence that the child had been a victim of sexual exploitation. Only two children (5%) were at risk of being exploited rather than victims. From the random samples, we concluded that it was very probable that a high proportion of the 988 children were victims.
4.5 A further 28 case files were read. 22 were historic cases sampled from lists of suspected victims in police operations, including Central, Czar and Chard. Three were current cases brought to our attention during the course of the Inquiry, and three were historic cases of children who had been highlighted by national media. All 28 children were victims of sexual exploitation.”
So, that’s 38 actual cases, with a 95% hit rate, and a bonus 28 casefiles read on top and determined by some means or other to be jus as appalling. The report assures us they were a randomised sample and not cherrypicked. This is then extrapolated to cover the whole 12-year period with its actual casework bingy-boinging around between say 50 and 250 a year. No word on double-counting from year to year (a fave bureaucrat technique for resource-garnering) and other forms of repeat customers.
TBH I’m in over my chin at this point, I’m no Dalrock.
Point is, the horror-figure is a fairly rough-and-ready estimate.
Now for the bringer of bad tidings herself.
Single Men Who Want More Women
Open Letter To Men Who Want More
For Men Who Love Poly Dating
Progressive Love Applauds Too $hort
Is Love the Most Feared Emotion?
Love Kills Self Love & Self Esteem
Are Nagging & Cheating Equally Damaging?
Why Do We Fall In Love? Is It Healthy?
Why Master Monogamy
OK, I know it seems like I’ve been O/D ing on the Graham Greene, Orwell and Le Carre. It’s just like that here, ‘always’ has been, they weren’t really putting much effort into making things up for Literature. You’ll get used to it.
And apologies in advance for the long-ass post.
It’s likely tl;dr but ought to be in the mix as a caveat
[wrt "wtf is going on here, why the sudden surprise?"]
It would behoove us to examine very carefully the source of these claims (which is what they are, in the absence of mass arrests or confessions).
Here’s the actual report commissioned a year back.
http://www.rotherham.gov.uk/downloads/file/1407/independent_inquiry_cse_in_rotherham
Enjoy.
pp. 29, 30 repay a quick read.
“4.3 The Inquiry was given a list of 988 children known to children’s social care, or the Police. 51 were current cases and 937 historic. We read 66 case files in total.
4.4 We took a randomised sample of 19 current and 19 historic cases. In 95% of the files sampled, there was clear evidence that the child had been a victim of sexual exploitation. Only two children (5%) were at risk of being exploited rather than victims. From the random samples, we concluded that it was very probable that a high proportion of the 988 children were victims.
4.5 A further 28 case files were read. 22 were historic cases sampled from lists of suspected victims in police operations, including Central, Czar and Chard. Three were current cases brought to our attention during the course of the Inquiry, and three were historic cases of children who had been highlighted by national media. All 28 children were victims of sexual exploitation.”
So, that’s 38 actual cases, with a 95% hit rate, and a bonus 28 casefiles read on top and determined by some means or other to be jus as appalling. The report assures us they were a randomised sample and not cherrypicked. This is then extrapolated to cover the whole 12-year period with its actual casework bingy-boinging around between say 50 and 250 a year. No word on double-counting from year to year (a fave bureaucrat technique for resource-garnering) and other forms of repeat customers.
TBH I’m in over my chin at this point, I’m no Dalrock.
Point is, the horror-figure is a fairly rough-and-ready estimate.
Now for the bringer of bad tidings herself.
Début de l'événement
10.12.2022
Fin de l'événement
10.12.2022
Online Dating with Confidence: How to Let Go of Insecurities
Description
What Do Women REALLY Want?
The Top 10 Natural PUA Film Characters
Relax Dude I Am Not Swinging From Your Nuts
How To Survive Dating a ‘Walking Smoker’
Setting Yourself Apart From the Herd
The Best Reasons to Withhold Your Cakes
He Finally Has Me And Now He’s Bored?
12 Things Dull People Do That Make Them Boring
The Independent Single Woman: Self-Satisfaction
Sex really should not be something that affects your day either way (ie: as in "make it or break it" as to whether your day is a good one or not). I mean...if having sex or having a bf/gf is the only thing that brings you happiness or meaning, that's REALLY sad and indicative of a person who has no life.
Sex and dating should be something that enhances your life (and hers) and is a happy addition to your life.
Not a weird, sex-driven attempt to fill all the voids in your life and correct all your emotional problems with sexual release.
April 13, 2010 2:09:00 PM EST
Lady Raine said...
Adrian--
It's clear you don't understand females in any capacity.
Women don't "dress up" for men. They dress up primarily to compete with each other and for the obvious logical reason that attractive women get treated better by EVERYONE including other women, children, men, store clerks, bosses, employees, bus drivers, creditors, etc.
It's something that any woman with perception knows. If women wore make up and heels when looking to fuck or looking for a date, then why do married women still do those things?
Why do women wear make up and fancy outfits around female friends, then if it's to "get male attention"?
Then are the older ladies who wear heels and dresses and make up to Church also there "for some dick" and hoping for a catcall?
NO.
That's called "wishful thinking" on the part of men that we only care about our appearance....for men.
Do you realize how idiotic that sounds?
The truth is that a woman can go out looking a mess in sweatpants and no make-up and she'll still get male sexual attention. Every woman knows it and so does every man, so if you want to delude yourself into believing that women look nice because we have to "try" to get attention, you must not know any women.
The Top 10 Natural PUA Film Characters
Relax Dude I Am Not Swinging From Your Nuts
How To Survive Dating a ‘Walking Smoker’
Setting Yourself Apart From the Herd
The Best Reasons to Withhold Your Cakes
He Finally Has Me And Now He’s Bored?
12 Things Dull People Do That Make Them Boring
The Independent Single Woman: Self-Satisfaction
- Typically someone who is "too obsessed" with sex is someone who is using sex as a quick fix like drugs or alcohol to fill a void in the areas of accomplishment, self-esteem, and personal standards.
Sex really should not be something that affects your day either way (ie: as in "make it or break it" as to whether your day is a good one or not). I mean...if having sex or having a bf/gf is the only thing that brings you happiness or meaning, that's REALLY sad and indicative of a person who has no life.
Sex and dating should be something that enhances your life (and hers) and is a happy addition to your life.
Not a weird, sex-driven attempt to fill all the voids in your life and correct all your emotional problems with sexual release.
April 13, 2010 2:09:00 PM EST
Lady Raine said...
Adrian--
It's clear you don't understand females in any capacity.
Women don't "dress up" for men. They dress up primarily to compete with each other and for the obvious logical reason that attractive women get treated better by EVERYONE including other women, children, men, store clerks, bosses, employees, bus drivers, creditors, etc.
It's something that any woman with perception knows. If women wore make up and heels when looking to fuck or looking for a date, then why do married women still do those things?
Why do women wear make up and fancy outfits around female friends, then if it's to "get male attention"?
Then are the older ladies who wear heels and dresses and make up to Church also there "for some dick" and hoping for a catcall?
NO.
That's called "wishful thinking" on the part of men that we only care about our appearance....for men.
Do you realize how idiotic that sounds?
The truth is that a woman can go out looking a mess in sweatpants and no make-up and she'll still get male sexual attention. Every woman knows it and so does every man, so if you want to delude yourself into believing that women look nice because we have to "try" to get attention, you must not know any women.
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Venez rencontrer l'AMAP du Bachut et découvrir son fonctionnement autour d'un verre, le temps de la livraison.
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Apéro offert par l'AMAP.
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Re-establishing Boundaries: Protecting Your Marriage
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He Had an Affair Because I Stopped Initiating Sex
He Makes Me Feel Bad About Being Fat
He Lost Interest in Our Marriage
Saving A Marriage: He Lost His Job
He Lets His Mother Rule Our Lives and I'm Sick of It
Commitment Jitters
Love and Lust: When Chemistry Outruns Endurance
Bi Bi Love
Dealing With Your Partner’s Bedroom Confessions
Can His Squalor Be Squelched?
Asunder Down Under
Conquering Long Distance Dating
Coveting a Coworker
Cali Bradshaw
January 13, 2012 at 6:08 pm #
AS always, I think you are rad. Your comment summed up my thoughts exactly. Thanks for chiming in!
-Cali
As a gay woman I just wanted to say I think this site is hilarious and really accurate even for girls dating girls. It seems that whenever anybody likes anyone regardless of gender they are in for a roller coaster! Is there a way to escape the drama…..? I think not.
Aw thanks, Emma! I love to hear that it is relevant to you too and I think you are right on, there is no way to escape the drama! Thanks for the comment. -Cali
Comparing that to a long term relationship just…is apples and oranges. Going to celebrate my 4 year wedding anniversary next week and we’ve been through some rough times and was able to hold things together. A daughter who we weren’t sure would even make it the first month she was born and who will never walk and has constant Dr Appointments. My own crappy health issues and does my job, my house and my pets stay on my side and help me get through this? Do I have practice difficult conversations and maintain intimacy and vulnerability with these things? Yes friends can help but friends also have their own lives and burdens and sometimes you don’t want to overwhelm them with what is going on in your life.
I think having prior long term relationship experience can be valuable. It helps people grow up. I learned how to compromise and work out problems in my first long term relationship and also figure out what I wanted and didn’t want in a long term partner. His ex gf also had a lot of health and substance abuse issues and he was there for her and tried his longest to be there for her until he got sober and she was unable and the relationship finally ended. By the time we got together we had a head start in dealing with difficult situations and weren’t stumbling and figure it out together. We knew how to commit and still value it to this day.
He Makes Me Feel Bad About Being Fat
He Lost Interest in Our Marriage
Saving A Marriage: He Lost His Job
He Lets His Mother Rule Our Lives and I'm Sick of It
Commitment Jitters
Love and Lust: When Chemistry Outruns Endurance
Bi Bi Love
Dealing With Your Partner’s Bedroom Confessions
Can His Squalor Be Squelched?
Asunder Down Under
Conquering Long Distance Dating
Coveting a Coworker
Cali Bradshaw
January 13, 2012 at 6:08 pm #
AS always, I think you are rad. Your comment summed up my thoughts exactly. Thanks for chiming in!
-Cali
As a gay woman I just wanted to say I think this site is hilarious and really accurate even for girls dating girls. It seems that whenever anybody likes anyone regardless of gender they are in for a roller coaster! Is there a way to escape the drama…..? I think not.
Aw thanks, Emma! I love to hear that it is relevant to you too and I think you are right on, there is no way to escape the drama! Thanks for the comment. -Cali
Comparing that to a long term relationship just…is apples and oranges. Going to celebrate my 4 year wedding anniversary next week and we’ve been through some rough times and was able to hold things together. A daughter who we weren’t sure would even make it the first month she was born and who will never walk and has constant Dr Appointments. My own crappy health issues and does my job, my house and my pets stay on my side and help me get through this? Do I have practice difficult conversations and maintain intimacy and vulnerability with these things? Yes friends can help but friends also have their own lives and burdens and sometimes you don’t want to overwhelm them with what is going on in your life.
I think having prior long term relationship experience can be valuable. It helps people grow up. I learned how to compromise and work out problems in my first long term relationship and also figure out what I wanted and didn’t want in a long term partner. His ex gf also had a lot of health and substance abuse issues and he was there for her and tried his longest to be there for her until he got sober and she was unable and the relationship finally ended. By the time we got together we had a head start in dealing with difficult situations and weren’t stumbling and figure it out together. We knew how to commit and still value it to this day.
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18.03.2023
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18.03.2023
Redefining Strength in Romantic Masculinity
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More On the Nuclear Family with Children Narrative
Loosening the Chains of the Nuclear Family
Kindness and Modern Dating
How to Navigate Uncertainty in Online Dating
A Dating Suggestion to the Deeply Frustrated
Rethinking Gender Norms in Modern Dating
Obsessing About Strangers
Two Dates in One
Texts Or Calls And Dating
Men Like a Challenge
Men Want to Feel Manly
Issues with the Language of Dating Angst
N’jaila: I’ve dated mostly Asian and Asian American men, which apparently makes me a freak of nature. Even my Asian and Indian girlfriends have made me feel like there was something wrong with me for dating Asian. Black women and Asian men are not supposed to date and my mom didn’t get the memo and passed on her strange mutation to me. There are times I feel especially alienated when my friends or coworkers ask the race of one of my dates and laugh at me when I say “Asian”.
There is a fear that I’m too Black and too Asian to be anything than an exotic romp. Black women’s sexualities’ are either way over amplified or completely disregarded. Mammy or Jezebel, either situation leaves me out of the dating pool for many men.
I think for me its also more complicated because I work in the adult industry. A lot of people assume that I’m dating a non-Black man because no Black man in his right mind would want to “turn a ho into a housewife”. I think sometimes you can get so wrapped up in how you assume or fear a man will see you that it ends a relationship before it can begin.
Cheryl Lynn: I date interracially, but I often forget when I am. My friends and family don’t make it an issue at all. The neighborhoods I reside in don’t make it an issue. The only time it was an issue was when I dated someone who passed for white. We accidentally stumbled through an Italian festival in NYC and a white woman looked at me, rolled her eyes , and loudly asked “Why’d he bring her here?” We got the hell out of there pretty fast. I went to a rib joint with the same guy and got a few weird looks from a group of black guys. When I started speaking to my date, one of the dudes actually said “Oh, it’s okay. He’s Puerto Rican!” Seeing some of the nonsense that my friends who are in black/white couples have had to deal with makes me a bit wary of dating white men. I actually told a friend that I couldn’t be bothered with dating interracially after seeing the trouble she went through. My friend laughed and said, “You are in an interracial relationship right now!” I’d completely forgotten! He wasn’t white.
Andrea: I’d be lying if I said no. In quite a few of my past IR relationships, especially with White men, I was “their first time” or some validation of how “not White” (meaning “not boring/status quo/racist”) they are. It’s gotten to the point were I simply ask if this is their first time dating interracially, especially dating a Black woman. This lets me know what I’m getting into or am up against. In my current relationship, I’m dating a White man who I met at an interracial-dating site. In his profile he said (and I quote): “ I’ve dated a number of, and have always been most attracted to, black women–so interracial dating is not a try-out or a new experience for me.” Which heartened me. We’re still working out some stickier points about race and racism in our relationship, where I have to do some gentle anti-racism conversations around humor, for example–but we’re getting along so far.
Loosening the Chains of the Nuclear Family
Kindness and Modern Dating
How to Navigate Uncertainty in Online Dating
A Dating Suggestion to the Deeply Frustrated
Rethinking Gender Norms in Modern Dating
Obsessing About Strangers
Two Dates in One
Texts Or Calls And Dating
Men Like a Challenge
Men Want to Feel Manly
Issues with the Language of Dating Angst
N’jaila: I’ve dated mostly Asian and Asian American men, which apparently makes me a freak of nature. Even my Asian and Indian girlfriends have made me feel like there was something wrong with me for dating Asian. Black women and Asian men are not supposed to date and my mom didn’t get the memo and passed on her strange mutation to me. There are times I feel especially alienated when my friends or coworkers ask the race of one of my dates and laugh at me when I say “Asian”.
There is a fear that I’m too Black and too Asian to be anything than an exotic romp. Black women’s sexualities’ are either way over amplified or completely disregarded. Mammy or Jezebel, either situation leaves me out of the dating pool for many men.
I think for me its also more complicated because I work in the adult industry. A lot of people assume that I’m dating a non-Black man because no Black man in his right mind would want to “turn a ho into a housewife”. I think sometimes you can get so wrapped up in how you assume or fear a man will see you that it ends a relationship before it can begin.
Cheryl Lynn: I date interracially, but I often forget when I am. My friends and family don’t make it an issue at all. The neighborhoods I reside in don’t make it an issue. The only time it was an issue was when I dated someone who passed for white. We accidentally stumbled through an Italian festival in NYC and a white woman looked at me, rolled her eyes , and loudly asked “Why’d he bring her here?” We got the hell out of there pretty fast. I went to a rib joint with the same guy and got a few weird looks from a group of black guys. When I started speaking to my date, one of the dudes actually said “Oh, it’s okay. He’s Puerto Rican!” Seeing some of the nonsense that my friends who are in black/white couples have had to deal with makes me a bit wary of dating white men. I actually told a friend that I couldn’t be bothered with dating interracially after seeing the trouble she went through. My friend laughed and said, “You are in an interracial relationship right now!” I’d completely forgotten! He wasn’t white.
Andrea: I’d be lying if I said no. In quite a few of my past IR relationships, especially with White men, I was “their first time” or some validation of how “not White” (meaning “not boring/status quo/racist”) they are. It’s gotten to the point were I simply ask if this is their first time dating interracially, especially dating a Black woman. This lets me know what I’m getting into or am up against. In my current relationship, I’m dating a White man who I met at an interracial-dating site. In his profile he said (and I quote): “ I’ve dated a number of, and have always been most attracted to, black women–so interracial dating is not a try-out or a new experience for me.” Which heartened me. We’re still working out some stickier points about race and racism in our relationship, where I have to do some gentle anti-racism conversations around humor, for example–but we’re getting along so far.
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02.01.2023
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02.01.2023
Rencontre inter-territoires à Lyon
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Territoires à Vivres - Lyon accueillera les membres des autres territoires du projet (Montpellier, Toulouse et Marseille) aisni que les instances de Territoires à VivreS - National pour leur présenter les enjeux, acteurs et projets locaux. Des temps de travail collectifs s'organiseront autour du thème "Penser la suite de Territoires à VivreS".
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Réunion d'information sur la caisse alimentaire du 8e
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Venez vous informer sur le projet de caisse alimentaire du 8e le 30 janvier à la Mairie du 8e.
Afin de permettre au plus grand nombre de participer, deux sessions auront lieu : l'une à 14h30, l'autre à 18h.
10 ways to make potential love interests say “umm, nevermind. i’m good”
Real Love Isn't Always Fireworks And Butterflies
The Coolest Things About Being In A Relationship
Unpacking the Behavior That Drives Us All Crazy
Why I Hate “Good Girl” Problems
Retarded Relationship Paradoxes
Extremely Tempting…And Toxic Types Of Women
5 Very Smart Ways To Help You Stay Faithful
Afin de permettre au plus grand nombre de participer, deux sessions auront lieu : l'une à 14h30, l'autre à 18h.
10 ways to make potential love interests say “umm, nevermind. i’m good”
Real Love Isn't Always Fireworks And Butterflies
The Coolest Things About Being In A Relationship
Unpacking the Behavior That Drives Us All Crazy
Why I Hate “Good Girl” Problems
Retarded Relationship Paradoxes
Extremely Tempting…And Toxic Types Of Women
5 Very Smart Ways To Help You Stay Faithful
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30.01.2024 - 13:30
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Saving a Marriage in the Digital Age Is Social Media Helping or Hurting
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I Travel The World. Alone.
An Internal Monologue While Perusing Online Dating Matches
How To Hook Up In A Hostel есть 100 дубликат на frisky
How Do You Know When You’re Ready To Vacation Together?
How To Enjoy Travelling When You’re Not On Your Honeymoon
I Fantasize About Other Men
Why It’s Easier To Meet Men On Vacation есть 100 дубликат на frisky
If You’re 300,000 Miles Away, Don’t Call Your New Man
Will Our Marriage Survive Our First Road Trip Together?
When On Vacation ... Just Say Yes
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Mandy Says:
January 16th, 2012 at 5:08 pm
I picked out 2 things from the original post.
1. “I feel like I want to be with him ALL the time.” I think this is a problem for you. You need to make sure you have more in your life than just him. (This goes for everyone, not just you). I believe most healthy relationships involve individuals coming together and enjoying each other–and you can’t enjoy someone else if all they bring to the table is their obsession with you. Make sure you have hobbies and interests and friends outside of just him. And this really has nothing to do with the time frame of your relationship–this goes for anyone.
2.”Im afraid it may ruin what we have or may even make it too comfortable and easy for him (isnt it againts “the rules”?) and he may never pop the question. What do you think? I dont want to regret my choices later on…” I don’t think you relationship is as great and secure as you seem to say that it is if you are thinking about your choices in this way. I think this is normal for only knowing each other 6 weeks! Once you are more comfortable around each other (which can ONLY happen with time), you’ll be able to make a decision based on what’s best for you and for him, and you won’t be wondering if it’s some kind of game. I think you really answered your own question here–if there is any doubt in your mind that he’s a type of guy who won’t ask you to marry him because you’re already living with him, that’s a CLEAR and OBVIOUS sign that you don’t know this guy well enough to move in with him.
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Marshmallow Says:
January 16th, 2012 at 8:10 pm
An Internal Monologue While Perusing Online Dating Matches
How To Hook Up In A Hostel есть 100 дубликат на frisky
How Do You Know When You’re Ready To Vacation Together?
How To Enjoy Travelling When You’re Not On Your Honeymoon
I Fantasize About Other Men
Why It’s Easier To Meet Men On Vacation есть 100 дубликат на frisky
If You’re 300,000 Miles Away, Don’t Call Your New Man
Will Our Marriage Survive Our First Road Trip Together?
When On Vacation ... Just Say Yes
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Mandy Says:
January 16th, 2012 at 5:08 pm
I picked out 2 things from the original post.
1. “I feel like I want to be with him ALL the time.” I think this is a problem for you. You need to make sure you have more in your life than just him. (This goes for everyone, not just you). I believe most healthy relationships involve individuals coming together and enjoying each other–and you can’t enjoy someone else if all they bring to the table is their obsession with you. Make sure you have hobbies and interests and friends outside of just him. And this really has nothing to do with the time frame of your relationship–this goes for anyone.
2.”Im afraid it may ruin what we have or may even make it too comfortable and easy for him (isnt it againts “the rules”?) and he may never pop the question. What do you think? I dont want to regret my choices later on…” I don’t think you relationship is as great and secure as you seem to say that it is if you are thinking about your choices in this way. I think this is normal for only knowing each other 6 weeks! Once you are more comfortable around each other (which can ONLY happen with time), you’ll be able to make a decision based on what’s best for you and for him, and you won’t be wondering if it’s some kind of game. I think you really answered your own question here–if there is any doubt in your mind that he’s a type of guy who won’t ask you to marry him because you’re already living with him, that’s a CLEAR and OBVIOUS sign that you don’t know this guy well enough to move in with him.
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Marshmallow Says:
January 16th, 2012 at 8:10 pm
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Sheer beauty… sheer beauty.
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A Relationship Evolved (and Happy Birthday To My Ex)
The Unforgettable First Kiss
Jealousy Versus Envy
Love Addict: The Pregnancy Dilemma
How Do You Help Someone Who Doesn’t Want Help?
Most Radical Relationship Books On the Market
We Hold Ourselves Back
What Happens When You Actually In Relationship??
Is a Same-Sex Encounter Important in Living Holistically?
You’re a Selfish Bitch and That’s Why You’re Not Married
Learning How to Love Yourself
Love Addict: Writing the Personal
How Do You Learn to Let Go?
I totally agree. It’s almost what I’m currently experiencing. A guy most girls would find attractive (especially after he starts speaking, which is, as far as I can judge, prerequisite to real alphaness) started to show much more interest in me after I, tired after writing him another novel likely to be left without an answer, had restricted the number of messages I send him to 2 or 3 per month and tried to reverse the PM ratio in my favour (which is, given my garrulousness, is already a challenge). Dude, I apparently need an appointment with you to get some more advice and words of wisdom. Still astonished to discover how much of what you write here is true – even though there are some points I just can’t agree with (bear in mind, however, that no one’s perfect and we all are more or less prone to mistakes).
on March 29, 2012 at 3:18 pm | ReplyFred Rotten
“…HER: well we will c what is waiting for us next time. could b good. im wearing those kneehighs u said u liked.
[ten minutes later, after no immediate response]
HER: and fyi, i might be a voyeur. but dont get any ideas.
[twenty minutes later, after no reply]
HER: sorry if im teasing u. im a flirty girl.
[two hours passed]
HIM: Okay!…”
I’m admiring and appreciating this work of art as I would the finest Goya or Titian.
Sheer beauty… sheer beauty.
on March 29, 2012 at 4:29 pm | ReplyJoe Eoj
And yet when I try these sorts of things, girls always seem to eventually give up on me. What am I doing wrong?
on March 29, 2012 at 8:15 pm | ReplyYaReally
You’re not high value enough to them. Usually this is a result of too much push and not enough pull, or simply pushing too fast or too much compared to your value level. The higher value you are to her, the more you can push (like the “Okay!” guy or an abusive guy to a girl with a daddy complex who can run “quit bothering me, fuck off” game and have the girl chase him).
The Unforgettable First Kiss
Jealousy Versus Envy
Love Addict: The Pregnancy Dilemma
How Do You Help Someone Who Doesn’t Want Help?
Most Radical Relationship Books On the Market
We Hold Ourselves Back
What Happens When You Actually In Relationship??
Is a Same-Sex Encounter Important in Living Holistically?
You’re a Selfish Bitch and That’s Why You’re Not Married
Learning How to Love Yourself
Love Addict: Writing the Personal
How Do You Learn to Let Go?
I totally agree. It’s almost what I’m currently experiencing. A guy most girls would find attractive (especially after he starts speaking, which is, as far as I can judge, prerequisite to real alphaness) started to show much more interest in me after I, tired after writing him another novel likely to be left without an answer, had restricted the number of messages I send him to 2 or 3 per month and tried to reverse the PM ratio in my favour (which is, given my garrulousness, is already a challenge). Dude, I apparently need an appointment with you to get some more advice and words of wisdom. Still astonished to discover how much of what you write here is true – even though there are some points I just can’t agree with (bear in mind, however, that no one’s perfect and we all are more or less prone to mistakes).
on March 29, 2012 at 3:18 pm | ReplyFred Rotten
“…HER: well we will c what is waiting for us next time. could b good. im wearing those kneehighs u said u liked.
[ten minutes later, after no immediate response]
HER: and fyi, i might be a voyeur. but dont get any ideas.
[twenty minutes later, after no reply]
HER: sorry if im teasing u. im a flirty girl.
[two hours passed]
HIM: Okay!…”
I’m admiring and appreciating this work of art as I would the finest Goya or Titian.
Sheer beauty… sheer beauty.
on March 29, 2012 at 4:29 pm | ReplyJoe Eoj
And yet when I try these sorts of things, girls always seem to eventually give up on me. What am I doing wrong?
on March 29, 2012 at 8:15 pm | ReplyYaReally
You’re not high value enough to them. Usually this is a result of too much push and not enough pull, or simply pushing too fast or too much compared to your value level. The higher value you are to her, the more you can push (like the “Okay!” guy or an abusive guy to a girl with a daddy complex who can run “quit bothering me, fuck off” game and have the girl chase him).
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16.01.2021
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16.01.2021
Soirée de clôture - Levée de fonds "Solidarités étudiantes"
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Sortie au théâtre
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AUTOPHAGIES, une pièce d’Eva Doumbia au Théâtre de la Croix-Rousse
“Histoires de bananes, riz, tomates, cacahuètes, palmiers, sucre, chocolat… Dès les premières minutes du spectacle, des odeurs d’épices alléchantes nous embarquent loin de l’Europe. Un cuisinier nous prépare un mafé qui s’achèvera en repas partagé. Dans ce rituel culinaire qui mêle poésie, saveurs, musique, danse, gastronomie et documentaire, Eva Doumbia revient sur la provenance et la culture des aliments, témoignant d’une histoire coloniale toujours à l’oeuvre dans nos assiettes. Ne serait-il pas temps de changer durablement nos régimes alimentaires ?”
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En option : participez à une rencontre avec la metteure en scène Eva Doumbia le 13 mai à 18h30 à la Médiathèque de Vaise !
“Histoires de bananes, riz, tomates, cacahuètes, palmiers, sucre, chocolat… Dès les premières minutes du spectacle, des odeurs d’épices alléchantes nous embarquent loin de l’Europe. Un cuisinier nous prépare un mafé qui s’achèvera en repas partagé. Dans ce rituel culinaire qui mêle poésie, saveurs, musique, danse, gastronomie et documentaire, Eva Doumbia revient sur la provenance et la culture des aliments, témoignant d’une histoire coloniale toujours à l’oeuvre dans nos assiettes. Ne serait-il pas temps de changer durablement nos régimes alimentaires ?”
15 MAI 2025 DE 19H À 22H
ℹ️ A partir de 15 ans
⏰ Rendez-vous sur place à 19h.
⏲️ Durée de la pièce : 1h30, suivi d’un temps convivial
En option : participez à une rencontre avec la metteure en scène Eva Doumbia le 13 mai à 18h30 à la Médiathèque de Vaise !
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Stomach = ball of knots.
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We Lived Separate Lives
We Were Living Like Roommates
The Real Reason You Haven't Found Your Perfect Partner
Why Aren't You Married? Facing Your Love Alibi
Ever Have A False Positive In Dating?
When Love Manifestation Turns Into Mani-Frustration
Are You Discounting Yourself In Love?
Ordering Love Like A Latte
Looking For A Quick Fix For Your Love Life?
Impatient for Mr. Right?
Just recently, an overseas friend noted that I hadn't updated the blog in a while, adding, "I hope this means things are going really well!" (with Sam)
I wrote back that things were indeed pretty great, and planned to update the blog with that. We had just passed the ten-month point. It was clear that he loved me, and I loved him -- and we told each other so frequently. Sure, we had our little challenges, but we always managed to talk about them, address them, work on them. In general, I was "feeling the love", and felt really happy and lucky.
Until shit came tumbling down yesterday.
I'm not prepared to go into details right now, and I suspect that will remain the case. Let's just say this is by far the toughest thing we've gone through together. Only time will tell if we can mend this. I hope so. We'll see.
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Two other things:
1. Go vote.
2. Please donate money or time to any of the many Sandy-related causes. It's really bad out there. Heartbreaking.
We Were Living Like Roommates
The Real Reason You Haven't Found Your Perfect Partner
Why Aren't You Married? Facing Your Love Alibi
Ever Have A False Positive In Dating?
When Love Manifestation Turns Into Mani-Frustration
Are You Discounting Yourself In Love?
Ordering Love Like A Latte
Looking For A Quick Fix For Your Love Life?
Impatient for Mr. Right?
Just recently, an overseas friend noted that I hadn't updated the blog in a while, adding, "I hope this means things are going really well!" (with Sam)
I wrote back that things were indeed pretty great, and planned to update the blog with that. We had just passed the ten-month point. It was clear that he loved me, and I loved him -- and we told each other so frequently. Sure, we had our little challenges, but we always managed to talk about them, address them, work on them. In general, I was "feeling the love", and felt really happy and lucky.
Until shit came tumbling down yesterday.
I'm not prepared to go into details right now, and I suspect that will remain the case. Let's just say this is by far the toughest thing we've gone through together. Only time will tell if we can mend this. I hope so. We'll see.
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Two other things:
1. Go vote.
2. Please donate money or time to any of the many Sandy-related causes. It's really bad out there. Heartbreaking.
Début de l'événement
15.04.2023
Fin de l'événement
15.04.2023
Table du 8ème #5
Début de l'événement
01.09.2023 - 14:00
Fin de l'événement
10.08.2023 - 17:15
Adresse
83 avenue Paul Santy
Code postal
69008
Ville
Lyon
Table ronde
Description
Projets d'accès digne à l'Alimentation sur la Métropole de Lyon: Un pas vers la Démocratie Alimentaire?
Projets d'accès digne à l'Alimentation sur la Métropole de Lyon: Un pas vers la Démocratie Alimentaire?
Début de l'événement
30.06.2022 - 18:00
Fin de l'événement
30.06.2022 - 20:00
Adresse
4 grand Cloître du grand Hôtel-Dieu
Code postal
69002
Ville
LYON
Table ronde " Inégalités du champ à l’assiette : identifier les mécanismes pour mieux agir "
Description
De la fourche à la fourchette, de nombreuses injustices perdurent et s’amplifient. Comment les expliquer ? Quelles formes prennent-elles ? Quelles conséquences ont-elles ? Comment agir dessus ?
Cette table ronde se propose d’interroger les injustices alimentaires à l’aune de rapports sociaux à travers un dialogue entre différentes personnalités qui agissent, à leur manière, dans la réduction des inégalités. Ce moment d’échange et de partage sera également l’occasion de réfléchir à la façon dont nous pouvons collectivement contribuer à la lutte contre les injustices et discriminations qui s’exercent dans nos systèmes alimentaires.
Intervenantes :
• Nora Bouazzouni, journaliste, écrivaine et traductrice.
• Sandrine Boireau, paysanne en PPAM, à Chaussan dans les monts du lyonnais.
Amphithéâtre Benveniste du campus de l’Université Lumière Lyon 2, site des Berges du Rhône situé 4 bis rue de l’université, 69007 Lyon
Cette table ronde est co-organisée par Bellebouffe, et en partenariat avec la Chaire ESS !
Inscriptions dans le lien ci-dessous :)
Cette table ronde se propose d’interroger les injustices alimentaires à l’aune de rapports sociaux à travers un dialogue entre différentes personnalités qui agissent, à leur manière, dans la réduction des inégalités. Ce moment d’échange et de partage sera également l’occasion de réfléchir à la façon dont nous pouvons collectivement contribuer à la lutte contre les injustices et discriminations qui s’exercent dans nos systèmes alimentaires.
Intervenantes :
• Nora Bouazzouni, journaliste, écrivaine et traductrice.
• Sandrine Boireau, paysanne en PPAM, à Chaussan dans les monts du lyonnais.
Amphithéâtre Benveniste du campus de l’Université Lumière Lyon 2, site des Berges du Rhône situé 4 bis rue de l’université, 69007 Lyon
Cette table ronde est co-organisée par Bellebouffe, et en partenariat avec la Chaire ESS !
Inscriptions dans le lien ci-dessous :)
Début de l'événement
27.03.2025 - 16:30
Fin de l'événement
27.03.2025 - 18:00
Adresse
4 bis rue de l'Université
Code postal
69007
Ville
Lyon
Temps d'échanges et de présentation de la caisse de l'alimentation
Description
Dans le cadre de l'exposition sur la caisse de l'alimentation de Lyon 8e, à l'occasion de son vernissage, venez en savoir plus sur le projet, poser toutes vos questions et pourquoi pas, rejoindre l'expérimentation !
Début de l'événement
17.10.2024 - 16:00
Fin de l'événement
17.10.2024 - 17:30
Adresse
12 avenue Jean Mermoz
Code postal
69008
Ville
Lyon
Temps d'information - Caisse de l'alimentation
Début de l'événement
20.12.2023 - 14:00
Fin de l'événement
20.12.2023 - 16:30
Adresse
104 route de Vienne
Code postal
69008
Ville
Lyon
Temps d'information - Caisse de l'alimentation
Début de l'événement
21.12.2023 - 15:00
Fin de l'événement
21.12.2023 - 16:30
Adresse
83 avenue Paul Santy
Code postal
69008
Ville
Lyon
Temps d'information - Caisse de l'alimentation
Début de l'événement
20.12.2023 - 09:00
Fin de l'événement
20.12.2023 - 10:30
Adresse
104 route de Vienne
Code postal
69008
Ville
Lyon
Temps d'information caisse alimentaire Lyon 8
Description
Venez vous informer sur l'expérimentation de la caisse alimentaire du 8e !
Début de l'événement
10.01.2024 - 14:30
Fin de l'événement
10.01.2024 - 16:30
Adresse
Epi c'est bon 107 rue Laennec
Code postal
69008
Ville
Lyon
Temps d'information caisse alimentaire Lyon 8
Description
Venez vous informer sur la caisse alimentaire du 8e tout en cuisinant un repas avec des invendus !
Attention : pour participer aux mardis anti-gaspi il est nécessaire de s’inscrire. Pour cela n’hésitez pas à appeler la MESA au 09 82 65 79 83 ou à leur envoyer un mail sur mesa-lyon@vrac-asso.org
Attention : pour participer aux mardis anti-gaspi il est nécessaire de s’inscrire. Pour cela n’hésitez pas à appeler la MESA au 09 82 65 79 83 ou à leur envoyer un mail sur mesa-lyon@vrac-asso.org
Début de l'événement
16.01.2024 - 09:00
Fin de l'événement
16.01.2024 - 12:00
Adresse
MESA 83 avenue Paul Santy
Code postal
69008
Ville
Lyon
Temps d'information caisse alimentaire Lyon 8
Description
Venez vous informer sur le projet de caisse alimentaire du 8e, à la P'tite MJC de la MJC Laënnec-Mermoz (entrée par le square Suzanne Valadon)!
Projet super intéressant, il est nécessaire d'évoquer ces sujets à Lyon.
Projet super intéressant, il est nécessaire d'évoquer ces sujets à Lyon.
Début de l'événement
19.01.2024 - 09:00
Fin de l'événement
19.01.2024 - 10:30
Adresse
P'tite MJC - MJC Laënnec Mermoz
Code postal
69008
Ville
Lyon
Temps d'information caisse alimentaire Lyon 8
Description
Venez vous informer sur le projet de caisse alimentaire du 8e, à la P'tite MJC de la MJC Laënnec-Mermoz (entrée par le square Suzanne Valadon)!
Début de l'événement
19.01.2024 - 14:00
Fin de l'événement
19.01.2024 - 15:30
Adresse
P'tite MJC - MJC Laënnec Mermoz
Code postal
69008
Ville
Lyon
Thanks for the blog material, Dillhole!
Description
My Husband Nags Me About Being Overweight
My Husband Is Old-Fashioned and Sexist
My Husband's Drinking Is Ruining Our Marriage
My Infertility Is Ruining Our Marriage
My Sick Husband Got Better and Our Marriage Got Worse
My Stepdaughter Is Coming Between Us
Reasons Why Black Women Should Date Non-Black Men
Black Women | Black Families | Polyamory
The BS Confident Women Never Tolerate From Men
3 Things You Can Learn From My Failed Relationship
Things Men Say When We’re Just Running Dating Game
Why Is It So Hard to Be Friends With an Ex?
The Awkward Missing Piece of the New Dating Puzzle
Not EVERY First Date is a Winner…
Most Traumatizing First Kiss Ever
I last wrote that I was considering a date with a new J-guy (now known as "Dillhole", for reasons revealed below) -- we IM'd, then talked, then made a plan to get together a few days later.
I decided to cancel the day before. I wrote to him that I'd met someone new, and wanted to see where it would go -- this being only a small part of the real reason that I decided to cancel on him. He just didn't seem all that interesting, but being the tactful person that I am, I didn't feel the need to state that.
He, on the other hand? Not so tactful. His response:
No issue here - I wasn't going to come into the city to meet you anyway. As cool as the IM we exchanged was, as soon as we got on the phone the conversation felt dead. I have enough experience with JDate to know not to expend the effort to meet someone with whom any kind of initial connection is missing.
It's all part of the process. Best wishes on your quest to find a mate.
- Dillhole
Note: this was after he'd already made plans to meet me... so does this mean he was simply planning on standing me up? Don't know, and don't care at this point.
*
In other news -- things seem to be going nicely with Martin. I'm trying not to read into the fact that he just emailed me info on an event that's taking place in October with a note that read, "this looks like fun!". Nosirree, no thoughts along the lines of, "does this mean he still sees us dating then?" Nope, nothing of the sort. Just cool as a cucumber. More or less.
I have a business trip coming up -- will take a temperature when I'm back in town in a week.
My Husband Is Old-Fashioned and Sexist
My Husband's Drinking Is Ruining Our Marriage
My Infertility Is Ruining Our Marriage
My Sick Husband Got Better and Our Marriage Got Worse
My Stepdaughter Is Coming Between Us
Reasons Why Black Women Should Date Non-Black Men
Black Women | Black Families | Polyamory
The BS Confident Women Never Tolerate From Men
3 Things You Can Learn From My Failed Relationship
Things Men Say When We’re Just Running Dating Game
Why Is It So Hard to Be Friends With an Ex?
The Awkward Missing Piece of the New Dating Puzzle
Not EVERY First Date is a Winner…
Most Traumatizing First Kiss Ever
I last wrote that I was considering a date with a new J-guy (now known as "Dillhole", for reasons revealed below) -- we IM'd, then talked, then made a plan to get together a few days later.
I decided to cancel the day before. I wrote to him that I'd met someone new, and wanted to see where it would go -- this being only a small part of the real reason that I decided to cancel on him. He just didn't seem all that interesting, but being the tactful person that I am, I didn't feel the need to state that.
He, on the other hand? Not so tactful. His response:
No issue here - I wasn't going to come into the city to meet you anyway. As cool as the IM we exchanged was, as soon as we got on the phone the conversation felt dead. I have enough experience with JDate to know not to expend the effort to meet someone with whom any kind of initial connection is missing.
It's all part of the process. Best wishes on your quest to find a mate.
- Dillhole
Note: this was after he'd already made plans to meet me... so does this mean he was simply planning on standing me up? Don't know, and don't care at this point.
*
In other news -- things seem to be going nicely with Martin. I'm trying not to read into the fact that he just emailed me info on an event that's taking place in October with a note that read, "this looks like fun!". Nosirree, no thoughts along the lines of, "does this mean he still sees us dating then?" Nope, nothing of the sort. Just cool as a cucumber. More or less.
I have a business trip coming up -- will take a temperature when I'm back in town in a week.
Début de l'événement
02.04.2023
Fin de l'événement
02.04.2023
That’s a blood sport.
Description
When Do You Walk Away
It Is All Facebook’s Fault…
How To Be Single at Your 10 Year Reunion
Are One Night Stands Bad?
The Truth About Free Dating Sites
Writing Good Loveawake.com Emails
Taking it Slow vs Taking it Nowhere
26 Things I’ve Learned About Dating
Being Selfish in A Relationship
Signs of a Douchebag
Rules for a Skype Date
YEAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
Hugh Jackman illustrates hand:
It’s only necessary that women understand the concept of hand – job…. and other jobs of course.
Of course women know what “hand” is. They use it with each other with devastating effect all day.
Using it against men is small potatoes compared to using it against women. That’s a blood sport.
http://www.ehbonline.org/article/S1090-5138%2811%2900025-0/abstract
Men’s masculinity and attractiveness predict their female partners’ reported orgasm frequency and timing
Abstract
It Is All Facebook’s Fault…
How To Be Single at Your 10 Year Reunion
Are One Night Stands Bad?
The Truth About Free Dating Sites
Writing Good Loveawake.com Emails
Taking it Slow vs Taking it Nowhere
26 Things I’ve Learned About Dating
Being Selfish in A Relationship
Signs of a Douchebag
Rules for a Skype Date
YEAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
Hugh Jackman illustrates hand:
It’s only necessary that women understand the concept of hand – job…. and other jobs of course.
Of course women know what “hand” is. They use it with each other with devastating effect all day.
Using it against men is small potatoes compared to using it against women. That’s a blood sport.
http://www.ehbonline.org/article/S1090-5138%2811%2900025-0/abstract
Men’s masculinity and attractiveness predict their female partners’ reported orgasm frequency and timing
Abstract
Début de l'événement
27.01.2016
Fin de l'événement
27.01.2016
The Bizarre Connections Between Food Preferences and Relationship Conflicts
Description
The Surprisingly Solid Dating Advice From Kanye West
How To Please Your Mate
Rearranging The Deck Chairs On The Titanic of Love
Ridiculous Dating Advice That’s Totally True
Things Men Do That Women Probably Hate
Things I Think I’d Hate About Women If I Were a Man
What Single People Get Wrong About Marriage
Chicken Livers and Relationship Drama
Why Splitting Costs Isn't Splitting Love
The Instant Turn-Offs That Will Get You Cut Off
Food might seem like a trivial part of relationships, but it often symbolizes deeper dynamics. Conflicts over dinner choices can reveal issues like control, compromise, or differing values. Think about the vegetarian dating a steak lover—it’s not just about what’s on the plate; it’s about respecting each other’s beliefs. Even something as small as who decides where to eat can hint at power struggles or lack of communication. Then there’s the emotional side of food—comfort eating, shared meals, or clashing routines around dinner times. Solutions? Talk openly about preferences and expectations. Make room for compromise, like cooking separate dishes or rotating meal choices. Food may seem mundane, but it’s a daily opportunity to show respect, consideration, and love. After all, sharing a meal is more than sustenance—it’s about connection.
How To Please Your Mate
Rearranging The Deck Chairs On The Titanic of Love
Ridiculous Dating Advice That’s Totally True
Things Men Do That Women Probably Hate
Things I Think I’d Hate About Women If I Were a Man
What Single People Get Wrong About Marriage
Chicken Livers and Relationship Drama
Why Splitting Costs Isn't Splitting Love
The Instant Turn-Offs That Will Get You Cut Off
Food might seem like a trivial part of relationships, but it often symbolizes deeper dynamics. Conflicts over dinner choices can reveal issues like control, compromise, or differing values. Think about the vegetarian dating a steak lover—it’s not just about what’s on the plate; it’s about respecting each other’s beliefs. Even something as small as who decides where to eat can hint at power struggles or lack of communication. Then there’s the emotional side of food—comfort eating, shared meals, or clashing routines around dinner times. Solutions? Talk openly about preferences and expectations. Make room for compromise, like cooking separate dishes or rotating meal choices. Food may seem mundane, but it’s a daily opportunity to show respect, consideration, and love. After all, sharing a meal is more than sustenance—it’s about connection.
Début de l'événement
21.11.2021
Fin de l'événement
21.11.2021
The Real Reason Women Aren’t in Charge (Yet)
Description
Breaking up with someone you still actually like
First Dates You Should Never Take a Black Woman On
Why Women Should Rule The World
Do’s And Dont’s Of Making a Sex Tape
Four Reasons Why women Shouldn’t Pursue Men
Taking The Lead
Can’t Trust It: 9 Women To Avoid At All Сosts
Five Surefire Ways To Scare Her Away
I will have to agree with Belly too. That movie was so awful it was great.
Which leads me to Shottas. I love that movie. Despite the fact that the little boys in the beginning of the movie looked NOTHING like the men they grew up to be.
Reply
Me fail english? {June 22nd, 2009 at 10:52 am}
@V Renee,
“NOTHING like the men they grew up to be.”
“Weeeeeaaaaan!” (Wayne)
LMAO!! But Spragga and Kymani are so fine, I didn’t even mind. blushes
Reply
BLUNTBLAZER {June 22nd, 2009 at 12:21 pm}
@Me fail english?,
Shottas is my shiiiiiiiii also except Lennox from Belly was a lil bia-bia
Me fail english? {June 22nd, 2009 at 1:15 pm}
True. Ox was kinda lame in shottas. All layin up in the jacuzzi? Straight slippin.
Me fail english? {June 22nd, 2009 at 10:51 am}
@Nola Darling,
Speaking of State Prop, I’d like to nominate Dame Dash’s son for the world’s sorriest cameo appearance. I have never seen worst acting. And it was ONE effing line. Never before, have you witnessed such automatonicness and roboticism as when the line was uttered, “Psych, I always been fresh to death”. I thought his sprockets were gonna explode and his chassis would surely melt under the extreme heat.
On the flipside, I thought Freeway was alright.
Reply
Peysonic Temple #69 {June 22nd, 2009 at 11:34 am}
First Dates You Should Never Take a Black Woman On
Why Women Should Rule The World
Do’s And Dont’s Of Making a Sex Tape
Four Reasons Why women Shouldn’t Pursue Men
Taking The Lead
Can’t Trust It: 9 Women To Avoid At All Сosts
Five Surefire Ways To Scare Her Away
I will have to agree with Belly too. That movie was so awful it was great.
Which leads me to Shottas. I love that movie. Despite the fact that the little boys in the beginning of the movie looked NOTHING like the men they grew up to be.
Reply
Me fail english? {June 22nd, 2009 at 10:52 am}
@V Renee,
“NOTHING like the men they grew up to be.”
“Weeeeeaaaaan!” (Wayne)
LMAO!! But Spragga and Kymani are so fine, I didn’t even mind. blushes
Reply
BLUNTBLAZER {June 22nd, 2009 at 12:21 pm}
@Me fail english?,
Shottas is my shiiiiiiiii also except Lennox from Belly was a lil bia-bia
Me fail english? {June 22nd, 2009 at 1:15 pm}
True. Ox was kinda lame in shottas. All layin up in the jacuzzi? Straight slippin.
Me fail english? {June 22nd, 2009 at 10:51 am}
@Nola Darling,
Speaking of State Prop, I’d like to nominate Dame Dash’s son for the world’s sorriest cameo appearance. I have never seen worst acting. And it was ONE effing line. Never before, have you witnessed such automatonicness and roboticism as when the line was uttered, “Psych, I always been fresh to death”. I thought his sprockets were gonna explode and his chassis would surely melt under the extreme heat.
On the flipside, I thought Freeway was alright.
Reply
Peysonic Temple #69 {June 22nd, 2009 at 11:34 am}
Début de l'événement
17.10.2022
Fin de l'événement
17.10.2022
The roster is growing
Description
There’s No Such Thing as a “Good” or “Bad” Marriage
A Married Man Needs Only 3 Things From His Wife
I Am Not The Caretaker of My Marriage
10 Guilty Pleasures For Couples
The Man Behind How I Have It All
14 Ways Having Kids Affects Your Relationship
Love Rewards the Brave
The Book That Changed the Way I Look at Love
When Divorce Runs in the Family
The Silence That Can Save Your Relationship
Is It Ever OK to Lie to Your Spouse?
After a few days of contacting new guys, and writing back to guys who had previously written to me, there are six new possibilities on the line. I use the expression “possibilities” very loosely – anyone who has tried internet dating probably knows that it’s easy to have a barrage of back-and-forth e-mails with a seemingly good connection, only to have the other person disappear on you.
For now, all these guys are still in the e-mail stage, with a few numbers exchanged – except Cute Dork, who I’m meeting for the first time this weekend. I’m using “Dork” in a positive way – he seems intelligent, in a nerdy kind of way. The kind of guy who would have just been a buddy in high school, but now I find quite attractive. But from our phone conversation, it also seemed like he teeters on the edge of socially awkward -- I’ll know more after our date. He’ll be Date #96 (for new readers, that means he’s the 96th guy I’ll have dated since my last serious relationship ended two and a half years ago).
Wow – 100 is just around the corner! The Century of Dating! Any suggestions on how to celebrate / observe this occasion?
Oh – UN is still in the picture. I’m seeing him as well this weekend, though it looks like we’ll only have a chance to have a daytime date. Not quite as sexy as nighttime, but still, a good opportunity to get to know him better.
Speaking of sexy – well, to be blunt – there’s been no “SexyTime” since This Guy back in May. And let’s just say, a girl* has her needs! (*rather, a 30-something woman) On one hand, I’d like to wait til there’s someone with whom it would be meaningful… on the other hand, I’m contemplating a fling. I don’t have a fling candidate right now… but I’m keeping my eyes open.
Who knows… maybe if things develop with UN in the coming weeks…
A Married Man Needs Only 3 Things From His Wife
I Am Not The Caretaker of My Marriage
10 Guilty Pleasures For Couples
The Man Behind How I Have It All
14 Ways Having Kids Affects Your Relationship
Love Rewards the Brave
The Book That Changed the Way I Look at Love
When Divorce Runs in the Family
The Silence That Can Save Your Relationship
Is It Ever OK to Lie to Your Spouse?
After a few days of contacting new guys, and writing back to guys who had previously written to me, there are six new possibilities on the line. I use the expression “possibilities” very loosely – anyone who has tried internet dating probably knows that it’s easy to have a barrage of back-and-forth e-mails with a seemingly good connection, only to have the other person disappear on you.
For now, all these guys are still in the e-mail stage, with a few numbers exchanged – except Cute Dork, who I’m meeting for the first time this weekend. I’m using “Dork” in a positive way – he seems intelligent, in a nerdy kind of way. The kind of guy who would have just been a buddy in high school, but now I find quite attractive. But from our phone conversation, it also seemed like he teeters on the edge of socially awkward -- I’ll know more after our date. He’ll be Date #96 (for new readers, that means he’s the 96th guy I’ll have dated since my last serious relationship ended two and a half years ago).
Wow – 100 is just around the corner! The Century of Dating! Any suggestions on how to celebrate / observe this occasion?
Oh – UN is still in the picture. I’m seeing him as well this weekend, though it looks like we’ll only have a chance to have a daytime date. Not quite as sexy as nighttime, but still, a good opportunity to get to know him better.
Speaking of sexy – well, to be blunt – there’s been no “SexyTime” since This Guy back in May. And let’s just say, a girl* has her needs! (*rather, a 30-something woman) On one hand, I’d like to wait til there’s someone with whom it would be meaningful… on the other hand, I’m contemplating a fling. I don’t have a fling candidate right now… but I’m keeping my eyes open.
Who knows… maybe if things develop with UN in the coming weeks…
Début de l'événement
10.04.2023
Fin de l'événement
10.04.2023
The Truth Behind the '2:1' Black Male-Female Dating Ratio
Description
Things Every Grown Black Man Needs In His Life
The Black Dating Game
How To Stop “That” Dude From Trying To Talk To You
10 Most Common Lies People Tell in A Relationship
I’ll Be Your Pappy: The Silence of the Daddy Issues
Three Underrated Relationship Benchmarks
Why Successful Men Don’t Want To Put A Ring On it
Annoying Things Women Only Do If They’re Into You
How Every Single Young Woman Can Improve Her Luck
on October 29, 2014 at 8:18 pmthwack
“Charlize?”
that ain’t no name I ever heard of?
Is she a roon?
on October 29, 2014 at 10:51 pmMarko
for god’s sakes CH she doesn’t look that bad compared to other 35+ chicks – especially the meg ryan joker faces. you’d hit it and you know you would.
[CH: i thought we're talking about actresses? by those standards, she's toast. tbh, not sure if i'd hit 3rd pic charlize. she looks like shit in that one.]
on October 30, 2014 at 2:03 amGlengarry
Read it and weep: Charlize is more african than you.
on October 30, 2014 at 4:12 amArbiter
What a difference from The Devil’s Advocate. I have seen many women in their thirties who look better than that. I hope she’s saved up money from her movies and invested well.
She’s married to Sean Penn now apparently. I guess it doesn’t matter that he is a criminal who beat Madonna severely many times, one time for nine hours. He tied her to a chair and beat her once. Another time he beat her with a baseball bat. Where are the feminists on that one? Doesn’t matter to Charlize Theron as he’s a member of the Tribe. If you want to get somewhere in Hollywood you need Tribe connections, preferably through marriage. Or you can also adopt a Negro, like Sandra Bullock when her career petered out.
on October 30, 2014 at 4:25 am | ReplyCaramba
Oh no!Is it Charlize? Wtf has happened to my all time favourite south african bokkie?Jesus,how sad.
on October 29, 2014 at 7:56 pm | Replytacomaster2
I remember dating a 26 year old who was probably a 6.5/low 7. One day I saw a picture of her at around 19/20 and she was a solid 9. She could have easily passed as a Playboy model. The change in just those few years was dramatic to say the least. I’ve heard so many say one of the reasons to marry young is so that your husband remembers you at that early age.
The Black Dating Game
How To Stop “That” Dude From Trying To Talk To You
10 Most Common Lies People Tell in A Relationship
I’ll Be Your Pappy: The Silence of the Daddy Issues
Three Underrated Relationship Benchmarks
Why Successful Men Don’t Want To Put A Ring On it
Annoying Things Women Only Do If They’re Into You
How Every Single Young Woman Can Improve Her Luck
on October 29, 2014 at 8:18 pmthwack
“Charlize?”
that ain’t no name I ever heard of?
Is she a roon?
on October 29, 2014 at 10:51 pmMarko
for god’s sakes CH she doesn’t look that bad compared to other 35+ chicks – especially the meg ryan joker faces. you’d hit it and you know you would.
[CH: i thought we're talking about actresses? by those standards, she's toast. tbh, not sure if i'd hit 3rd pic charlize. she looks like shit in that one.]
on October 30, 2014 at 2:03 amGlengarry
Read it and weep: Charlize is more african than you.
on October 30, 2014 at 4:12 amArbiter
What a difference from The Devil’s Advocate. I have seen many women in their thirties who look better than that. I hope she’s saved up money from her movies and invested well.
She’s married to Sean Penn now apparently. I guess it doesn’t matter that he is a criminal who beat Madonna severely many times, one time for nine hours. He tied her to a chair and beat her once. Another time he beat her with a baseball bat. Where are the feminists on that one? Doesn’t matter to Charlize Theron as he’s a member of the Tribe. If you want to get somewhere in Hollywood you need Tribe connections, preferably through marriage. Or you can also adopt a Negro, like Sandra Bullock when her career petered out.
on October 30, 2014 at 4:25 am | ReplyCaramba
Oh no!Is it Charlize? Wtf has happened to my all time favourite south african bokkie?Jesus,how sad.
on October 29, 2014 at 7:56 pm | Replytacomaster2
I remember dating a 26 year old who was probably a 6.5/low 7. One day I saw a picture of her at around 19/20 and she was a solid 9. She could have easily passed as a Playboy model. The change in just those few years was dramatic to say the least. I’ve heard so many say one of the reasons to marry young is so that your husband remembers you at that early age.
Début de l'événement
12.10.2022
Fin de l'événement
28.10.2022
The Ugly Truth About Emotional Affairs
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Tasmo5 years ago
Excellent discussion and response. I am married to my best friend. We have been married 30 years and have a great relationship.
Here is the “BUT” our sex life has been virtually non existent for the lastt 10 years. It started slowing down before that but got worse the last 10. I have gotten to the point that I don’t even bother bringing it up. I have managed to quell the urge with porn for the most part. However self abuse only goes so far. I have never gone bar hopping trying for a hook up. I must say if I traveled out of state for work that that might cross my path.
My solution in the last few years is Paying for companionship. I use this option 2 maybe 3 times a year. I won’t pick up someone walking down the street. I am a member of a website that gives a sense of safety for both of us. I’ll be honest I don’t want to get caught up in a sting operation.
This solution although physically satisfying is not necessarily emotionally satisfying. I have had a few encounters with ladies who have been more satisfying than others mostly due to their intellect. Good conversation along with good sex is satisfing.
Tinder has crossed my mind but like so many men I am concerned about privacy.
I love my wife and dont want to hurt her. But damn I have a tough time with the thought I will be celibate for the next 30 or more years.
So I will continue to purchase sex when I get to the point that I just can’t stand it any more and
need a womans touch.
Mile3 years ago
Don’t feel too bad man. We’re all paying for sex one way or the other. I shudder at your situation, which is probably typical. I’ll just try to keep banging my way through it all, with the future ex-wife and maybe some of her friends!
All10Inches3 years ago
I always struggle to say what you just did without going on for pages and pages. That was the most concise and accurate explanation I’ve ever read. When I was young I would have said the problem was with the man. But now as a man married for almost 25 years, I realize that the problem is with the institution of marriage, and not with men. And I hate when people use the word “cheating”.
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Tasmo5 years ago
Excellent discussion and response. I am married to my best friend. We have been married 30 years and have a great relationship.
Here is the “BUT” our sex life has been virtually non existent for the lastt 10 years. It started slowing down before that but got worse the last 10. I have gotten to the point that I don’t even bother bringing it up. I have managed to quell the urge with porn for the most part. However self abuse only goes so far. I have never gone bar hopping trying for a hook up. I must say if I traveled out of state for work that that might cross my path.
My solution in the last few years is Paying for companionship. I use this option 2 maybe 3 times a year. I won’t pick up someone walking down the street. I am a member of a website that gives a sense of safety for both of us. I’ll be honest I don’t want to get caught up in a sting operation.
This solution although physically satisfying is not necessarily emotionally satisfying. I have had a few encounters with ladies who have been more satisfying than others mostly due to their intellect. Good conversation along with good sex is satisfing.
Tinder has crossed my mind but like so many men I am concerned about privacy.
I love my wife and dont want to hurt her. But damn I have a tough time with the thought I will be celibate for the next 30 or more years.
So I will continue to purchase sex when I get to the point that I just can’t stand it any more and
need a womans touch.
Mile3 years ago
Don’t feel too bad man. We’re all paying for sex one way or the other. I shudder at your situation, which is probably typical. I’ll just try to keep banging my way through it all, with the future ex-wife and maybe some of her friends!
All10Inches3 years ago
I always struggle to say what you just did without going on for pages and pages. That was the most concise and accurate explanation I’ve ever read. When I was young I would have said the problem was with the man. But now as a man married for almost 25 years, I realize that the problem is with the institution of marriage, and not with men. And I hate when people use the word “cheating”.
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05.02.2020
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07.03.2024
Un beau logo pour Yeswiki
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Il fallait le rafraichir, nous l'avons fait !
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Understanding Embarrassing Moments and Why He Didn’t React
Description
What It’s Like to Be a Guy
Do You Want Me To Come Over or Nah?
The Top 10 Natural PUA Film Characters
Six Fundamental Rules Of Dating
She's Out Of My League?
6 Simple Ways To Attract Guys
4 Things You Should Know About Arguing With Your Man
A Guide to Recognizing Red Flags in Online Dating
My Worst One Nite Stand Competition
Is Friend With Benefits Really Possible?
How White People Date
Letter From An Ex-Girlfriend
Seducing Someone More Attractive Than You
I let out a queef a few weeks ago in front of my boyfriend. I am mortified and can't stop thinking about it. But he hasn't said anything about it, even right after. Why??!
Is it mortifying? Mmmhhh..... yes. BUT so is balls-smell, vag smell or the look of a freezing penis; so is an escaped fart during a giggle fest at your in-laws or a pee-squirt during a hearty sneeze. Like all of these, a queef, AKA vag-fart or Airgina (c), is simply the cost of doing business on earth as a human being. We can't always be sexy and prim. This is life, not a network sitcom.
In other words, queefing sucks but if that's the horn that signals the end for you guys, then the road wasn't worth traveling. Besides, his lack of reaction could have been either his genuine lack of hearing it, his attributing the noise to something else (a garbage truck stopping short) or hopefully his belief that it was him farting. But, if it's not one of these and he chose to keep quiet- then good for him. Why put your vagina on the spot? What good could come out of making you blush bright purple. He did the right thing, in my opinion, and I wouldn't worry about him thinking you're now damaged goods. You're still you, as he is him even if he shits his boxers one day.
Do You Want Me To Come Over or Nah?
The Top 10 Natural PUA Film Characters
Six Fundamental Rules Of Dating
She's Out Of My League?
6 Simple Ways To Attract Guys
4 Things You Should Know About Arguing With Your Man
A Guide to Recognizing Red Flags in Online Dating
My Worst One Nite Stand Competition
Is Friend With Benefits Really Possible?
How White People Date
Letter From An Ex-Girlfriend
Seducing Someone More Attractive Than You
I let out a queef a few weeks ago in front of my boyfriend. I am mortified and can't stop thinking about it. But he hasn't said anything about it, even right after. Why??!
- Air. Pressure. Release. Sound. This is the stuff of aviation. And also the stuff of queefs. Why does it happen? Two reasons. Either because god is trying to mortify you or your body is trying to relieve itself of undue pressure.
Is it mortifying? Mmmhhh..... yes. BUT so is balls-smell, vag smell or the look of a freezing penis; so is an escaped fart during a giggle fest at your in-laws or a pee-squirt during a hearty sneeze. Like all of these, a queef, AKA vag-fart or Airgina (c), is simply the cost of doing business on earth as a human being. We can't always be sexy and prim. This is life, not a network sitcom.
In other words, queefing sucks but if that's the horn that signals the end for you guys, then the road wasn't worth traveling. Besides, his lack of reaction could have been either his genuine lack of hearing it, his attributing the noise to something else (a garbage truck stopping short) or hopefully his belief that it was him farting. But, if it's not one of these and he chose to keep quiet- then good for him. Why put your vagina on the spot? What good could come out of making you blush bright purple. He did the right thing, in my opinion, and I wouldn't worry about him thinking you're now damaged goods. You're still you, as he is him even if he shits his boxers one day.
Début de l'événement
13.11.2021
Fin de l'événement
13.11.2021
Un nouveau thème pour Yeswiki
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Margot, voilà le nom du nouveau thème qui sera distribué avec la prochaine version de Yeswiki
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Plus moderne, mieux pensé, plus graphiqu.
Margot permettra d'unifier les rendus graphiques des wikis.
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Unsuccessfully Loving LA – It's Halftime for Addie
Description
He Went to War and Came Back a Changed Man
Unmasking Hidden Unhappiness in Marriage
Workaholic Heartbreak: When Success Costs Your Marriage
Recession Realities: When Financial Stress Tests a Marriage
When Unemployment Tests Marriage
Movies That All Women Should See To Understand Men
Love Lies and Responsibility
The Dating Mishaps of the Ladies of Love Twenty
The Black Male Preference Privilege
Anatomy of a Great (Reality) Relationship
Your Rear End or Your Pride
Why Splitting Costs Isn't Splitting Love
(Broken) Laws of Attraction
It’s hard, you know, seeing all of your friends take your advice and ending up in successful relationships. In the past six months, I have encouraged two of my friends to try out Tinder and both of them resulted in committed relationships. I also encouraged two other friends to give their pursing guys chances and now they’re both in committed relationships… all of which have happened in the past six months while I have had a terrible track record of dating here in LA.
It’s been a long four months since my last date, when I blew through the last of my three men. Not all of them were deserving of my time, but the last one stung for sure.
I’ve learned that people approach relationships differently in LA. They have a mindset that there is always something better out there. This is true with everything about this city – food, music, entertainment, lifestyle, diets, jobs, locations, etc. Everyone is out to find the new and exciting thing first. So, it oftentimes transfers over into their love life. Most guys are non-committal and halfway-dating multiple people. Most girls are playing more than one guy.
People here are busy and not intentional with their time, unless it benefits themselves. I’ve come to the conclusion that people here in LA are, for the most part, just looking out for themselves. I was taught to put other’s before myself, and if I’m looking out for the interest of others (while they’re also looking out for themselves) who is looking out for me?
I’m learning that only I can lookout for myself. I know it sounds stupid, but I have learned that I must look twice before “crossing the road.” Aka, I can no longer be naïve, take people at their word, and I must always be on the lookout for mixed intentions.
Before living in LA, vulnerability and intentionality were on my top 10 list of things that I valued in friendships and blossoming relationships. Now those are the in the top 5 of that list.
People here are different. They’re not all bad, but they’re definitely different than southerners. I think my heart is still in recovery mode from the Holidays. Or maybe it’s just one of those seasons where I’m tired of picking myself up again. Either way, it’s halftime and Addie is taking a break.
I don’t know when I will give love another chance, but it’s definitely not anytime soon.
Until then, keep living and loving, LA!
Unmasking Hidden Unhappiness in Marriage
Workaholic Heartbreak: When Success Costs Your Marriage
Recession Realities: When Financial Stress Tests a Marriage
When Unemployment Tests Marriage
Movies That All Women Should See To Understand Men
Love Lies and Responsibility
The Dating Mishaps of the Ladies of Love Twenty
The Black Male Preference Privilege
Anatomy of a Great (Reality) Relationship
Your Rear End or Your Pride
Why Splitting Costs Isn't Splitting Love
(Broken) Laws of Attraction
It’s hard, you know, seeing all of your friends take your advice and ending up in successful relationships. In the past six months, I have encouraged two of my friends to try out Tinder and both of them resulted in committed relationships. I also encouraged two other friends to give their pursing guys chances and now they’re both in committed relationships… all of which have happened in the past six months while I have had a terrible track record of dating here in LA.
It’s been a long four months since my last date, when I blew through the last of my three men. Not all of them were deserving of my time, but the last one stung for sure.
I’ve learned that people approach relationships differently in LA. They have a mindset that there is always something better out there. This is true with everything about this city – food, music, entertainment, lifestyle, diets, jobs, locations, etc. Everyone is out to find the new and exciting thing first. So, it oftentimes transfers over into their love life. Most guys are non-committal and halfway-dating multiple people. Most girls are playing more than one guy.
People here are busy and not intentional with their time, unless it benefits themselves. I’ve come to the conclusion that people here in LA are, for the most part, just looking out for themselves. I was taught to put other’s before myself, and if I’m looking out for the interest of others (while they’re also looking out for themselves) who is looking out for me?
I’m learning that only I can lookout for myself. I know it sounds stupid, but I have learned that I must look twice before “crossing the road.” Aka, I can no longer be naïve, take people at their word, and I must always be on the lookout for mixed intentions.
Before living in LA, vulnerability and intentionality were on my top 10 list of things that I valued in friendships and blossoming relationships. Now those are the in the top 5 of that list.
People here are different. They’re not all bad, but they’re definitely different than southerners. I think my heart is still in recovery mode from the Holidays. Or maybe it’s just one of those seasons where I’m tired of picking myself up again. Either way, it’s halftime and Addie is taking a break.
I don’t know when I will give love another chance, but it’s definitely not anytime soon.
Until then, keep living and loving, LA!
Début de l'événement
20.03.2023
Fin de l'événement
20.03.2023
Visite apprenante de Carav'alim
Description
Carav'alim est un mouvement d'éducation populaire pour le droit à l'alimentation. Il a vocation à accueillir, fédérer et soutenir les projets, initiatives et collectifs qui oeuvrent pour l'accès de tou·tes à une alimentation digne et durable et agissent avec les personnes concernées par les injustices du système alimentaire.
Le mouvement Carav'alim se donne pour horizon le droit à l'alimentation. Il y contribue en renforçant les mobilisations citoyennes qui visent à répondre aux injustices du système alimentaire, avec les premiers et premières concerné·es, dans une démarche d'éducation populaire.
Visite apprenante : c'est-à-dire ?
Ces rencontres, le plus souvent sur 2 jours et accueillies sur différents territoires, contiennent plusieurs ingrédients :
- RENCONTRE ET INSPIRATION : découverte d'initiatives inspirantes
- PARTAGE D'EXPERIENCE et INTELLIGENCE COLLECTIVE : ateliers pour croiser les regards, résoudre des problèmes et partager des expériences, à partir de situations concrètes
- MONTEE EN COMPETENCE : comment exprimer et écouter les injustices alimentaires vécues, s'approprier les enjeux de l'alimentation, construire des propositions pour notre alimentation...
- SOUTIEN AUX DYNAMIQUES ET ALLIANCES TERRITORIALES en faveur du droit à l'alimentation
- CONVIVIALITE
Le programme de chaque visite est spécifique à chacune d'entre elles et co-construit avec le(s) groupe(s) co-organisateur(s).
A qui s'adressent les visites apprenantes ?
Les visites apprenantes de Carav'alim sont ouvertes aux groupes et acteurs du territoire concerné, mais également aux membres du mouvement Carav'alim quelle que soit leur situation géographique.
Elles s'adressent en premier lieu à des groupes qui sont engagés dans une démarche autour de l'accès à l'alimentation et de la démocratie alimentaire (et en priorité aux groupes membres de Carav'alim). Les inscriptions à plusieurs sont tout à fait possibles et encouragées.
Les rencontres sont ouvertes à tou-tes : salarié-es, bénévoles, personnes accueillies, paysan·es, etc.
Le mouvement Carav'alim se donne pour horizon le droit à l'alimentation. Il y contribue en renforçant les mobilisations citoyennes qui visent à répondre aux injustices du système alimentaire, avec les premiers et premières concerné·es, dans une démarche d'éducation populaire.
Visite apprenante : c'est-à-dire ?
Ces rencontres, le plus souvent sur 2 jours et accueillies sur différents territoires, contiennent plusieurs ingrédients :
- RENCONTRE ET INSPIRATION : découverte d'initiatives inspirantes
- PARTAGE D'EXPERIENCE et INTELLIGENCE COLLECTIVE : ateliers pour croiser les regards, résoudre des problèmes et partager des expériences, à partir de situations concrètes
- MONTEE EN COMPETENCE : comment exprimer et écouter les injustices alimentaires vécues, s'approprier les enjeux de l'alimentation, construire des propositions pour notre alimentation...
- SOUTIEN AUX DYNAMIQUES ET ALLIANCES TERRITORIALES en faveur du droit à l'alimentation
- CONVIVIALITE
Le programme de chaque visite est spécifique à chacune d'entre elles et co-construit avec le(s) groupe(s) co-organisateur(s).
A qui s'adressent les visites apprenantes ?
Les visites apprenantes de Carav'alim sont ouvertes aux groupes et acteurs du territoire concerné, mais également aux membres du mouvement Carav'alim quelle que soit leur situation géographique.
Elles s'adressent en premier lieu à des groupes qui sont engagés dans une démarche autour de l'accès à l'alimentation et de la démocratie alimentaire (et en priorité aux groupes membres de Carav'alim). Les inscriptions à plusieurs sont tout à fait possibles et encouragées.
Les rencontres sont ouvertes à tou-tes : salarié-es, bénévoles, personnes accueillies, paysan·es, etc.
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26.06.2025
Fin de l'événement
27.06.2025
Webinaire - Démocratie alimentaire
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Concrètement quelles expérimentations de sécurité sociale de l’alimentation sont mises en place par les monnaies locales ? La Gonette, qui circule dans le Rhône, et la Doume, qui circule dans le Puy-de-Dôme pourront toutes deux évoquer les expérimentations en cours sur leur territoire. Et nous pourrons imaginer ensemble la place des AMAP dans de telles expérimentations !
➡️ RDV le 11 octobre de 19h à 20h30 pour en savoir plus sur les objectifs et l’utilisation des Monnaies Locales, leurs expérimentations en cours, poser toutes vos questions et faire évoluer les partenariats entre AMAP et MLC sur votre territoire 🙂
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Concrètement quelles expérimentations de sécurité sociale de l’alimentation sont mises en place par les monnaies locales ? La Gonette, qui circule dans le Rhône, et la Doume, qui circule dans le Puy-de-Dôme pourront toutes deux évoquer les expérimentations en cours sur leur territoire. Et nous pourrons imaginer ensemble la place des AMAP dans de telles expérimentations !
➡️ RDV le 11 octobre de 19h à 20h30 pour en savoir plus sur les objectifs et l’utilisation des Monnaies Locales, leurs expérimentations en cours, poser toutes vos questions et faire évoluer les partenariats entre AMAP et MLC sur votre territoire 🙂
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Webinaire « AMAP et monnaies locales : quels partenariats pour permettre l’accès de tous et toutes à une alimentation durable ? »
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Le réseau AMAP AURA en partenariat avec les Monnaies Locales de la région vous propose un temps d’échange le mercredi 11 octobre de 19h à 20h30 sur le thème :
« AMAP et monnaies locales : quels partenariats pour permettre l’accès de tous et toutes à une alimentation durable ? » 🍅🥕
De plus en plus d’AMAP souhaitent intégrer leur monnaie locale, mais se posent des questions pratiques : comment les AMAPien·nes et paysan·nes peuvent-ils intégrer le réseau des Monnaies Locales ? Payer un contrat en AMAP en monnaie locale : pourquoi, comment et quels intérêts pour les paysans et paysannes et pour les MLC ? 🔍
Concrètement quelles expérimentations de sécurité sociale de l’alimentation sont mises en place par les monnaies locales ? La Gonette, qui circule dans le Rhône, et la Doume, qui circule dans le Puy-de-Dôme pourront toutes deux évoquer les expérimentations en cours sur leur territoire. Et nous pourrons imaginer ensemble la place des AMAP dans de telles expérimentations !
➡️ RDV le 11 octobre de 19h à 20h30 pour en savoir plus sur les objectifs et l’utilisation des Monnaies Locales, leurs expérimentations en cours, poser toutes vos questions et faire évoluer les partenariats entre AMAP et MLC sur votre territoire 🙂
« AMAP et monnaies locales : quels partenariats pour permettre l’accès de tous et toutes à une alimentation durable ? » 🍅🥕
De plus en plus d’AMAP souhaitent intégrer leur monnaie locale, mais se posent des questions pratiques : comment les AMAPien·nes et paysan·nes peuvent-ils intégrer le réseau des Monnaies Locales ? Payer un contrat en AMAP en monnaie locale : pourquoi, comment et quels intérêts pour les paysans et paysannes et pour les MLC ? 🔍
Concrètement quelles expérimentations de sécurité sociale de l’alimentation sont mises en place par les monnaies locales ? La Gonette, qui circule dans le Rhône, et la Doume, qui circule dans le Puy-de-Dôme pourront toutes deux évoquer les expérimentations en cours sur leur territoire. Et nous pourrons imaginer ensemble la place des AMAP dans de telles expérimentations !
➡️ RDV le 11 octobre de 19h à 20h30 pour en savoir plus sur les objectifs et l’utilisation des Monnaies Locales, leurs expérimentations en cours, poser toutes vos questions et faire évoluer les partenariats entre AMAP et MLC sur votre territoire 🙂
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What Not to Say in Your Online Dating Profile
Description
A Simpler Guide to Single Men
Top 10 Signs He Is Cheating On You
Check Out Girls Without Getting Caught
10 Steps to Get Over Your Ex
How To: Forget Your Dating Check List
A Female Player's Strategy: The Preemptive Strike
It's Okay To Be Needy
Why Klutzy Women Are Attractive
How Being A Bitch Can Save Your Love Life
Men Play Dating Games Too
I said that "women get sexual attention from total strangers the MOST" out of all kinds of attention a person could get....
While men get sexual attention LAST (or the least) after all other kinds of attention a person could get....
Men assume women must LOVE the physical/sexual compliments and attention because they would enjoy it for themselves.
Those men are wrong.
Women wish that men would compliment all her other attributes and not even mention anything sexual to her because THAT would be something new that she'd enjoy for herself.
As long as you are thinking like a man, pretending women are dressing "for you and your attention", and are obsessing about sex first....you're going to keep failing in dating and women in general.
Women get plenty of sexual attention and most really don't want more of it unless it's a man we already know and love/care for.
But, sure if you guys want to crucify me saying what I think, whatever...I'm not the one looking for advice on dating and I was just offering an honest female opinion.
If you want to believe that "men know better what women want than women do" that's fine, but that's why men need PUA junk in the first place.
Two recent observations about male-female interaction.
Know a middle age couple. Him, the last word in a beta male way. Nice guy, small, retiring, intelligent, educated, not wealthy. Her, about his size, more earthy and sensual and outgoing.
Learned that her first marriage was to a bad boy who beat her. He turned into a stalker for a while, and young from his lifestyle. Looks like she freaked out from that and went all the way the other way with her new husband. Not sure how many stops she had before and after the bad boy before she “settled.” Typical female behavior as so well explained by him. These are both educated people.
I went to an appliance store over the Memorial Day weekend. Big sale on expensive washers and driers. I was only there for about 20 minutes, but I saw at least four youngish couples seriously looking over those nice front loading washers with companion driers. Prices starting at $1200 for both. The female 1/2 was obviously the instigator in each case. Now, here is the question.
Is this a shit test, making a young husband buy her an expensive washer/drier (or whatever) in an economy where everybody is afraid the ax might fall on them next? Should an alpha husband simply say no, we can be just as clean at less than half the price? Is she trying to show off to her friends, showing them what a high priced whore she is?
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I said that "women get sexual attention from total strangers the MOST" out of all kinds of attention a person could get....
While men get sexual attention LAST (or the least) after all other kinds of attention a person could get....
Men assume women must LOVE the physical/sexual compliments and attention because they would enjoy it for themselves.
Those men are wrong.
Women wish that men would compliment all her other attributes and not even mention anything sexual to her because THAT would be something new that she'd enjoy for herself.
As long as you are thinking like a man, pretending women are dressing "for you and your attention", and are obsessing about sex first....you're going to keep failing in dating and women in general.
Women get plenty of sexual attention and most really don't want more of it unless it's a man we already know and love/care for.
But, sure if you guys want to crucify me saying what I think, whatever...I'm not the one looking for advice on dating and I was just offering an honest female opinion.
If you want to believe that "men know better what women want than women do" that's fine, but that's why men need PUA junk in the first place.
Two recent observations about male-female interaction.
Know a middle age couple. Him, the last word in a beta male way. Nice guy, small, retiring, intelligent, educated, not wealthy. Her, about his size, more earthy and sensual and outgoing.
Learned that her first marriage was to a bad boy who beat her. He turned into a stalker for a while, and young from his lifestyle. Looks like she freaked out from that and went all the way the other way with her new husband. Not sure how many stops she had before and after the bad boy before she “settled.” Typical female behavior as so well explained by him. These are both educated people.
I went to an appliance store over the Memorial Day weekend. Big sale on expensive washers and driers. I was only there for about 20 minutes, but I saw at least four youngish couples seriously looking over those nice front loading washers with companion driers. Prices starting at $1200 for both. The female 1/2 was obviously the instigator in each case. Now, here is the question.
Is this a shit test, making a young husband buy her an expensive washer/drier (or whatever) in an economy where everybody is afraid the ax might fall on them next? Should an alpha husband simply say no, we can be just as clean at less than half the price? Is she trying to show off to her friends, showing them what a high priced whore she is?
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…i dont see how you can’t at least acknowledge this exaggerated freakishness when putting their legacy in context.
mj aside, his situation sheds a bit more light on the perception phenomenon discussed yesterday. while we don’t have definitive control over how we’ll be remembered, we can control what we remember about everyone else. you can even argue that our conscious choice to only recognize the positive aspects of a person’s life is our most desperate hope that this same luxury is extended to us.
thing is, whether you view this type of projection as practical or pathetic, you can’t argue the fact that there’s no bigger affront to what makes us fully human and no more disingenuous way to recall a person’s life…especially when you consider that our deeds usually come from the exact same place as our demons.
this is supremely true in regards to celebrities. the same visceral fervor that made tupac iconic basically killed him before his 26th birthday, and the hyper creative eccentricity that made mike moonwalk also contributed to his multiple self-mutilations, arrested development, and early death.
omitting these facts actually downplay and dishonor their accomplishments. there’s no such thing as an adversity-less icon. how can you fully appreciate malcolm x without being completely aware of malcolm little, and what future relevance would “black or white” hold without knowing that the song’s architect was actively attempting to be both black and white
i realize that this isn’t the most popular line of thinking, that some will see this as (at best) tactless and (at worst) malicious, and that its (extremely) presumptuous to tell someone how they should remember a person. still, this isn’t about michael jackson as much as my fascination with our peculiar reliance on technicolor memories. i just happen to prefer HD.
you know, with all this being said, i still hope that the half-page obit in the pittsburgh post-gazette honoring my (eventual) passing chooses not to include a half paragraph burb on my (future) infidelities and (present) p*rn addiction. lol, i guess i’m not so special after all.
on second thought… it might not be the worst thing in the world. at least it’d show i was human, and i think mike would have wanted the same thing.
don’t be mad at me, though. i can’t help it, and even if i could, i probably wouldn’t. it seems like it’d be too time-consuming
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Two Surefire Ways To Ensure Your Happiness
Dating Mistake That Educated Women Make
Living Together Before Marriage Is A Good Idea?
The Secret to Male Happiness
…i dont see how you can’t at least acknowledge this exaggerated freakishness when putting their legacy in context.
mj aside, his situation sheds a bit more light on the perception phenomenon discussed yesterday. while we don’t have definitive control over how we’ll be remembered, we can control what we remember about everyone else. you can even argue that our conscious choice to only recognize the positive aspects of a person’s life is our most desperate hope that this same luxury is extended to us.
thing is, whether you view this type of projection as practical or pathetic, you can’t argue the fact that there’s no bigger affront to what makes us fully human and no more disingenuous way to recall a person’s life…especially when you consider that our deeds usually come from the exact same place as our demons.
this is supremely true in regards to celebrities. the same visceral fervor that made tupac iconic basically killed him before his 26th birthday, and the hyper creative eccentricity that made mike moonwalk also contributed to his multiple self-mutilations, arrested development, and early death.
omitting these facts actually downplay and dishonor their accomplishments. there’s no such thing as an adversity-less icon. how can you fully appreciate malcolm x without being completely aware of malcolm little, and what future relevance would “black or white” hold without knowing that the song’s architect was actively attempting to be both black and white
i realize that this isn’t the most popular line of thinking, that some will see this as (at best) tactless and (at worst) malicious, and that its (extremely) presumptuous to tell someone how they should remember a person. still, this isn’t about michael jackson as much as my fascination with our peculiar reliance on technicolor memories. i just happen to prefer HD.
you know, with all this being said, i still hope that the half-page obit in the pittsburgh post-gazette honoring my (eventual) passing chooses not to include a half paragraph burb on my (future) infidelities and (present) p*rn addiction. lol, i guess i’m not so special after all.
on second thought… it might not be the worst thing in the world. at least it’d show i was human, and i think mike would have wanted the same thing.
don’t be mad at me, though. i can’t help it, and even if i could, i probably wouldn’t. it seems like it’d be too time-consuming
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